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End Of My Rope

I have been with my fiancé for 4 years and our relationship is awesome. The only problem is his son. He never makes him do anything and he literally plays video games from the time he wakes up to the time he goes to bed. I have tried to enforce chores, playing outside and activities but he wants nothin to do with anything and his Dad thinks they are friends. He doesn't know how to parent and he is not doing his son any favors. I'm scared bcuz I love him but I would never raise my child like that.
Bpike Bpike 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 2, 2012

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Sadly, as step parents, we only have the ability to influence and guide these children if their bio parents are supportive.

Before you frustrate yourself to the point where the situation becomes unbearable, you need to talk to your fiance about house rules, parenting, etc... before you get married.

If your fiance isn't going to actually take on the role of a parent, then you will end up fighting an uphill battle of wills with both his son and him. Because you can guide, mentor, enforce rules until you are blue in the face, but Daddy is going to end up
just going behind you and undoing all the parenting you are doing.