I have been a stepmother for 11 years, I have two stepdaughters. I came into their lives when they were 8 and 11 years old. My husband had shared custody (50/50) of the girls and they are presently adults (both in college) and they go wherever they want to go. It has not always been easy however I do have wonderful relationships with both of them. I do not have any children of my own therefore I've devoted all my time to them. There has been a few struggles between myself and their biologic mother, although we talk to each other, there seems to be some jealousy issues at times. I just try my best not to let it get to me and continue devoting my time and energy to my stepdaughters!!