Convictions?

My partener sexually abused me. when I finally got the courage to GET OUT, I was so lonely all I wanted to do was go back to him. However, circumstances were that I couldnt. Lucky for that. No he was never convicted, I never even reported him to the police. It is strange, because i still find myself asking whether it was my fault.

Thanks for your comment. I feel the same way - I still feel it must have been my fault. Sometimes I think a conviction would have helped, but then, maybe it's something that must be dealt with internally.

my ex partner is due to be convicted in march, he is on bail and i dont understand y i feel guilty and cry for him after what he did to me

I pressed charges! And I got the worst results ever. My boyfriend brutally beat me in a car in front of the police station. I had an officer who it witnessed some of the event, and the other officers who took pictures of the aftermath LOST THEM! All my abuser got was 6 months Anger Management and Misdemenor charge. Then short while after he broke into my apartment and tried to kill me again. I pressed charges again, and all he got was probation and another Misdemenor charge. It's amazing how terrible the system is. The worst part is he still goes to College with me, so I have to see him in passing occasionally. I wrote a petition to change that rule, we'll see what happens.

That is awful ^ In front of the police station!! Seems like there are no consequences unless the guy actually kills you :( Otherwise there's just not enough evidence, or if there is, they **** it up somehow. What happened in my case was similiar.
**** cops. They are useless.
O no, my bitterness is showing.

I am glad that you asked this question, because I have wondered the same thing for years. In my case, I think that I almost needed to hear the conviction in order to make myself understand that it wasn't my fault, and when I didn't get that, it made me second guess myself. He also broke the restraining order twice, and nothing has ever come of it. It's insanity. Thank you for sharing.

^Seconded. Restraining orders don't do anything... At least I took one valuable thing out of this situation --> Don't trust the cops... They don't don't give a **** about you!! Thank you for your comment :)

I believe cops are twisted

hi your story is so close to home for me, my ex attacked me on 10th june he went to court in august and pled not guilty i now have to face a trial in november which i hope goes my way, i too feel some how responsible for what he done to me and i also at times find myself missing him (which i dont understand) im glad im out the relationship now but i feel a failure because i couldnt make it work because of his violence (crazy) xxxx