At Tears Just Thinking About It......

Hello. I'm new to this forum and needed some advice and really needed some support on this issue of mine. My name is Yaminah and I am 27 years old. I am married. Have been for 7 years now. We currently have 4 kids and one on the way. My kids ages are: 5,4,2 and 1. We have been struggling all our lives together and we really NEED a better life for ourselves and our children. My husband is 29 years old and has been thinking about going over the road for the money. We have NEVER been apart for more than a week. I am so SCARED and NERVOUS about him going over the road. First he would have to leave for a month for schooling and then he'll be working over the road. I don't have ANY help from anyone barely. My mom is 4 hours away and we don't have a good relationship at all. So if I need some help what will I do? At the same time I can't help but think about the money and what it could do for me and my family. We need a bigger home, we need a better car etc, etc. I'm not sure if I can deal with the kids, the home and my pregnancy all on my own. I'm so used to having some help that I wouldn't know what to do with myself. I'm just in the state of mind to just tell him to get on the road and make the money but I'm afraid that will put to much on myself as well. But who wants to keep living like this? What should I do?
yaminah yaminah
26-30
1 Response Aug 8, 2010

I know how you feel. I've got a little one on the way as well. Just always remember that he's not doing this for selfish reasons. He's doing it to keep your family afloat. It will be hard at first. Trust me, it's not easy. But in time you'll come to get the hang of it. The #2 most important things are to keep communication & trust.