Chose My Son Over The Two People I Love, My Parents.

Im 16 and currently pregnant with my first baby. As of now i am 36 weeks and two days. BEfore i became pregnant i was a happy teenage girl and was titled in school as the miss goodie too shoes . THe one with the good grades and the one that never got into trouble. MY parents were very strict and i was never allowed to go with friends, girls or boys, girls were either ***** and bad examples and the guys were trying either trying to have sex with me or were bad examples as well. There was always to an excuse to prevent me from going out. IT came to a point in school were i felt so alone, nobody would talk to me or invite me to go out as friends, and if they did talk to me it was just to know my business. I never ever gave my parents a reason not to trust me, i was on point with my school grades. what kept me entertained at the time was my spanish shows lol. THen i was given a curfew to go to bed early. IT whenever my parrents felt bothered they would send me to bed. (its not like i would go to sleep) played music or just read a book which wasnt my thing at all, but i had no choice. Either way as a FREsHMen in high school there was a group of people i knew that always hangout in a group and in the group there was this guy, he had an intensive crush on me. I payed no mind, I always kept in mind that if I had a crush on him and ended up liking him he would become my boyfriend and if my parents found out they would kill me. He talked to me, took him awhile not to be shy but he expressed and told me his feelings that he cared about me alot. He always bought me flowers, brought me lunch, would make me love notes, he did anything to make me happy and I started liking him with the time then it came to a day were he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes <3 . HE wasnt only my boyfriend but my bestfriend i always told him my feelings or what was going on at home, and he supported me through everything. SInce iwasnt allowed to go out and have a boyfriend he even bought me an iphone to talk to him and be entertained with. (christmas gift) . So we communicated more through text then school since i stayed in class. ANyways months passed by ...we made it up till two years and we have been happy since. I started skipping school every now and then when I had good grades and knew it wouldn't affect me... Then JuUST 8 MONTHS ago me and him had sex Nd i found out i was pregnant two weeks later. (First time btw) . i was so scared and i didnt know what to do, i told my babys father and he seemed so excited about it he wasn't focusing on the consequences of me being pregnant. I think because he's two years older then me (18yrsold) . Either way he told me he would support me and the baby and he wanted us to take care of the baby as a family. tHat he loved me and he would be there with me to tell my parents I was pregnant. I told him to give me a few days to keep cool and think him we would tell them and he agreed. I had time to think about it until my mom found out I was skipping school and my boyfriend told my mom I was with him and it wasn't my fault so my mom wanted to see us thT afternoon to talk calmly about the skipping situation. so me and my BF talked during school and had it planned we would tell her that same afternoon that i was pregnant . so we did.....and she exploded...she was telling me i was trash and if i kept the bby id be on the streets, that i ruined my life and so on. And that me and him werent going to make it through life. she mentioned laws that dont exist to get me scared. she scared me anyway she could and all i did there was sit and cry while my boyfriend and hugged me and told my mother that he would be there. my mom saw him as a low life worthless guy and told me he was sucking me in to keep the baby and ruin my life. i basically had no option but abortion according to her. my boyfriend was recording this(did not know at all) until after my mother realized and tried to break his phone. I tried leaving that same night I walked towards the door with him and I opened the door , I was frighten to stay there all i could think of was my parents beating me. As I walked towards the door with him and I opened the door he managed to step out on the porch and my mother pushed me inside the house screaming to the top other lungs asking for help( 11:30pm-12:00am) help help she screamed it was so loud the echo of the neighborhood you could hear. my little brother woke up and he called the cops, i managed to run through the backdoor and make it to the front porch of the house..the cops asked my side of the story and my mothers, I told them that I didn't want to stay there that night. My mother mentioned that me and him had hit her which was a lie. Cops checked her and she was fine and she kept changing the story, realizing she was lying they let me go home with him that night. And they gave her a social worker card. Three days had passed by without going home, didn't plan to ever go back. Third day had to go to work, I was a host a restaurant . My mother ended showing up and making a scene at my job, some odd reason she had bruises and was pointing it out to my bosses, and was saying that I hit her and how my boyfriend hit her. While my bosses looked down on me as a bad daughter. They said I had to listen to my mother or I would get fired. Not knowing the whole situation my boss went on my mothers side of course. So since I was underage I was suppose to go home, so I forcefully went..my parents were all nice to me, mentioned that if I had an abortion everything would go back to normal, that they wanted me to date this guy, go to school lah lah blah..,i started to sink in and told my babys father to never talk to me again..he did everything to see me and to keep our son. We texted and he told me that he wanted to get married to me and that he loved our son and me. I told him how much I loved him , and we decided to run away together. It was the last day of the school year , and the last day we ran away...to newyork..when living in MD ,it was crazy. As we left all I thought about was how much I loved my parents and how I begged god to forgive me but killing an innocent child I wouldn't be able to live with . I cried for weeks missing my parents, wondering if they hated me. His family in newyork supported me and told me to give them time, that they would come around. I decided to go back because nt only were my parents looking for me but the cops were too. We were gunna get married in NYC but its not the same law as in MD to get married at 16 and pregnant , you have to have cosent in NYC while in MD you do not. so we went back and luckily we hid at one of is cousins registered to get married amd waited three days to get married, while the cops and social workers were looking for me. a dective talked to me and saw the video and saw taht my mothernwas lying the whole time and told me to hide and advised me to get married, not only to be safe from my parents but because social workers were gunna take me to this teen facility . And because my boyfriend showed he was there for me and she knew he loved me. So we hid and got married, get married was scariest thing ever. It was what the heck am I doing, I was shaking the whole time. As the marriage process was done i was no longer scared of seeing a cop lol. Go married in july 2012 .We went home and there..tere was the group of cops and social workers waiting for me..we took marriage papers out of the folder and realized they couldn't do anything they went home. After months and months passed by I think like 4 months without seeing my mother and I cried everyday not seeing my parents. Until one day a neighbor of my moms came to see me and told me my mom was sick and needed me, which she did. So I went outside.. I loved my m0m no matter what she did to me . i collapsed when i saw her and she hugged me so tight and cried and apologized to me, n told me that she would help me with my baby. Im glad that neighbor came or i wouldnt be talking to my mom rightnow. I went to go see her everyday afterschool. up until this day me and my now husband are happy and waiting for the arrival of my baby. we were living with his parents the months i wasnt talking to my mom but the place was so tight i felt castraphobic . so i talked to my husband and told him i wanted to rent at my mothera, he agreed so one night. i decided to pack lil by lil and i did and my husbands father walks in upset sayin im not allowed to go anywhere i need to ask permmission , he called me trash all sorts of things, i told him i dont need to ask no man for permission and asked him who the hell he think he was. well both his parents inslted me i grabbed my stuff that night and left the next day, he even tried to hit me, which i dont understand what i did wrong, i wish he did im tellin you. his parents arent going to see my son, knowing i was pregqnt and he intentionally tried hurting me he cant stick up the title grandfather up his ***. My father is the only grandfather my son has. he can forget he is one. So i moved back with my mother, with my husband with me, paying rent and ive been happy since. relaxed no longer stressed just waiting to deliever my son. Up until this day me and my husband are still together we have are ups and downs yeah but he loves me and he shows he cares and tell mes no matter how much we fight we are going to anything possible to fix the situation. I love him! And I am go grateful how things turned out
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4 Responses Jan 22, 2013

your very powerful ....do as your heart tells you just dont forget i can be a friend as well im one of those guys that think that pregnant females are so beautiful and adorable..and need all the love possible even if its as a friend..

your very powerful ....do as your heart tells you just dont forget i can be a friend as well im one of those guys that think that pregnant females are so beautiful and adorable..and need all the love possible even if its as a friend..

your very powerful ....do as your heart tells you just dont forget i can be a friend as well im one of those guys that think that pregnant females are so beautiful and adorable..and need all the love possible even if its as a friend..

How cute! :D You are so strong and I wish you the best in everything. Thank you for sharing your story.