I Am A Strict Mom

My Question

By: Lisa1971

Written on September 14th, 2012

I have a question to how you would handle this scenario in their home. Last school year there was a mom at our moms group you had a daughter in public school. Her daughter was 12 she asked her every night is your homework done and shed say yes mom. One night mom got a call from school that her daughter had 8 missing homework assignments. My number one I would be upset the school didn't call sooner but that aside.
You can message my inbox but many moms disagreed on how they'd handle it. If you don't want to write on here that's fine message me. How would you handle this in your home? The mom just made her get caught up no punishment.
Thanks for your time
Bless you
Lisa

By: Lisa1971

Age: 41-45 , Female

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54 responses

spankedfordiscipline

When I was growing up I would have been spanked by my parents for lying, and would also almost certainly have been spanked at school for missing multiple assignments, probably in the main office. My own kids never tried anything like this but they would have been spanked if they did.

6 days ago
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Dianespanks

The girl lied about her homework. My kids get spanked for lying.

6 days ago
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michman01

the girl would have had a blistered bottom for lying. simple

May 11
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MaryJanine

My mother had this problem with my youngest brother- so many days off a week. Now he has the same situation with his son, 15 and a high school freshman. One of the teachers called him and said if the son didn't start going to school more, he was going to call the parents in to a meeting. My brother took him over to the grandparents' house -they live in the same district - and left him there until the end of the school year. Ryne doesn't pull anything with the grandparents - Grandpa won't stand for it.

Mar 21
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alfred2219

It is absolutely essential to understand how she got into this predicament. Punishment is likely to be a huge error, depending on what is at the root of the behavior. You don't want her to hate learning and school. They should be fun, inspiring, and not the source of a sort bottom!

Mar 21
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jvcs

i would have a good talk with her and then spank her for telling lies and have the teachers send a note home with her to say if she has done her home work from then on i had this problem with one of my boys

Mar 20
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vivstrp

i am also in favor of hair brush or belt (moderationof course) to get the point across.

Mar 12
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carolyn1977

Read my EP post of what I did when my daughter failed to complete and report then tried to fake being sick to miss school the day it was due. The synopsis of that post is she had a very sore tush before and afterschool.

Mar 12
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BadPam

I had the same situation with my 16 year old daughter. She said she had all her homework done, and the teacher reported to me that her assignments were missing. For that, she got 36 lashes on the family spanking stool, for lying to me. They were not very hard lashes, but they did indeed get the message across, via her bare hind end!

Mar 12
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- alfred2219
  How was the number 36 set? An unusual number since it is not 6 and not a multiple of her age.
  
  Mar 22
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- BadPam
  I did it by dozens, like in the old British Navy. Usually the girls got from fifteen to twenty lashes, sometimes two dozen. As I said, they were not very hard but made the girls feel really foolish to have to bend over the stool and stick out their heinies. The strap made more noise than pain, which were slight stings. I kept an eye on their cheeks, which turned a light pink, and they could sit down just fine afterward. I never wanted my girls to go through what my sisters and I did, with swollen behinds and the inability to sit for days. Hence this token spanking.
  
  May 11
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- alfred2219
  Brava! The perfect way to make spanking part of a learning experience that doesn't lead to problems later in life.
  
  May 11
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- BadPam
  I would say that my girls are pretty well-adjusted. They took their spankings well, and sometimes they would set up the Spanking Stool and fetch me when they were ready--even without my telling them! They knew they had to pay a penalty, just as I knew when I was a girl. Except, of course, mine were a lot more painful!
  
  May 12
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ardentgent

An old fashioned spanking would be in order.

Mar 1
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carolyn1977

If you want to see how I handle that situation, please read my last two posts on EP about what happened yesterday to my daughter. If you would like to chat about it please message me.
Carolyn

Feb 28
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- Lisa1971
  Carolyn
  Thank you for sharing. Sounds like for the immediate future atleast, your daughter will have her homework done.
  Bless you
  Lisa
  
  Feb 28
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AngieHolbrook

It's strange: a lot of the answers here stress the importance of honesty, but in my experience, the majority of adults lie to each other on a regular basis, especially when they think it will benefit them in some way. I'd say that most of them were spanked as children, as the practice was pretty common in the past. Hell, I know for fact that my parents lied on their tax forms for years, and yet they were both brought up in a traditional manner. Do you honestly believe that spanking a person as a child will prevent them from lying as an adult?

Jan 29
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- JennaR
  Not always. We may be raised to know right from wrong, but in the end each person must decide for themselves. I think most kids will lie at some point to avoid punishment of any kind. They also will to avoid disapproval from parents.
  I am sorry your parents made a habit of lying on their taxes, this behavior teaches kids it is ok to lie. I think you have to live the way you are teaching your children or they will learn to behave the way you do.
  There is far more to parenting than just discipline. Unfortunately many adults don't behave they way they expect their children to.
  
  Jan 31
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- AngieHolbrook
  Well, it sort of begs the question: if spanking doesn't automatically prevent a child lying, why bother doing it?
  
  Feb 1
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- Firedog713
  Carolyn could you add me I would love to be able to read your stoories and how you handle things. :)
  
  Mar 1
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- alfred2219
  I think harsh spankings for lying are totally wrong. They induce more lying and they leave the underlying communication problem and substantive issue un-addressed. I agree with AngieH on this. They almost never put an end to lying and they tend to be, as just noted, counterproductive. Furthermore, almost every parent claims to know when their child is lying and so they should just catch them as it is happening and request, very firmly, that they revise their false or deceptive assertion.
  
  Mar 8
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redrum7

Dishonesty would be an automatic spanking. Lying to my face would mean getting the mouth washed out with soap and then getting her bare bottom blistered. I have done this to my oldest daughter when she was 16 for lying about her homework.

Jan 29
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- AngieHolbrook
  With any luck, she'll be smart enough never to to let you near her kids after she starts a family. Jeezus, judging by some of the comments on this thread, I wouldn't trust any of you around a child.
  
  Jan 29
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blissfulmiss

We'd have a big serious talk about the importance of honesty and being able to trust her. How disappointed I am and why did she do it. Then a good grounding and would have to watch her closely and make it known you're watching and how you wish you could trust her....

Jan 29
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JonsgoodgirlsHOH

I would give a good spanking for lying and neglecting her homework. Then I would have her do her homework where I could watch her and check it once she finished. Missing homework impacts grades, so she would also have her fun activities cut back until her grades improved.

Jan 14
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randy1777

I just joined this group randy1777;I was never spanked;
I thought of asking a mother to spank me. Is this wise?
WRITE.randy1777.

Jan 13
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nickir

I would have had to spank her with a paddle for not doing homework. I would also spank or cane her for lying. Because the spankings would have to be long & hard, they would probably be given over several days.
You need to teach a real firm lesson about lying, so that you don't have to check up on everything that she says for the next 10 years. Also, if she is really worried about being caught in a lie, she will probably give some sign (like hesitation) when she's not truthful.

Jan 13
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JaneCollins88

My mom definitely would have spanked me for that and I wouldnt have blamed her.

Jan 8
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- alfred2219
  Would she? Or would she have just know you well enough to interrupt you and ask for a more complete version of whatever you were saying?
  
  Mar 8
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jvcs

lying is not allowed with my kids and a good spanking is always the done thing

Dec 24, 2012
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MichelleAnneWaters

Paddle her

Dec 19, 2012
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Inside3222

For the parents out there, spanking? Dude, I'm 12 and I never got punished. I even got the strictest grandma in the world but, my Dad is an angel to me and my Mom, not so much but she'd never spank me. No one in my family would spank so, to the parents who think spanking is the right choice, even with a ******* hairbrush, I say to you, I hope your child abandons you because that's wrong. **** you strict parents.

Dec 19, 2012
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Danielle772

for me when I was younger and after my dad had died of cancer I started lying to my mother about homework. But after the school called and my mother took me into my room and spanked me bare bottom. I was also required to do all my homework in the kitchen when I had it to do. Plus after I had done it I was required to show it to her. All the spankings I got hurt and it did help me to understand. I am much older today but I am so happy my mother took the time to teach me from right and wrong. Spankings are never fun but they do help me. Lisa stick to your guns and teach your daughters they'll learn.

Dec 12, 2012
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amy36

My daughters know not to lie to their parents. They have been spanked before good with the brush, and will be again if they do. And the lie wont do anything for the punishment for not doing the homework.

Nov 3, 2012
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boeing707

very nice

Nov 1, 2012
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KendraBlack

I am a mother of two and a retired school teacher. I would have told the teacher when she called that any time she misses an assignment I would like to know. I would spank her for lying to me and inform her that from now on that any time she misses an assignment she will be spanked.

Oct 29, 2012
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LauraHorton

I like the idea of having teacher sign her assignment book each day. As for the lying, I'd have that child over my knee for a hairbrush spanking, one or more, and she wouldn't sit for a few days.

Oct 6, 2012
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AngieHolbrook

As far as I'm concerned, nobody should be required to do homework, so I would have told the school administrator to **** off and mind her own business. Damned schools have too much control over children's lives as it is, where do they get off trying to force their sh**ty rules on people after hours? **** them and the horse they rode in on.

Oct 5, 2012
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- AngieHolbrook
  And I'd have you arrested for sexual assault you f***ing pervert. BTW: this being a free country, I can express myself any way I chose, so you can eat s*** and die, *******.
  
  Oct 31, 2012
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- pcasper59
  This is sure a poor attitude and way to look at things. We all have rules and laws to follow and it's not easy at times! If the child can't succeed at school...then there is no hopes for them as adults other than being this weeks model inmate at the county jail!
  
  Oct 31, 2012
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- AngieHolbrook
  Are you seriously trying to tell me that our prisons are full of people who were never spanked during childhood? If so, you'd just be plain wrong. Statistics show that the majority of convicted felons were subjected to corporal discipline as children - but it didn't keep them out of prison, did it?
  
  Jan 29
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pamelamc

I am a mom and a teacher, so, as a teacher, I would have already notified you by 2 or 3 missing assignments. As a mom, I would have spanked her for her lying and disobedience since completing homework is a rule in our house.

Oct 3, 2012
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Lisa1971

Thank you all for you input and anyone else who wants to comment is still welcome to. I would have been very upset for the lying and spanked for that and taken away her phone till all homework was caught up.
Thanks again
Lisa

Sep 23, 2012
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JennaR

At 12 I would most definitely discipline that child. This is the last chance before High School. If you do not have control now it is only going to get worse. If you do maintain control now HS is going to go much better.
Spanking for lying, and for getting behind. Or just for lying and some other punishment for getting behind depending on the child. But Lying is a big one and demands a spanking. It is not too late to go back and say, I am sorry I should not have let this go, You need to be punished for this. For your own good.

Sep 21, 2012
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- LauraHorton
  Spanking has great value in that it isn't a punishment that last forever. It gets done, though it may be a very hard and long one, and it is done. Then there is forgiveness. Time-outs just don't work well in my experience. You have her undivided attention while applying that hairbrush to her bottom. I would give several spankings for lying 8 times, possibly 8. I'd leave enough time between each one for her bottom to recover. In a way that may sound cruel, but it is a lot less cruel than juvenile detention later and who knows what after that?
  
  Oct 10, 2012
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- vicariousone
  I agree. Each missed homework assignment is the equivalent of a lie and so the girl has earned 8 spankings. After that series of spankings it should be a very long time before the young lady misses another homework assignment.
  
  Nov 12, 2012
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- AngieHolbrook
  Sorry, what makes you think that spanking will keep a child out of juvie? From what I've read, our detention centers are full of kids who were spanked by their parents or guardians. Are you seriously claiming that there are no spanked children in juvie?
  
  Jan 29
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