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Pregnant At 16

When I was 14 I met "Joe".  He was 17 and I guess what you would consider a "bad boy".  I thought he was amazing.  And since I was always considered a "good girl" just being associated with him excited me.  We started dating a few weeks after we met.  When we had been together for about 2 years, I found out I was pregnant.  I was only 16 and scared to death.  My mom wanted me to have an abortion, but when I didn't want to, she wanted me to give the baby up for adoption.  I refused and she kicked me out.  My dad opened his home for me, and after my daughter was born, I lived there for 7 months.  When I was 17, "Joe" and I got married and moved into our own house.  He was working full time, and I was a junior in high school.  Eventually my mom came around, and I think that we are closer than we have ever been.  I graduated high school and went to college for medical assisting.  Early this year I found a really good job, and 2 weeks later found out I was pregnant.  "Joe" didn't seem all that phased, but I was devistated.  I didn't want another kid, I hadn't even wanted 1!  Now I was going to be a 20 year old with 2 kids.  Our financial situation was ok, but adding a baby into the mix was not going to help anything.  But, I battled horrible morning sickness and a trip to the hospital for dehydration.  Then after 4 months of working, the employer decided that "they no longer had a need for my position".  I knew that wasn't the reason, but I was so miserable from pregnancy, I took it as a blessing.  I was 6 months pregnant when I quit working.  Our son was born in September, exactly 4 years and 5 days after our daughter was born.  "Joe" and I will have been together for 6 years on Dec. 7th, and married for 4 in March.  I never thought I could be this happy.  What started out as (what I thought) the biggest mistake of my life, has turned into my whole world.  I love my little family, we are complete now.  I think every day about how lucky I am.  Most teenage moms don't have the option of being with the baby's dad, and usually end up single moms.  I happened to fall in love with someone who knows what it means to be a man and take responsibility for your actions.  I wouldn't change anything.
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My daughter got pregnant at 16 on her baptism day ironically.We are catholic and when she was born,we never had her baptized due to a number of reasons and as she grew we just kept putting it off.So finially when she was 16,we had her baptized at easter vigil.At our parish,girls 16 and under are baptized as infants and are considered infants for the whole time.All the girls,including the daughter had to wear white,poofy,above the knees,baby girl style dresses with a bonnet,lace anklets and white mary jane shoes.Their diaper had to be cloth and pinned on them with diaper pins and they had to have loose fitting rubber pants[plasticpants ]over it with a white under shirt under their dresses.the daughter looked very cute and pure in her outfit as di all the other girls.Her boyfriend,who was 18 came to her party after wards and then after her party they went to his house and his parents were out of town.they had sex and the daughter got pregnant and it was just before her first communion a month later we found out she was pregnant.her and all the girls had to wear their baptism diaper and rubberpants under their communion dresses and it was so ironic and weird seeing her in her communion outfit and knowing she was pregnant!She had a 7 pound 6 ounce baby boy nine months later and we took care of him while she finished high school and then her and her boyfriend got married.

I was 14 the first time I got pregnant and didn't know who the father of my child was so my mom and I decided the best thing to do was to get an abortion then when I was 16 I met a guy he was 21 needless to say 3 months later I found out I was pregnant I took a picture of the test and sent it to him he told me to take the morning after pill but it was to late he ended up leaving wanting nothing to do with me or the baby I told my parents after 3 months they would help me me and my mom were always fighting so I left and moved into my grandparents and 9 months later I had my son after 11 hours of labor I called his father to tell him that he had a son he came up to the hospital and never left me and him are still not together but he is in his sons life I am now 19 my son is 3 I work full time but still it is not enough to support my son so we are stuck living with my grandparents it's not fun being a single mom don't think just because someone made it work that you can wait til you are married

File a complaint with the EEOC, it is unlawful to be discriminated against for being pregnant.

This a great story . Blessings your way!

Hi, my name is Alison. I am now 26 years old. When I was 16, I found out I was pregnant with the baby of my boyfriend I had been with for 5 years, since I was 11! I was scared out of my mind just thinking about his and my parents reactions. My mom was a teen mom, and had my sister at 17. She then had me at 20. Anyway, I was worried sick but knew I had to say something because sooner or later it was going to become obvious. After being pregnant for a month, I had worked up the courage to tell my boyfriend Aaron and my parents. When I told Aaron, he was kind of excited but also in the same boat I was. SCARED TO DEATH. One night after I had gotten home from watching Aaron's football game, we both told my parents together. My mom started crying while sitting on the couch and my dad went to the car and left. Once my mom had stopped crying, she finally told me that I would have to take responsibility for my actions. She told me she would be there to help me every way she could, and told me she would support me and the baby. After an hour of driving around, my dad came back and said it's our mistake and we are going to have to deal with it, and told Aaron that he needed to stay to help with the baby no matter what. When we told Aaron's parents, there wasn't as much drama but they were still VERY shocked. They told us that they would support us too, and said to make sure to know they will always be there. I was very fortunate to have such supportive people on my life. After 9 months of crazy morning sickness, panic moments, and doctor appointments, I had my son. I was in labor for 14 long hours but I would do it again for my son. He is a true blessing. We named him Bentley Aaron, and he was 7 lbs, 5 oz. Bentley is now 10 years old with one brother and one sister, Braxton James (5), and Brayleigh Nicole (2). We want to have one more child before it's all said and done because we both have always wanted four kids. As of after birth, I lived with my mom until I was 18, (Because I had Bentley actually at 17), for the first year of Bentley's life. After that, we moved into a pretty small home but my parents and Aaron's parents paid rent for us for a 1 1/2 years until we could land on our feet. After that, we lived there until we were 21 and then moved into a huge house with 7 bedrooms and 6 1/2 bath. We still live there and don't plan on moving because we love our house. I was very fortunate, and I won't even deny it. I have been so lucky in my life! Aaron and I have been together 15 years, married 9. I couldn't be happier and I hope any teen mom out there can have half the luck I had. I know it's tough but hang on, don't give up, and believe in yourself. You can do it! :)

I met my boyfriend Aric when I was 15 and started dating weeks later. Aric and I were dedicated to sports. He played football and basketball and I played softball, basketball, ran track and was a cheerleader. Aric 16th birthday was coming and we had a party, Which of course consisted of alcohol. We were completely wasted and one thing lead to another and we had sex. Weeks later I noticed my period never came but I brushed it off thinking it was from stress. Another week went by and I was always tried during practice but that wasn't like me and I noticed my stomach was getting bigger. I asked my older sister to drive me to the doctors. The doctor to me something that would chang me life. I was pregnant. I knew than and there that I had to quit sports and everything. I told Aric and he was upset and happy but I told him not to quit his sports. Our parents didn't take it well but 28 weeks into my pregnancy they eventually started to support us. 9 months later I had my baby girl Heaven and she means the world to me. I am now 17 and am a Junior in High school. Me and Aric are still together.

Hey there, my name is Jessica and i was 17 when i found out i was pregnant, just starting my second year of my automotive apprenticeship. It was not done on purpose I had always know i wanted to be a mother but not at that time we smoked pot every day and i smoked cigarettes but as soon as those double lines showed up on that pregnancy test I was done, done with pot and smoking, i booked myself into my gp to have bloods done then rang my bf (of 3 months) he was 26 and he was over joyed. honestly the thought of abortion did arise but i quickly dismissed it , this was MY baby MY responsibility, my whole family was very supportive but at 3 weeks pregnant and 3 trips to emergency i was diagnosed with hypermeisis gravidium (sp) which is sever morning sickness for weeks i couldnt eat anything i was constantly in and out of hospital until 28 weeks nothing they gave me healed but it calmed i could eat again, i then developed pregnancy carpel tunnel and spd (symphis pubis dysfunction) which made every day chore increasingly difficult but i made it on 24/09/13 i woke up and my eyes would barley open my whole body was swollen and i was retaining fluid in my lower abdomen making it very sensitive i was taken to hospital by my mumma and was told my blood pressure was sky high and was not lowering after 4 hours in birth suit it still hadnt lowered even with the pain med to ease my pain, next thing i knew i was being induced via tape and had to stay over night the whole night i expirienced contractions and got 2 hours sleep the next day once sid (my partner) and my mum went to get coffee my waters broke, off to the birth suit again i was given pitocin after 5.5 hours to speed it up was hooked to monitors and then soon after due to back problem and hip problem (previous surgery) i opted for an epi soon enough i was at 10cm and it was time to push i pushed for a total of 45 mins and was terrified because the cord was around my sweet boys throat every time i pushed his air way was obstructed but he was out i listened , they give him to me and i still listened, he made a small gurgling noise, he wasnt breathing! my baby was quickly taken from me and his airways cleared (this was done 4 more time before leaving hospital) but he was safe, he was alive and he was with me 14.5 hours of active labour over we made our way back to our room exhausted i barley slept because of some insane notion that i would miss his cried , he didnt wake the next day we went home im now 19 , my partner is 28 and our son Marley Rae is 3 weeks off being one, we have our own house, income and everything we could possibly need. we practice attachment parenting and have a loving family, Its not easy and anyone wanting to get pregnant wait, wait until you can afford a baby with no assistance, until you have a man that will stick by you theres never a perfect time but your young wait.
i would never regret my son or my family but its trying.
goodluck to you all x

I'm 17 and I found out that I was pregnant a month after my birthday. I was with my baby's dad for 2 years before I was pregnant. It was a complete accident (condom+ birth control) just an opps type of thing. When I had told him that I was pregnant, he wanted nothing to do with me or the baby. He had wanted for me to try for a natural abortion( OD on Calcium pills, ect.) and because I thought I loved him I had tried and I hate myself for it. When I was about 2 and half month pregnant, I was on a school trip and had an accident and fell down a flight a stairs and that same day, all my pregnancy symptoms had gone away. I hated myself and I thought that I had lost my baby. I was so depressed. When I had gotten home from that trip I had told my grandma that I thought I had a miscarriage ( she did not even know I was pregnant). We had went to the doctor and to my surprise he was perfectly fine:) and everything was great. I had to told my bf about it and he told me that I should get an abortion. I refused and I broke up with him on the spot. After experiencing the pain of thinking I had lost my child, I could not actually loose him. I am now 31 weeks pregnant (Due date Oct. 28th), a senior on online high school (graduate Nov. 6th), work as a nanny, and a going-to-be single mom. But keeping my child is the best decision that I could have ever made. To every teen mom out there just keep your head high and don't let anyone tell you you can't do it. I am doing everything by myself and I could not be more proud of myself and I know my son will be proud of me to. Just know that it is hard and challenging and there is a good chance that you have to do it by yourself. Just because we are teenagers does not mean that we can't be good moms. :)

I'm 16 and I have just taken a positive pregnancy test I'm so worried. I'm a foster kid so I don't have family to look after me I live on my own but I have a boyfriend who has been with me for 5 years now. I'm just so scared he won't want this baby

Your so lucky. Ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years and 7 months and I want a baby so bad. We had a pregnancy scare last year and I was so scared but I started to get excited and I missed my period sure to stress. But it was too late cause I told my mom, and now we can't see each other out of school. Its so hard we're still together and I still text and call him but its so scary. she would've let me talk to him if I was pregnant.
I just want my own little family too. Your so lucky, enjoy them<3

hey there, nice to know that there are people who have been successful durin such problems.. i mean not problems.. situations.. anyways i was searching for a case study for my project.. n if i would use yours hah id be kicked out for inspiring others :P but hey.. gave me immense happiness to know everythings fine..

Hello Teenage mommy's, I found out I was pregnant at 15 1/2 sitting on a toilet at a party I didn't drink because I had a funny feeling something was going on with me that I hadn't ever experienced, I had my baby boy August 9 2011 I was than 16 years old. He is my whole world and me and his daddy's been together 2 1/2 years being a teen mother can be hard but just be there for your baby and be the person your son or daughter would want you too be!! <3 god gives you the most beautiful things here on earth.

Hi my name is Allan and I am using my girlfriend's account. Katrice (my gf) was 15 when she found out that she was pregnant with another guy. Worse, is that she was going out with me! Of course, being the boyfriend of her, I was shocked and anxious. I really love her and don't want anything bad for her to experience, moreover during her pregnancy. So I supported her all the way until now. FYI, she was pregnant to my best friend, which was pretty heartbreaking for me but anything won't stop us. Katrice is now 21 and I am now 23. She is now pregnant of my child and until now we are living a little family here. Zack (our son from Katrice and my best friend) has been an inspiration to me. I love him like my own son. It was not so easy at first, but then we sticked together (And we still do! :-) and got through the problems. Although 5 years ago, Katrice left Zack alone with me and told me that she couldn't do it, due to her depressive moods and she said she couldn't do it, she's not ready to be a mother, I stayed with Zack for 2 years, raising him up by myself, then Katrice went back with us.

sigh >.> Half of you can't even spell properly.

I'm 16 and pregnant with my third child my first lot were twins I'm still with my boyfriend and yes some people might call me a ***** but I wanted it. I'm still at school and making something of my life my boyfriend is older and my mum supports me all the way I've been through hell but wouldn't give charlotte and Abbie up for anything in the world or my unborn child I'm going to be 17 in march and the baby/babies due at the end of this month. I'm not going to say I'll be with my boyfriend forever things change people change but so long as I can give my children the best possible life that will be enough for me people might say I'm stupid but I'm not going to stop having children I love them and yes labour hurts like a mother f***** but I'd do it everyday to get the end result. :)

Wow ya girls I have to slow down and keep those legs close seriously ya making me look bad I'm 15 andwont have sex until my honeymoon

I was 15 about to be 16 when i met boyfriend. at the time when I met him I was going throught a rough stage in my life I had been smokinq marijuana for 2 years befor I met him. I started smoking because for once in mi life I felt like a was part of something. Iits been 8 months siince we've been datiinq and already I'm 2 months pregnant but to tell you the truth we did plan on having a child together but I can promise that I have no regrets on getting pregnant I know times will get hard but me and my boyfriend, or shall I say my future husband :) can handle anything.

Im 16 pregnant ill be 17 in a month im 6 months pregnant.My boyfriends 18 and hes in jail doing 3&half years we have a good relationship but we do argue like most people.Crazy thing is i never even thought of having kids before i was so scared when i found out i was pregnant but i belived my boyfriend when he said he was going to help me and that we would move together but a month later i got a call from the precient saying he was in jail.My world crashed down I couldnt belive it i got really sick for awhile i couldnt even eat i was to depressed.I waited into i was 3 months into i had told my parents and his.My mom didnt take it well she verbly abused me for awhile and my dad and his parents were supportive.My mom got use to it after awhile but her and my boyfriend dont get along at all i go see him in jail every week.Its really stressful that he cant be here even though he wants to i cry a lot because i miss him and wish he never got arrested but all i can do is be there for my son and him.Im a senior to and stopped going to school because i dont want people looking at me and my big belly i dont regret my baby boy at all. I do wish i wouldve waitied and finished school and had a job but what can i do whats done is done.

you shouldn't stop going to school yu know? as education helps.. who cares your pregnent and what not? you want it yu have it..!! let others think what they want to.. but be yourself and act normal.. being pregnent doesnt mean losing yur innocence n missing out on the fun.. ignore those who give sarcastic remarks.. im sure peoplel accept you for what yu are nt for wats wrong.. my advice; have the baby, finish school, get a job, get married n den prove it that yurthe strongest..! :) tc..

I found out I was pregnant when I was 14 I was so scared about telling my parents so in the end I didn't and I got an abortion it was neither what me or the babies daddy wanted but we did it anyway It was horrible I was 10 weeks 4 days I had to go and have a scan they turned the screen away so I couldn't see the baby as I wasn't keeping it!:( I had to go into hospital to get the abortion as the baby had a heart beat its the worst decision I have ever made I regret it everyday and to make it worse my boyfriends sister was pregnant at the same time and only two weeks infront of me so now it's hard seeing her with her son if I could go back and change what I did I would :(

Hey dear i can understand that you are going throgh a troma but babe u cant change it now.. You hv lost ur baby.. Nd u knw what u donn hv to b sad.. Coz wen u ll grow up nd become a working lady or a responsible women then u ll b prepare for giving birth to a child.. Think if u r having a baby right now then u cant even nourish him.. U r not able to give a child everything he or she need.. So firstly b a working women nd then decide to hv a baby.. God bless

I was 14 years old when i met my boyfriend in high school, he was a senior and i was a freshman. I was what you call a "bad girl" and he was a "good boy." well anyways i had a very rough life before i met him, i lived in a bad home. I got melested when i was a child by a family member, then again when i was older by my moms ex boyfriend. My uncle beat me up because he was angry with my aunt and mom, btw it was in front of my little cousins, his daughters. My mom decided itd be best it i live with her bf and he melested me 2 times. My mom didnt believe me and i made a police report & he was recorded on tape admitting it and apoligizing for it. The cops called my mom and asked if she wanted to pursue she lied and told them i didnt. Then my mother still saw him in secret from me even after knowing this man tried to

Rape me! She still didnt believe me. Btw all this happened before i met my bf. while i was going out with my bf she decided to have what she calls a "nervous breakdown." she was abusive she hit me, bruised me, threaten me, everything it was horrible. She told me "i want to stab u with a knife and kill you." when i mean bad i mean badly abused! Oh and i forgot she made a scene at a docs office saying she wanted to give me up for adoption and telling them she cant handle me, which is bs she was the one abusing. Then they sent a social worker

And all that bs she made me act & say everything was okay. Then when i was 15 i got preg by my boyfriend and i decided to move out because i didnt want my baby sleeping in a living room on a couch, condo infested with roaches. She didnt fight me when i moved she wanted me out of there anyways! I was also scared she was gonna hurt me while preg she would get in my face and push me. So i left, and was living there for 17 months raising my daughter. Then my bf and i decide we want to move to another state, so he moves and gets an apartment and job there hes been for a month and half there. We r suposed to move there today me and my daughter were suposed to be on that plane!:'( my mom all of a sudden wants to make me come home with my daughter! I forgot she all of sudden turned into a christian as what they call themselves its not that its a cult! She called the cops and even the cops were saying she wants to be super mom now and finally grew up to take care of u, she made me come back but i left my daughter in the care of my mother in law where i was living just 2 days ago. She even asked the cops about my daughter, she wants my baby she thinks since she failed raising me

And my sister she can take my bby! Btw forgot to mention my sis was doing bad stuff and then she was out one night and was raped. My mom blames her for it and is trying to make her go to the same school where people are going to prob harass her. She didnt let her stay with my dad, she is a control freak. ;( my bf is over there and he is still wowed about this i love him so much! I also forgot to mention we were gonna get married my mom kept bugging about us getting mArried all the time, when he came a d asked her if she would sign me off so we can marry thats when she said no. She is trying to control me and keep me here in 2 months ill be 17 and then i think im going to fight her because she has no right to do this:( i need some advice somebody pleAse! Yesterday was our aniversary 28 months;( and our baby turned a year on the 18! Gosh this is the worst thing in the world:( i am devastated because she wants my daughter

And i decided not to bring her here she is angry i can tell:( i will never have my daughter near her again! Ever

hi teenage moms out there i am isabel. 18 years old right now. i was pregnant when i was 17. And my baby now is turning 1yr old. me and my boyfriend are living together since i was pregnant. but before that were like live in before i got pregnant. he never leaves me or what. he support me as he can. because are family has a financial support, even though its really hard to be a MOTHER. you only not being a mother to your child but being a wife to your husband its really hard.. like now we had an arguement, i feel to broke up with him there are so much pain in my heart but he never appreciate the works i do, i dont know what to do, i love him but i want to broke up on him, :( but how can i move on help me pleaseee...

Hie isabel.. How are you nd ur cute baby??
Dear as my views you should talk about it with ur bf /husband that u r facing problems nd troubles bcoz of his behavior.. Look dear u r grown up guyz with a sweet lil baby so you must not act like kidz anymore.. Just make urself calmdown and talk to him. You guyz have to make ur career too for u nd most importantly for ur baby.. Try to finish ur education and get a job so that u can make urself financially stronger.. Please donn think to leave ur bf or u ll separate ur baby frm his father..

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year and almost 5. Im 16 and hes 18 he works full time I dont really have a job but I am currently looking. We both want to have a baby we know its going to be hard but I know my mom and some of his family will be supportive. We have been trying for a little bit but no luck. If you have any advice good or bad I'd be happy to listen :)

Hello babe.. U didnt mantioned here that u hv completed ur education or not.. Becoz education is must for one"s survival in this age.. Babe after that u must have a job so that u wud make urself financialy stronger.. Babe apart from these thingz u must think about ur age bcoz u r very youg to consieve a child right now.. I am a doctor and i know in the age of 16 ur reproductive organs are not strongly vdeveloped.. Nd its really a high risk for ur health to concieve a baby.. U must be think about it after 18.. Go get a jon finish ur education nd then make plans for kidz.. Till den njoy d beautifull life travel the world and be a lil mature.. Love pihu

im16 and a young mom and when i found out i was pregnant it was NOT good at all wrong place at the wrong time .... and i was little girl myself i did not know anything i was 13 yrs old and i keep telling myself my life is DONE no but when my baby girl was born on FEB 15 ,2011my whole life change i love it know my baby girl is everything to me ...... and every since my mom found out she gave me hell ..... And i just need to know how old you have to be to have custody of your child??

Shes your daughter unless u signed papers for ur mom to have legal custody? If u didnt then u can raise her or make decsions for her how u want

im 16 years old and 7 weeks pregnant.. i started having morning sickness around a week ago .. my boyfriend is 18 and he is very supportive the last couple weeks. seeing so many moms being single mothers because they realize there fathers were not the one scares me. i also have not told my parents i dont know how to tell them or what to even say.. if anybody has any advice it will be greatly appriceated

Tell Your Mom As Soon As Possible I Hid It From Everyone Until I Was Going On Four Month's Its Not Easy , She Will Be Disappointed But It's A Judge Weight Lifted Off Your Sholders Trust Me (:

I am 15 years old, and 22 weeks, 4 days pregnant. I will be 16 by the time I have my baby boy Hayden, and I am still with the father. I also met him when I was 14, and he was 17. He will be 19 by the time we have Hayden. I still live with my mom and step dad, and they're very supporting. They just bought me a new vehicle, and my mom has been paying for everything, and I'm really greatful to have her. I think everything will turn out to be fine if I finish school and do something with my life. My boyfriend has graduated high school, and he's taking classes online in September, and my due date is September 29th.

Teen mom's can be great mothers too. Don't judge someone until you have walked in their shoes. I'm working my hardest for my baby boy, and he has totally changed my life around. It's amazing how someone I haven't even met yet, already has my whole heart. I promise I will make sure he is taken care of, and happy. He is my world, and I'm so glad to have such a wonderful miracle in my life.

Bless all of you teen mothers, we are strong ladies.

Hi I'm 16 and 2 to 4 weeks pregnant. My mom was with me when I went to the doctor to get a test and that's when I found out I was pregnant. I was scared . I thinking that my family will hate me. So far i have the babys. Daddy, my mom, and my aunt to help me. I'm scared of what my uncles might think I love them so much. My mom is a single mother and had me at 17 . I have a feeling that the father of my baby or babies won't be around. Honestly that doesn't effect me ive seen my mother raise me and my brother on her own nd I know I can to . I just hope i don't upset my uncles . I got alot of faith and hope.

Hey there! This is a really amazing story. I'm also a teenage mom. 14 about to be 15, with a wonderful baby boy who has also became my world! I've been with his father for 2 years, and now we have this little family together.

im14 and last month i found out i was pregnant. I was both scared and happy. When i told my boyfriend he didnt get mad or sad or ask if i wanted to get an abortion he had a biggo smile on his face and said he was happy he was going to be dad. Then i had a miscarriage. And now me and my boyfriend he's 17, are PLANNING on having a baby, i know this sounds so stupid but i know hes gonna be there and the fact that i was getting sooo used to the fact that i was having a baby then when i found out i lost it made me want one even more :)



But thank you your story shows you are a strong woman, you have inspired me.

im sixteen, and i found out i was pregnant yesterday. i didn't do it on purpose, nor for attention. i know it's gonna be hard, and as for right now, my boyfriends being really supportive. it's not something to look down on someone for. do you know how scary it is? i would never do this on purpose. but im going to stick it through, and care for my child. i respect your guy's opinions, everyone has them, but not all sixteen year olds do it on purpose.

Sounds like a dreamy fairy tale that really DOESN'T happen to very many REAL teen mommies. (sarcastic)



So don't even think about getting knocked up even with the trueeeee looooove of your life until you're both old enough to get married and support your damn family. :P