Refuse To Be

I've survived many things. I've survived domestic abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, verbal abuse, and many other things, but I refuse to be a victim. I am a survivor. I refuse to give those who have done things to harm me power by calling myself a victim.

I am in control of my life and I refuse to use things that happened to me as an excuse for my own errors in judgement. I alone have control over what I say or do. Therefor passing blame on the abusers in my life for my own personal decisions gives them power. That I refuse to do.
RhombusInTheSquare RhombusInTheSquare
41-45, F
5 Responses Jan 18, 2013

Bad things happen to people all the time, unfortunately, but your reaction to them is the only rational and mature one. It's also the only one that is personally empowering, thus my hat is off to you. Sorry you had to go through what you did (whatever they were), but I'm heartened that you have taken a positive attitude in response. Good for you!

How does a victim of ptsd episodes survive? all i know is how to survive but i didnt do it alone. its kind of like a rocky movie isnt it? we get dont knocked down for the count but we dont get knocked out. the real rocky got ripped off and then went to prison and ripped off again by stallone. his name is chuck wepner and if you ask him he will tell you how to survive. i knew this boxing trainer that turned 14 low rank boxers into world champions. he said he did it because he paved the path and they listened. he also taught them the 4 D's. drive, dedication, determination and discipline. this is how a victim survives and even more. try not to settle with just surviving... take it from a. champ4life survivor.

"This above all, to refuse to be a victim. Unless I can do that, I can do nothing. I have to recant, give up the old belief that I am powerless..." ~ Margaret Atwood

Keep it up and continue to be a beacon of hope and light for others. All the best to you, others like you and others not quite like you......

heck yeah! i can pretty much relate to you but in the sexual abuse stuff, and i hate when people just lie and complain instead of even try to move on.
we need more people like you lady!

Thanks :)