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I Have A Lot To Say...and People May Not Like It!!!!

I love EP....I do, but then you run into some of the most down right mean people. I had I posted under the section some people just shouldn't have children... anyways I had posted a story about my experience. My step child was abused by her Mom very bad, that is why I come to EP I am looking for support and stories from people and ways to help myself cope. So this person had commented going off saying that I am not her Mom I need to mind my own and that it is stupid to go to court and spend 1000's on a lawyer because at the end of the day she is always going to love her mom and you are just "her friend".... really? Love her mom who could do unspeakable things to her..... Love the Mom who hasn't called her in a year? Seen her in a year? E-mailed us in a year to see how she was doing or how her consoling is going? My point exactly some people should not have kids. It put me in such a sore mood for the day because I was looking for support, not for someone to tell me that what she did was fine.... I am just in such a bad mood now.
northernlightsalaska333 northernlightsalaska333 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 19, 2012

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Hi, My story has alot of similarities, including the court ect. We won a better life for 2 young girls but the drama never ends. Hang in there and good luck with your battle. Don't let people who don't understand get you down, it's a unique situation just trust your instincts and get strength from the fact others are out there that are surviving and getting strength from you words .....

Thank you so much for your kind words. I could not agree more...I think EP should be a great place to learn from one another and help each other threw the pain, joy, sadness, or being overwhelmed not to just tare each other down! <br />
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Everything you said hits the nail right on the head and I could not agree more! I am really excited you have came to EP I think you and I have a lot in common and it's nice to see that there are people out there that want to make the best of the this site :)

When I first came to this site (and maybe it was your thread and that comment I read) I was so turned off by the toxic vile I came across. I came here for support, not negative, vindictiveness. Through compassion all humans can be healed, or at least understood. We are not perfect beings. I am not inclined to open up here as I'm sure I would be 1. misunderstood and 2. might not be prepared to deflect any of the bitter, toxic comment and weed through them.<br />
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I hope everyone learns about healing their pain and can help others learn too. This road of step parenting is a hard one that I'm trying to figure out. My SD was not allowed to process her parent's divorce and now we are trying to work through her anger. I'm at a loss sometimes but try to find my way through it with love and compassion. Hell, I was a step child I should understand her pain best. It wasn't until my early 30s that I realized the pain of what my inner self translated as "abandonment" from my mother when my Step dad moved in. <br />
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These children have no tools, we are not born with tools to deal with this type of trauma. Read Necessary Losses to understand what children go through when their mom remarries. As adults we should do everything possible to seek the help and understanding needed in order to help these little humans heals. Oh how hard that is! Love and Light to all.

No one knows your situation. The emotions are difficult if not impossible to convey. All one can do is to continue to follow one's moral compass, and remember that though we may be hard to find, those with empathy and compassion do exist. Stay strong.