This Will Surprise No One


Did you know there is a test? I honestly had no idea.

It could go either way for me...really.

I am fairly sure if I was alone I would become female. However, I am not. I do not live or make decisions for me alone. It's my whole family. Even if I did become a woman...I would still want to be with only women.

That makes it slightly confusing and tricky since I have a great woman...the mother of my wife. I can't just change overnight.

So is it really any wonder that I am probably a transexual? Nope. Does it change anything? Nope. Results of test below

Your COGIATI result value is: 155 Which means that you fall within the following category:
What this means is that the Combined Gender Identity And Transsexuality Inventory has classified your internal gender identity to be essentially feminine, but with some masculine or androgynous traits. It is very possible that you are a candidate for a diagnosis of transsexualism. You show a strong degree of gender dysphoria. At the very least, further investigation should be undertaken. Your COGIATI score places you among the majority of those diagnosed as transsexuals, the 'late onset' tanssexual.
Your situation is potentially serious and indicative of a probable inborn gender conflict. It is definitely recommended that you pursue further action.
The suggestions for your circumstance are several.
It is recommended that you seek help from a sympathetic counselor or professional about your gender issues. It is very possible that over time they will become increasingly difficult to cope with. Early determination of what you really need and want is vital. You need to determine if you truly are transsexual. Keep in mind, thought, that many alternatives exist other than complete sexual transformation. Partial transformation and many other way of existing are available. While you are very possibly a transsexual, COGIATI has determined that this is not absolutely certain. While time is an issue, being certain is more important. Proceed with investigation of your possible transsexuality or transgenderism, but with caution.
Some actions may help you to define your needs more clearly. Experimenting with living full time as a woman, taking hormones for a short time under supervision, or taking testosterone suppressers to observe how you feel are all viable options. Keep in mind that while it is very likely that you might be a transsexual, it is not certain. Do not take severe or permanent actions without long thought and the help of counselors and professionals.
Your gender issues are real, and should not be ignored. Neither should you rush into acting on them, however powerful they may feel. You do not fit the full criterion for the rarest classification, classic transsexuality, and so should be cautious, and open to possibilities. You may yet end up undergoing transition, and the path of the transsexual may well be your salvation. Be very careful, but do not ignore your issues.
If you have not already, consider joining any of the thousands of groups devoted to gender expression of various kinds. There is literally a world of friends to discover who share your interests. There are also publications, vacations, and activities that would expand your gender expression.

Kris99 Kris99
41-45, F
8 Responses Jul 15, 2010

It's really nothing...more confirmation that I am on the right track with the scary or thrilling (it's both sometimes) as that may be.<br />
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I just need to learn how to thread the needle between my wife and I so that we both are happy in our marriage.

I believe Humanity is a gift otherwise wise we would be like all the beasts that roam this planet. Sadly many abuse this gift and thus are no better than the beasts that they look down upon. How we use our talents will decide on what kind of a person we are or will become. Having the ability to decide than just acting on instinct is a gift that all should use wisely.<br />
The spirits I come in contact with are also teachers whether I choose to learn what they teach is again up to me, but I always feel that if even if it is not a positive thing, I still learned from the encounter.

Happy for you Kris, hopefully now you can figure yourself out and move forward with your life.

June, it didn' just confirmed what I knew.<br />
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Liqing, thanks.<br />
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Paddy, I think everyone reacts to the spirits we come in contact's a good thing though, right? <br />
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Isn't that where we get our humanity from?

Mentally, I am Androgyne. I hear where you are coming from. It took me many years (Tears) to finally figure this out. In my mind I am Gender Neutral, I could fall for either sex or neither. Some days the male side seems more dominant on other days its my female side, sex doesn't come into play in this, its all emotional, mental type of thing, physical interaction doesn't really amount to much. I feel its the others "Spirit" that seems to make me react to them like I do. Still don't have all the answers but at least I'm more truthful with myself.

Lol you did btter than me I grew up when big no no so I covinceced my self I was just weird even learned how to supress my mind for awhile never do that im paying the price now

Hey, that's great to know :)<br />
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Glad the test helped you.

You's really not. It explained so much. Like a light bulb went on.<br />
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Oh....that's why. . . .<br />
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I'm pretty happy actually.<br />
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Just trying to figure out the right me now.

I didn't know there was a test, either.<br />
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I can't imagine how difficult it must be for you. Good luck, Kris.