I Am A New Submissive Wife

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Congratulations on your new beginning! I have seen changes like this do wonders for marriages. Repeating what has already been said, communication and patience will go a long way in helping things develop successfully. I think bringing a D/s dynamic into a marriage can sometimes be like turning a big ship. A big ship doesn’t turn on a dime. Hopefully with time and effort things will work out great.
His indifference might change. I think it would be best if it did. I believe that submission takes its form largely from the desires and needs of the one to whom it is given. It’s kind of difficult to submit to someone who isn’t requiring anything or desiring to lead. So, his engagement is very important. I have seen it take time for the engagement to grow, so don’t be surprised if that happens. Once he finds his groove though, hold on!
With all that said, there’s no reason why you can’t pay attention and respond to everything that he asks for submissively and end all contention if there is any. Also, when something comes up and you feel in your heart that it is an area that you want to submit to him, let him know sweetly. As he sees the fruit of your new behavior, I believe he will become more and more engaged.
Try to communicate as much as you can what you would like and work for the happiness of both of you. I wish you all the best!

Try not to let your expectations get ahead of you. In pretty much the same breath, you say "he has carried on as normal" and "I have already seen a change in him". Don't start with wanting it all and let yourself get disappointed after just a week or so. Given your personalities and history, this is going to take some time and effort to get right. Don't forget to communicate - with respect - your expectations. At the same time, ask for feedback on how you're doing. If he's slow to move into the role, that will help him formulate his own perspectives. Also, while the online world offers a lot of variety, you'll be helped by face-to-face contact with like minded folks. If you're in or near an urban area, sites like fetlife.com can help you contact meet-up groups and talk with people who share this lifestyle. Friends with experience can really help during your transitions.

you hubbys a lucky man :) you got any sisters ??lol could u pleasee add me ?

I am with you, I just told my husband close to the same thing. We don't really bicker much, but I have told him that I want him to be the dominant partner in our relationship. Hopefully we can see how well its going for the both of us!

I would imagine that he will grow into the new dynamic with a little time...but don't set specific expectations for how you want him to behave. He has legitimate life-rhythm needs that will find expression through you and with you. If you believe there is a "right answer" for how you need to behave or what is expected of him, you will be disappointed. Find peace, harmony and rhythm through what emerges over time. Leaving the door open to "whatever, wherever, however" is a great start, and consistent reinforcement through practiced behaviors will end up with a new dynamic setting in. I don't know if you have certain ritual you might always do, but we find that these behaviors reinforce expectations and keep especially me centered and mindful of how I wish to reflect his leadership in my behavior. Best wishes!

I do want him to take the lead sexually but my main desire is to be a good and submissive wife to him in every respect, through daily life.

Thanks Michelle. I agree that it must surely make a marriage better, I think I have been awful to him and quite honestly I think he deserves a medal for not getting rid of me years ago. If I don't nag and constantly go on at him I will feel better in myself as I will not be filled with anger, rage and negative thoughts and feelings. And he will surely feel more at peace.

Thank you both for your replies...they mean a lot to me. M2swife - why is it better if he isn't playing along?it leaves my worrying that he thinks his wife has become some sort of kinky freak or religious nut . Would you please explain why you think that as I really want to try and understand. Also, I have asked him many times what his fantasies are and what I can do for him but I don't think he really tells me as nothing very adventurous ever comes out ?

it is better if he isn't just "playing along". just keep doing what you're doing, pay attention to what he likes and give that to him. as for adding some sexual adventure.... ask him what his fantasies are, what he'd like to do with his wife, and start giving him what he wants..... thats h ow you serve him....

I can imagine that the "new you" is a surprise to him. Congratulations for taking steps to improve your marriage!

Of course it is ok to submit to him, even though he seems indifferent right now. I do hope that he will begin to enjoy this new dynamic. I know it has been doing wonders for my marriage!