Man In A Dress, Oh Please.

I am sixteen yrs old and have known about my transman identity since I was about ten. I didn't know what it was called till this year though. I have taken the step of telling my family but they aren't all that accepting. In fact, I am not allowed to do anything for myself to become male. I'm not even allowed to talk about it because my mom doesn't want me to currupt my little brother.
To add insult to injury, I am forbidden to go to any dances in anything but a dress and heels. I have to continue portraying myself as a girl till I am on my own. I don't want to screw myself out of some great highschool memories but am I willing to cross dress to do it? I don't know...but I do know that I hate living this way.
Actually if any one has binders or packers or whatever, I'd love to have them. Then I'll get to be who I want to be while she's not looking. My father is more cool with it than my mom. He said that I always acted like the son he never had (Mom and Dad are seperated and my brother is Mom's and her husband's). So anyway that's my story so far and I'd love to have some help figuring out these things. Thanks for reading.
huishere huishere
18-21, T
5 Responses Jul 25, 2010

Be happy now :3 I have only just come out to friends recently but parents are a different story, I won't be able to but atleast you had the strength to share.

My vote, is stay in dresses and be who you are!

That was exactly my situation it was ridiculous and I didn't do anything about it no matter how much I wanted to. I regret it all the time now and I am 22 and still think about it all the time.

Sometimes I just get so mad at some parents. I know they try to help their child sometimes but they're smart right? Why do they not realise that they're hurting them instead!

Wow, that sounds so much like my situation. I am not allowed to talk about it because it worries my sister and embarrasses my family and my mom demands I present myself as a girl when I go to high school. Apparently I would alienate people (and those people aren't worth my time anyway) and I should have people like someone I'm not rather than liking me for me. My dad is more open to it but he doesn't understand why becoming biologically male is something worth pursuing, and I can't figure out how to explain it to him any better, though I've tried and he doesn't seem to be getting it. If you'd like to chat that's cool.