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Hello my name is Ayden-James and i just turned 18 and would like to share with you my story. So it was my grade 8 year and this guy that i had a super major crush on asked me out at a party, i was so excited!! We started dating and four months intobour relationship we fell hardcore in love and as the years went on we knew we would always be eachothers forever. In our grade 11 year we had sex for the first time and i got pregnant ( it truly was the first!!) but he still stayed. He loved me so much and everyone good see the love we had for eachother all my friends would say we have got to be the cutest couple they know and that we would be that small percent of high school couples to go on together but when i got pregnant they all thought we were ruining our lives and that its going to tear us apart. We didnt believe so we believed it would make us stronger as a couple having to go through that at such a young age. Anyways as the months went on we got super exited and couldnt wait for the arrivle of our precious gift but unfortunatly two months before my due date my boyfriend got in an accident and passed away. It was the hardest thing i ever had to go through i got so depressed and didnt even want my baby i decided on adoption. I just couldnt bare the thought of looking at my child and seeing my boyfriend. When my due date arrived i went into labour at 12:30am and gave birth to a baby boy at at 4:12am 7pounds 6 1/2 ounces. When the nurse asked if id like to see him i said yes and the moment i looked into those beautiful green eyes (my boyfriends eyes) i fell in love all over again. There was no way i could give my baby up and lose the only part of my boyfriend i had. It would be like losing him twice and once to me was enough. So a few days ago was exactly a year that my boyfriend died and my son kaedyn and i (whos almost one) live in memory of his father and my boyfriend. We are as happy as we can be during the circumstances but of course he is young and doesnt understand but when the time comes and he asked what happened to his father i will tell him all the greath things and how much his father loved me and his unborn son. Somedays are harder to get buy knowing he isnt there to help or just put a smile on my face but i will always cherish and remember the moments he was there and that we shared and smiled about together. Its sad knowing kaedyn will never meet his father and that his father never got to meet him but i know that my boyfriend is up there watching over us. Rest in piece baby i love you and will never forget you <3
Inmyheartforever87 Inmyheartforever87 18-21, F 50 Responses Jun 6, 2012

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A very good story. You are a wonderful person to have gone thru this trying time. I hope you and your son have a wonderful life.

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Ayden-James I was very impress with your decision making in that particulars situation. You are source of inspiration of others.You had shown a new direction in society towards direction less people.Practically this situation is rare in your case.I have no words to explain happiness the way you have express your views ......... May Your dreams come true to your family and I personally request to God Please Help the needy people

Oh dear condolences... i agree with isaacsmommy, you're an amazingly strong mom and women as well.. I'm so sorry for Kaedyn, but remember that he will always be there for you and for your baby....... you did the right thing to keep Kaedyn, because he is the fruit of your love and there's nothing better than having a child with the love of your life :))) I wish you all the best in the world.

Oh my gosh hun this is an amazing story of love and faith and you are such a strong woman for being able to make it through this with out him and deciding to keep the baby <3 you really are an amazing young lady you know that :) keep going:) good luck and bless your<br />
Heart sweetheart <3

Awe thank you so much &lt;3

Ur an amazingly strong women & I look up to u for how strong u are & for pushing through. Ur son is lucky to have u & im sorry about your boyfriend I know he is looking down on u & is so proud!

Awe thank you so much! And yes i know he is looking down on us too :)

Such a bittersweet story. Good luck to you both.

Sweet.

You have touched my soul. I wish the best of everything for you and your precious son.

My heart goes out to you and I hope you get stronger and heal from your loose. I can't imagine going through that much and being as strong as you sound. =]

I'm so sorry you went through such a tremendous loss, and I'm glad you decided to keep your child. He will bring you great joy.

When i read this story i felt touched as my sister went through the same thing. I'm glad that you kept your baby and stayed strong. It's people like you that i look up to!<br />
Thank you for sharing this inspiring piece...Good Luck!

Awe im so sorry your sister had to go through that! It was tough and i wouldnt wish it on anybody

Thanks for your sympathy. I sent her a link of this and she cried alot! Even though you r a stranger u held a piece in my heart :) I hope u have a blissful life now with ur little angel! &lt;3

You have already shown that you can survive adversity...so well done you! Hold on to those wonderful memories of your lovely man and when you are ready live your life for your son and yourself.. You will be an inspiration to your son and other young people too. Use your determination to show how it can be done. I "ruined" my life when had our daughter 38 years ago and our son the following year. No one would employ me. Everyone judged me on their own ability and perceptions and we really struggled. I started up my own tiny business from home, we got married and are still together very happily, I am now aged 53 my husband is 55, We have a lovely home, The children are married with their own homes, we have 6 grandchildren. I am the sole Director of my 3 successful businesses. My husband retired from his job at 50 and now works part time so we can take nice holidays. You have already shown you can handle tough times and a broken heart and thats what it takes to do well as life and work is never easy for anyone. Remember all those judgemtal people out there are not YOU! Many people for reasons of their own "give up" when times get hard. dont worry about your age, like me you have just started earlier. Its all about what you do not how you do it. Go Girl xxxxx

You are very inspirational. Thank you for sharing your story.

That is the best and most tuching story.You are a very strong young woman. We need more wmen with your strenth and will power .

You are a strong and brave woman. Always be proud of yourself. Your tenacity will see you through. I wish you and your son all the very best.

i admire your strength. no matter how much i would want to say i would be just as strong or whatever i know that i couldn't ever do what you did.

Tell Kaedyn not only that his father loved you so much, but also that he would have loved Kaedyn with all his hearth just like you do, that if he ever feels sad about not knowing his dad he needs to remember to make him proud. I lost my father also at a young age so learning the kind of things he liked helped me also understand why I like similar things and to grow into who I am. As he grows up tell him and let others tell him about his father and encourage him to be even better in all his father was good at.

You are such a brave person. I have so much admiration for you - you had a kid at a young age and didn't renounce it. I am sure he will grow up to be a beautiful person. I am so sorry for your boyfriend, but life has proven to me there is life after death, so he basically just changed places. It's so reassuring to hear someone so optimistic. Wish you lots of love and meaningful experiences.

Thank for sharing your story, it was beautiful. Your BF will always be looking down and watching, also he will always be by your side taking good care of you both.

Thankyou for sharing your beautiful story and i hope it gives others in similar circumstances the hope to do what you have done and raise your child, knowing that you can love him best of all. I gave birth to a son 26 years ago and against all pressure at the time decided to keep him, though his biological imput father denied him completely. I went on to get married and have four more children and though J has not always been the easiest child to bring up and faced some challenges through adolescence, i am so glad that he stayed in my life because i knew that any issues in his life were not caused by me abandoning him. Not that i am against adoption but i know that it would not have worked for me and obviously not you either

I think very highly of you for knowing what you want and not backing down. My view is to do whatever you think is best. I don't believe in judging you or anyone who is doing what their integrity tells them to do. I wish you and your son well.

These days i wonder if true love really exists in this world.<br />
Its people like ypu who keep the love in its purest form still alive.<br />
ALL the very best for yours and your babyboys future :)

So much is written above...so nothing much to say but would like you to pass that special upbringing to your son with which you brought up...as what you have done in my opinion is neither normal and most of the people around do not have guts to do the same.

You are doing a wonderful job honey i fell pregnant at 16 and had a baby girl. im not with the father as he wasnt very nice but, i am now 28 with an 11 year old girl who is smart beautiful and very special. i have supported myself pretty much the whole way and i have a diploma, a good paying job i own a house and i have a husband and a 2year old girl, the path you have chosen isnt easy but i find the best things in life are worth the effort makes them that much better im sure ur boy is looking down on u both and smiling. much love honey.

The title if this update e-mail caught my eye,.<br />
"His Fathers Eyes".<br />
I always want to know what this lyric in "Somebody to Love" meant...<br />
"Your eyes have seen your eyes may look like his".<br />
Now I know.<br />
You have no idea how much this story has touched me.<br />
I am an older woman and have never had a child.<br />
You have spiritually done the correct thing.<br />
I believe you and your son will have a beautiful and happy life.<br />
It is absolutely true love does live on in others.<br />
Bless you sweetie

You are Awesome...God Bless you & your beautiful Son ...what a gift you have

wow, that is such an incredibly sweet story... your boyfriend sounds like a great guy, and you sound like an incredible person for all the love and courage you've mustered. your son is so lucky to have you!

Thank you he is worth all of it &amp; more.

You know what makes a tree strong? The storms it has to go thru. That's what your life's story seems like...a oak. You're a nice person. I wish you well.

Thank you...I believe that I am walking through a fire ...it is very painful...but I am being refined in the process.