A Brief Definition

I am a strong woman.  I state it with no apology or explanation.

 

I don't need anyone to provide for me, take care of me or make decisions for me.

I am self-sufficent.  I am fine on my own. 

All that knowledge of the woman I've grown to be has it's limitations.  It's difficult to ask for help or support when I need it.  It is the great equalizer of all people.  No man is an island.  Neither is a woman.

A strong woman is secure enough to admit she doesn't have all the answers. 

A strong woman uses that same hand she reaches out to others offering her assistance ... to reach out and ask for help herself.

A strong woman knows she's beautiful ...  her flaws & imperfections are simply part of her unique design.

SeriouslySappy SeriouslySappy
51-55, F
21 Responses Mar 11, 2010

you are a great inspiration, thank you so much for helping me to realize i can always strive to do better

No apologies needed. Very well said.

Thanks LilDawn. I think it's really important we be our own strongest cheerleaders. There are enough people in the world who would be more than happy to tear you down, we don't need to make it easier for them. I think the greatest gift that's come with age is a certain perspective. Like seeing the media for what it is ... a giant marketing system. I don't feel the need to conform anymore. I'm very much the take it or leave it type, with no apologies.

AMEN to that sappy.....especially the last two lines<br />
None of us is perfect, and no amount of makeup, or surgery, will change that<br />
if we could just see the uniqueness in our indivisual design, and appericate them<br />
instead of the constant battle to be like everyone else.<br />
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.....loving yourself unconditionally is your greatest strength.....

Mizz,<br />
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What a lovely comment, thank you. You know, I admire you also. You are a great friend! : )

Sappy<br />
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You are a very strong woman, it's integral to who you are and, as always, you sum it up perfectly in your story. You know I admire you greatly:)<br />
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Mizz x

Blissy ... * hugs*<br />
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Red, I don't know what it is about us that makes reaching out for help ourselves so difficult. Maybe it's just that we get so used to being self reliant, we come to expect too much of ourselves. It's a lesson I'm still working on learning.

Great post Sappy. I know exactly what you mean. It's the hardest thing for me to reach out now and ask for help. I think EP has helped me overcome some of that... even still it's something that wrenches at me to do.

thanks hon ... it's mutual!

Blissy ... I've been out of the loop too long here! I just now read it again & the comments. I've gained much from EP and am so lucky to have a friend in you !

Hi sappy - just found this story again when I needed to read it! Continued strength to you dear!

LV ... thanks so much for reading & the comment. It's a true joy to have you around on EP.

Well spoken, so good to have you as a friend

And this is why I love EP. I can write about anything and there is always someone who understands and offers support. Thank you all. Hopefully, I'll soon be back to writing my normal silliness ... lol.

Well said and best wished on that road ahead! Strength, independence and confidence - flow from the inside - and shows in the beauty of a women. And to share that with the man I love, who appreciates those qualities increases the essence of such a women.

Sad as you may be today,uniquely designed sounds as you are,it's so neat knowing we share qualities of such greatness, strength is often built on the foundations of giving and receiving. :)

Sappy, you are indeed a strong woman, but I also understand your hesitancy to ask for help. When I was going through my depression I tried to hide it from my friends. I didn't want to bother them with my problems, but when they found out they rallied around me. I learned from them that true friends want to help, and I am forever grateful to them for that lesson.

What is Seriously Sappy about you? <br />
Nothing!<br />
Very well delivered!

I am very hesitant to ask for help- I can totally identify with what you said....If you have been a self sufficient care giver for a large part of your life, I think it's something you actually have to learn...I'm not sure I know how to ask for help....There are a lot of things I put off doing...the kind of things my husband would have done, if he were still with me...my blinds need replacing... all I need to do is request new blinds from the manager......I keep putting it off...for no reason, I caught myself thinking, last night, "Bill would have taken care of this." Bill's been dead for almost 20 years. Strange, the more time that passes, the more I miss him.

Exactly Blissy .... that's what inspired me to write it. It's my own inability to reach out for help, even though I know it's a sign of strength, not weakness. But I've taken those first tentative steps again to get myself back on the path I intend to travel.

Bravo sappy ... well said dear .. you know I agree with every word. Being self-sufficient is part of our core values but we do need to reach out to others now and again. It's not easy, but it's like any muscle - we have to use it or we forget how.