I get asked all the time why I stayed. I married him because I love him. I told a friend today it was like boiling a frog. I ve heard that if you drop a frog in boiling water he immediately jumps out but if you put him water normal temperature and gradually increase the temperature he will sit there until and cook to death. That's what is like. He started out fine, and by the time he was choking me until I passed out, I was thousand miles away from hometown, with absolutely nothing left. All the people that ask me why I stayed, I had only minutes to use to phone, when he was in bathroom and Ive tried contacting friends, family even pastors and would email or text to come get me, with no response. I ask a guy for a ride and he came on to me, and I was like you have got to be kidding me. I was victimized, just short of being hostage and beaten every day, I could not even go to the bathroom without him going in there with me. Why didn't I leave, he caught me every time I tried going out the door, usually by the hair. And because I tried to leave it got bad when I got pulled back in. I wish someone could understand, I don't want pity, I just want someone to tell me that they understand. The detective I talked to today kept looking at me like I was crazy. Why did you just report it? Why did you wait so long to go to Dr? I told him I couldnt get there. Not going to have sex with someone for a ride. I also told him, if he finds out I filed charges he will kill me. He is looking at 25 yearsp-99 for habitaul offender. his sentence will make no difference if he kills me or beats me up. I stayed because I was isloated from familiy and friends, and no one would answer my calls. I didn't call the police because I was told by landlord if PD came back out, Id have to move. Just venting can't find anyone that knows what it has been like and think I could have just walked out.