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My Husband Hates My Pyjamas Lol

By: Hav1
Written on January 23rd, 2013
Many times over the years my husband has told me he hates me in pyjamas and when I asked him why he told me that he just hates them. I asked him what he liked me wearing and he said he likes my nighties.
Now the reason I wear pyjamas is really for decencies sake as we have 3 children - the oldest a 16yr old boy. The last thing I want to do is freak them out or the rest of their lives should they catch a glimpse of Mums bare bum if I bent over whilst making their breakfast etc lol !
So last week I decided to be proactive about this as i have now decided to live to please my husband.I pulled out the entire contents of my nightmare drawers and sorted them into piles on the bed . One pile for pyjamas, pile for pyjamas with short pants, pile for negligees and nighties. I asked my husband to go through them and put to one side what he doesn't like to see me in. He didn't seem very bothered to do this so I went through each item with him and he told me....'yes I like that' or 'no'. Once all my pyjamas with long legs were put in one pile I told him that he can bin them or burn them because I won't wear them again if he hates them.
So....I don't understand why he left them where they were...he isn't take them or do anything with them....as a result I have put them all back in the drawer lol!! I am confused as to why he isn't take up the opportunity?
By: Hav1
Age: 41-45 , Female
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18 responses
  • ivo13
    ivo13

    he really missed his opportunity! lol

    Jan 24
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  • kitt5
    kitt5

    He told you what He wants......no? i find when my Husband and i want different things its because i overanalyze everything. if He says He hates p.j.s, my first thought would be which pjs? all pjs? can i keep one? how about 2? why dont You like them? can i wear them on weekends? etc. you get the idea. speaking for myself, i have had to learn if He says "no pjs" then thats it. NO pjs. you can always solve the consequences with some nice robes. :) see you around!

    Jan 24
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    • Hav1
      Hav1

      Hi. Yes. I think that too. I have just got my pjs out of the drawers and the offending tops that match them! I did ask him which ones and he particularly HATES the ones with long pants....ones with short pant are fine. So I am off to the shopping mall now to stock up on some more sexy/feminine ones and some more feminine underwire too....maybe a suspenders belt as I can't find the two I used to wear ....years ago. So...all my offending pjs are going TODAY :-)))

      Jan 24
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    • Hav1
      Hav1

      Oh...and I am trying to find a robe I like too...

      Jan 24
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  • Hav1
    Hav1

    Yes thank you for that advice Michelle - I have already noticed what you are referring to about people trying to undo what we have decided ourselves is the way we wish to conduct our marriages.
    I think your advice about the pjs is spot on but I really need to decide whether I keep a pair or not. As I am so new to wanting to please my husband, I know that I can and will slip up and slip back into my cosy comfortable ways of old until I have trained myself well ! So if I keep a pair it is sort of like keeping that bar of chocolate in the cupboard whilst I am on a diet if you know what I mean :-))

    Jan 23
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    • Michelle0001
      Michelle0001

      I completely see what you are saying. Ok, pitch them all, lol.

      Jan 23
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  • Hav1
    Hav1

    Zappi - thanks, I think the same thought as you ...I think that I should get rid of the hated pjs as you are right, I will be reminded why I am wearing my more feminine and sexy nighties and not the comfy pjs.he has told me how he feels about my pjs so time they go .... Just need to find a nice gown that doesn't spoil the whole effect, to throw on when I need to see to the kids.

    Jan 23
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  • Hav1
    Hav1

    I did consider ditching them myself. I think he has probably already made it clear to me that he loathes seeing me in them . I suppose that I have 'slipped' up again on this one. I have put them back in my drawers to wear when he is not around on the thinking of what he doesn't see won't hurt him. But if I truly want to please him and submit to his wishes then maybe I should stick them all in the next charity bag that comes through the letter box? Maybe then I will not be able to comfortably slip back into my old bad habits. What do you think as someone who is well established in being submissive to her man?

    Jan 23
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    • Michelle0001
      Michelle0001

      If it were me, I would keep the one that is the most comfortable for when you are sick and pitch the rest. I have one pair like that. They are in the very back of the drawer so that I don't put them on out of habit. The rare times I get a cold though, out they come. He couldn't care less then anyway.

      I admire your devotion to your husband, it is wonderful :)

      On a different subject, obviously, this is the internet. Take care who you take advice from, even other submissive wives. If you read something that makes sense to you and is coming from someone who has the kind of relationship you have or want to have, by all means follow it. On the other hand, there are some on EP who enjoy sowing seeds of feminist equality (this is the kindest way I can think to describe it) among the submissive wives around here. The idea of wifely submission rubs them the wrong way. Since they are not living the kind of life you are, please consider the advice accordingly.

      Jan 23
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    • zappi
      zappi

      @Michelle: A very wise and well written comment.
      I think you are absolutely right and your advices sounds absolutely logical and also practical. Thank you.

      Jan 23
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    • Michelle0001
      Michelle0001

      Thank you zappi :)

      Jan 23
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    • laserx
      laserx

      Oh my... so nicely worded when 'one' lingers so near. Very well done.

      Jan 26
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  • Michelle0001
    Michelle0001

    Obviously, I don't know your husband but I have some thoughts why he didn't take the opportunity to toss your pj's that don't appeal to him. First, your submission is still a relatively new aspect to your marriage. Our poor men have been indoctrinated to not be overbearing or bossy with their spouses. This is very new to him and it can take some time for him to feel comfortable in his new role and yours. It took my husband a while to shake the idea that it is not ok to ask, tell or instruct me to do things.

    If it were my husband, he would likely want me to be happy and comfortable, even if it didn't appeal to him. If you want to honor him and his wishes, I would either put the offending pj's waaay back in the closet or pitch them altogether. Your honoring his wishes on your own may be an important message to him that will strengthen your submission.

    Jan 23
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  • Hav1
    Hav1

    I think you are probably right Jane. So now I keep the sexier stuff for when he is home and wear my comfy pjs when he is away

    Jan 23
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    • zappi
      zappi

      Otherwise if you convert to only wear what he likes, it could strenghten your feelings for him. You will be reminded constantly. Especially when he is not present. Could be an advantage(?)

      Jan 23
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    • Michelle0001
      Michelle0001

      Good advice zappi!

      Jan 23
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  • gumshoejane2
    gumshoejane2

    He likely doesn't hate them, but prefers the others. He likely wants you to feel comfortable and knows that you like those comfy pjs. Please remember that men like to please women too.
    My suggestion;
    wear the sexy ones special for him as a treat, but keep the cozy ones for you.

    Jan 23
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