Too many stories I've heard & read about this & I've been praying that it won't happen to me. But lately, I'm feeling tired & bored with my relationship with my husband. We've been together for just 6 mos. & everything becomes duller for me already. Part of it is our arguments about his 2 kids from his previous marriage. I may be jealous in a way on how he loves them which I think is too much. They still sleep with us on our bed, they're 6 & 4 year olds. I've been talking to him before we got married that I want them moved. His mom advised him too. She told him that it's unfair for me if he'd still have the kids with us in the bed. But 6 mos. have passed but nothing has changed, not even a slight improvement. His kids would cry if they wake up in the middle of the night & find out that their dad's back is on them. We fought one time because he hated it that I gave him an ultimatum that if they're still not moved to their own room, I'll be the one to move to another room.
Another thing is his way of justifying things everytime his kids, do something unacceptable such as complaining when they're asked to clean up their mess, or by being greedy over food. Our arguments are if not all but mostly about his kids. Another reason is the lack of excitement. We barely have time for each other because he said going out costs money & number 2, he doesn't trust the kids to babysitters. Another thing is I hate it when he forces me (which he thinks he doesn't) to play or teach his kids. His other kid's just 4 yrs old & since I'm not working yet, he withdrew him from his daycare & it seems to me that he's making it my obligation to teach him at home. I do it sometimes but there are times too which I couldn't especially if I am busy with household chores. 2 preschoolers plus a husband who are not used to have an organized house are a handful. Even if he doesn't say it directly, but I know he's disheartened if I don't do it with his kid & I feel stressed out. I've tried talking to him regarding these matter but we always just end up having an argument & disappointed with each other & days of almost ignoring each other. I'm so tired & sick of this already & I feel like giving up. I love him but I think that there's no reason to go on if I'm always feeling this way. For 28 yrs, I've been carefree & independent. I live by myself, & now, my life's totally the opposite of what I was once before. It wouldn't be hard for me if my husband's only open to my suggestions.