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I Am a Teacher

Controlling The Uncontrollable

By: perseverer
Written on September 16th, 2011
Age: 51-55 , Female
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  • gypsyblu

    glade to see a teacher who knows her students well.. maybe write a book about it.. or let other teachers know of your insight to helping children...

    Sep 23, 2012
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    • perseverer

      Thank you. The more we share, the more we learn.

      Sep 23, 2012
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  • Boshie

    It's nice to hear from a wonderful teacher, your patience is outstanding.

    My oldest sister was a teacher in Leavenworth, WA. She told her students little things to make them feel like they could make a difference. "Just think how much more beautiful the earth would be if we all picked up a piece of litter every day and put it in the trash".

    When I went to her home in 2002, I noticed a card on her kitchen counter, so I read it. A young man was thanking her for her gift. He was in college, one of her former students. Since she didn't have children of her own, she told her students, "If you go to college, be sure to write me and tell me how you're doing." I'm glad I discovered that she had been giving aid to her students, since she passed away during that visit. I know that most teachers don't receive the compensation that they deserve. She just happened to marry a man during her 40's that insisted she do whatever she wanted with her earnings.

    She also wrote a book during the last 5 years of her life, called "Dancing With Mules" I don't know how she perservered, she was battling cancer. She had to interview a lot of people to compile the old pioneer pictures from the wheat growing area where we grew up.

    I think teachers have one of the most difficult but rewarding jobs. Good teachers deserve our thanks.

    Aug 3, 2012
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    • perseverer

      Your sister sounds like she was a wonderful person with a real heart of gold. Her pupils were very fortunate. Thank you for sharing the caring things she did - I have taken note. And many thanks for reading this story and leaving such a remarkable and inspiring comment.

      Aug 3, 2012
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  • perseverer

    Thank you so much, DANNYBHOY66! Your words of encouragement have just made my day!

    Jun 20, 2012
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  • DANNYBHOY66

    perseverer. What a wonderful, caring teacher you are. I was so moved reading your account. Children taught by you couldn't be more fortunate. You have my respect and admiration. :-)

    Jun 20, 2012
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  • perseverer

    Thank you, EmmaSimpson, for your comment. There is a case for CP, the use of force as a last resort. That is, after all, how the real world operates. But as you say, the danger with young children is that their behaviour is construed as naughtiness when it is actually the result of learning difficulties. When CP is removed as a means of discipline, it forces the teaches to use their brains more to work out creative ways of managing the children.

    Jun 11, 2012
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  • EmmaSimpson

    Wonderful !!!! , I have just left an internet parenting group where people were advocating the use of CP in schools. I tried to give the oposite view but was hounded for it. Some parents even accepted that their own children should be whacked at school ???

    For the life of me I could not understand how any parent would accept that.

    I enjoyed your post, uplifting and full of comonsense and reasons why children like this need understanding not whacked or beaten because the teacher does not understand them. Thank you !!!!!!!!!!

    Jun 11, 2012
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  • perseverer

    There is much more understanding and awareness about ADHD nowadays. But do keep in touch with your son's teacher. Thanks for showing your interest.

    Apr 27, 2012
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  • Lottusflower

    I commented on this last year I think lol turns out my son has ADHD just wanted toto tell uu that ur a wonderful teacher hope my sons kindergarten teacher will be like u :)

    Apr 27, 2012
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  • perseverer

    Thank you for reading this and sharing your thoughts.

    Apr 18, 2012
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  • michalmos

    Yes, of course, you mys controll all those issues, but remember, if you start to be to strict, there can be to big resistance and you can do not cope with that and start being aggresive. Be aware of those behaviour.

    Apr 18, 2012
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  • perseverer

    That is so kind, RickiChick!

    Mar 17, 2012
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  • RickiSchnucki

    I followed my friend here and I'm very impressed! I wish that our nestling would've had you as his teacher!

    Mar 17, 2012
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  • perseverer

    Thank you, angelkaty1975. I appreciate that you read this story and cared enough to leave a comment.

    Mar 16, 2012
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  • perseverer

    Thank you for your most interesting comment, RustyRider. Once we see people as the solution rather than the problem a universe of possibilities opens up.



    Your niece has undertaken a noble profession and I wiould be most interested to hear how she gets on with it.



    Thank you for sharing your own anecdote which does indeed illustrate the same principle - that love and support of people are motivating and empowering.

    Nov 23, 2011
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  • RustyRider

    I for one cannot accept your apology in your closing paragraph - what you have outlined in your story would have to be entirely practical! Effective solutions in all professions and industries very often don't come from management. They come from those at "ground zero".



    My niece has relatively little teaching experience and has been `thrown in at the deep end', finding herself teaching in Melbourne's western suburbs. I'm about to copy and send your post to her. She may sigh and wish I'd mind my own business. But when she has some experience behind her, I hope this list of solutions will still be sitting somewhere in a recess of her mind.



    It's interesting to note that as a workplace technical supervisor I found the same approach was needed in the workplace with the odd adult staff member.



    Things changed noticeably when we all purchased a funny sort of billiard table that used discs on a polished surface instead of felt and balls. The staff morale shot up in very short time. I went against upper management rules and would allow the odd quickie game during work hours, usually between jobs, and the difference in their attitude to the workplace, particularly when a game would break up in laughter, was amazing.



    Thanks for your story. ..

    Nov 23, 2011
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  • perseverer

    Thank you for the suggestion. Will certainly take it on board! Many argue the same about immunisations. Definite link with underdevelopment of the cerebellum ie cannot be cured by diet alone, but with a comprehensive exercise programme incorporating different balancing exercises.

    Oct 13, 2011
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  • conceptualclarity

    Hey, I don't have time to go through this in detail, but I have read that fish oil is very effective for ADD and ADHD, as it is for many mental health concerns. I think many such people may have problems that would be minimal if it were not for the curse of the modern high-carb diet. There is no doubt that these problems are far more prevalent than they were several decades ago. In the past, sweets and soda pop were a far less prominent part of kids' diets than they are today.

    Dec 1, 2011
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  • perseverer

    Thank you for sharing your own story of

    a special teacher in your life. I like her idea very much. Something so simple can say so much in the life of a young person.

    Oct 12, 2011
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  • LoveIsJesusChrist

    I love how much you care about your students. Your advice is great and I will keep that in mind with my nephew since I believe he has ADHD. The world would seriously be a better place if there were more caring attentive loving and understanding teachers like you. You do make a difference I still have very fond memories of only two teachers growing up that really showed they cared.



    My 8th grade teach Mrs. Johnson had everyone write down what kind of person they will be when they graduate from high school and what kind of job or college they want to go to. Or any other thing that they wish for themselves to achieve. She sent the letter to me when I graduated it was so special that she remembered that!

    Oct 12, 2011
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  • perseverer

    Thank you, smile, for commenting. Communication with parents is important as it established the expectations and assures co-operation between home and school. Much learning is, of course, routine, but that doesn't mean it has to be boring. We do our humble best!

    Sep 17, 2011
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  • perseverer

    kits, 55 in one class would, I think, be impossible for just about anyone, yet I remember when we were little, our class sizes were also large. But there was not catering for individual differences; you sank or swam. If you had problems you hid them and bluffed your way through, then turned out illiterate as adults.



    By all means, share my thoughts with your friends if you think it will help.



    And yes, I would love to have you in my classroom, not as a pupil but as a most valued colleague who also cares very deeply for his pupils.

    Sep 17, 2011
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  • smile2147

    Hello perseverer,your doing great stuff with those kids . when I was at school ( long time ago) most of the kids just bored in class .Today is sometimes the same get the kids to do more things in class and talk to the dad and mums to let them know what going on within the classroom with the child.They can help at home with the child it does help I have seen it with my own eyes.

    Sep 17, 2011
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  • kitsgamesandads

    Had I known more about this I might have postponed my retirement a few years.But 55 of them in one class was just getting too much for me and I later identified 12 groups in that class 'competing' with me.I can see you must be a wonderful class manager with very good knowledge and ideas and I am sharing it with some of me (ex) colleagues - I know you won't mind.

    (You have'nt got an extra desk there for a 62 year pupil willing to learn? Promise I'll be quiet.)

    Sep 17, 2011
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  • perseverer

    Lilt, I deeply appreciate you reading this and approving. You are so right about cookie cutter answers. If only! Still, if we keep nutting it out and sharing what we find helps we will still get somewhere.



    Neeran, thank you for reading. You are totally right. Every person is different. I know as a teacher I find it for ever tempting to compare siblings, for example. But every child is a unique identity and not cast out of a mould.



    Lottusflower, I am so glad this helped. Thank you for leaving a comment, and all the best with your search for answers.

    Sep 16, 2011
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  • perseverer

    amberdextrous, I would LOVE to have you in my classroom! You would be a teacher's dream come true. I wonder if you have heard of or read Winford Dore's book on Opening the Door to Learning. He developed a programme of exercises that literally cured learning problems. His theory was based on these problems being due to underdevelopment of the cerebellum, and he invested his personal fortune into researching and testing. He learned much, for example, with what was done with stroke patients, and also from astronauts returning from space missions. Interesting how you found juggling helpful, as one of his exercises is tossing a bean bag from one hand to the other. Unfortunately, the centres he set up were not financially sustainable and he was forced into receivership. I found his work thoroughly convincing and think you are really onto something with the circus skills. Perhaps you could arrange to teach me some so I could teach the children?U

    Sep 17, 2011
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  • Lottusflower

    Thank you so much for sharing this i am a mom n needed to find more info on this subject..this helps alot thanks :)

    Sep 16, 2011
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  • neeran

    Awesome points. On the other hand Teachers shouldn't compare a student with another student.

    Sep 16, 2011
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  • Lilt

    Perserverer, Thank you for sharing such a wonderful post.

    What I hear shining through every word, is your enormous respect for each student's spirit.

    Each year you open your heart and door not to a "class," but a room full of individual little people with huge personalities! And often special needs. All of your suggestions are spot on. You also recognize there are no cookie-cutter answers. Ours is a job of "creative problem solving."



    In a time when there is a lot teacher bashing going on, I wish everyone could read your story.

    Sep 16, 2011
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  • nellkellicus

    As a parent of a child with Asperger's, and another probably with ADHD, I appreciate what you've said here. Having been in your classroom, and having spoken to parents at the school, I have heard on numerous occasions that you and your husband are the best teachers in the primary school. Having insider knowledge, I'd just like to mention here for the benefit of your friends that you are, and always have been, the most diligent and dedicated teacher I have ever known. God bless you always.

    Sep 16, 2011
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    • perseverer

      Thanks Nell. Just doing my job!

      Sep 16, 2011
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  • amberdextrous

    Thank You for this wonderful insight into your day to day classroom management, perseverer, and for sharing some of your strategies for dealing with children's learning difficulties. You are obviously a very sensitive, observant and caring teacher, dedicated to her noble profession, and I have worked with many educators who would benefit from reading your story.



    As an education assistant responsible for children with special needs, I worked in a mainstream school with several autistic boys and another with dyspraxia. It was easy to see that there were other children with a range of behavioural and learning problems in each class, and I made sure to help as much as possible with the teacher's management of them, as well.



    One activity I might add to your list is juggling. I have seen children with ADHD develop their concentration skills, dyslexic children improve their writing, and whole classes raise their literacy levels, as well as spin-offs in terms of confidence and self-esteem, hand-eye coordination, reflexes and aerobic fitness.

    Sep 16, 2011
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