After two years, I got out. I am still trying to make sense of it all. I finally realized that there was no making him understand, I was a professional, just out of really bad marriage, fell for guy that wanted to get married right then. I still can't talk about much of it. Black eyes, broken bones, but usually he hit me in the head, back and legs where it wouldn't show, ended up in different state, lost custody of my kids, couldnt make it back to see them. lost my house, furniture, no contact with family, no car There is stuff I can't even make myself think about right now.. Monitored phone computer, could not even leave the room without him. It was all so gradual, and then it was constant that I just went numb, didn't cry, I absolutely have nothing left. I ended up working with him and he would work as long as I could go, when we changed jobs, I couldn;t work with him he wouldnt go to work. He left one day for a job out of state, with the promise I would follow him Gave him all the money I had to get him gone. When he was 5 states away, I knew I couldn't let him back. He called me over and over and I wouldn't answer, I finally texted him and said I wasn't answering. He cannot not come back here. Just started talking to my family. I came to the realization everything he did was deliberate, and methodical to wear me down.He was smooth, I was going through a separation from a long bad marriage. He told me everything I wanted to hear. He spent the night one night and never left. He quoted the bible, and told me how a man is supposed to treat his wife. He wouldn''t work, drained me financailly. Ive been homeless twice this year. Isolated from my family, and friends there was no one to turn to. The last month he was here, he blacked my eyes twice, head was cut, had concussion, busted ear drum and broken ribs. He would not let me go to the Dr. He still texts and tells me he is sorry that I'm for feeling well, and he hopes I can get on with my life, I have this horrible anger in me but it is what is keeping me from answering his calls.He wants us to be friends. He will be arrested if he comes back here. I'm joing support group, and will find counselor, I start thinking about it all, and I just shake. It's going to be a long hard road, but not as hard as what Ive been through. Thank you God.