Which Are You?

Ya all are going to read this and wonder why I posted this particular story here.
Stay with me on this and read it all the way through. If you figure it out.  POST why you think I placed this story here - in this particular group.


"Carrot, egg, or coffee?"
The author is unknown to me.

A young woman went to her grandmother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.

Her grandmother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her granddaughter, she asked, "Tell me what do you see?"

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.

She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they got soft.

She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.

Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The granddaughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma. The granddaughter then asked. "What's the point, grandmother?"

Her grandmother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity, boiling water, but each reacted differently.

The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.

The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.

The ground coffee beans were unique though. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.

"Which are you?" she asked her granddaughter, "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?"

So now I ask you.
Carrots, Eggs, or Coffee; Which are you?

Are you the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do you wilt and become soft and lose your strength?

Are you the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Do you have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have you become hardened and stiff? Does your shell look the same, yet on the inside are you bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?

Or are you like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.

When the hours are the darkest and trials are at their greatest do you elevate to another level?
SunniL SunniL
46-50, F
2 Responses Jan 17, 2013

Loved this story; thank you so much for sharing. I believe I'm an egg overall, I've been a carrot in the past but aim to become like coffee.

I am not sure of why you posted this story in this group. I was actually looking forward to seeing other responses in the comments :-). Still, I can share my thoughts.

I identify with all three... When I began this journey, I was the carrot... After a few bad experiences I was quite the hard boiled egg. Now that I have done more reading, research, and exploring I am almost a coffee bean. There's so much information and oh so many opinions on submission out there. I didn't think there was much to it... I figured I would join a club and get a guide book... Not so much... Actually, Not at All!
It's not easy but it's not impossible. I am learning as I go... Using common sense... And when things go horribly wrong, I take a deep breath (sometimes a bit of a cry) and work it out. One way or another.
I hope to one day consider myself a strong submissive. Learning from my mistakes and moving forward. Capable of taking on most that comes my way. Not whining and complaining but working it out.

Now, Sunni when will you share your reason for posting here? I would really like to know.