Difficult But Rewarding...I met my boyfriend (now my fiance), Andy, in elementary school. He was a year older than me. We have been best friends since we were five and six, and we started to date when I was 13. When I was 15, we made a mistake or two, and I later found out that I was pregnant with twins. The months leading up to their birth were scary and stressful. My parents, who were very helpful and supportive, told me that I should do what felt right for me. I listened to people call me a **** and a *****, and even though my friends were extremely supportive, it was an emotional and tough time for me. At times I wondered why I was putting myself through it.
On April 28th, 2008, our twin boys, Aiden Wesley and David Andrew, were born. Instantly, they became the most important people in my life. I finished the 10th grade at home, with the help of a tutor. I did finish school, but through an online program so I could spend as much time caring for Aiden and Davey as possible and so my parents wouldn't have to spend their free time taking care of them while I went to school. Andy was by my side the entire time, at my house after school almost every day, spending every moment that he could with the boys. I couldn't have asked for a more wonderful father to my children.
Last year, when I was 18, I moved in with him. Just two and a half weeks ago, we welcomed our daughter, Lilah Emmeline, into the world. The last few weeks have been a bit crazy, and it got me thinking about my experiences--being a teen mother has been stressful and hard. And the difficult part was not taking care of my children, or the physical aspect of giving birth, but the emotional toll being a young mother took on me. I found myself wanting to give everything I had to my kids and finding that, when I finally found time for myself, I didn't know how to function. At the same time, my three beautiful children are the lights of my life, the sources of my happiness. Being a mother has been so rewarding (but that doesn't mean being a teen mother is anything a person should consider--waiting until adulthood is a much better choice) and I wouldn't trade them for anything.