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People say that true hermaphroditism does not exist in humans; I can tell you for definite that it does. It's true that you cannot have a fully functional and complete set of both genitals together, but I was born with one ovary and one testicle, and that makes me a hermaphrodite.

When I was born, the doctor & midwife couldn't decide if I was a boy or a girl. My genitals were sort of partway inbetween, neither one nor the other. My mother was advised to put me through surgery to make it all look female, and raise me as a girl.

But my mother was smart and forward-thinking (she was a hippie, and a bit of an anarchist,which probably helped). She asked the doctor this. "If you make her a girl, then later he grows up and decides that he's a boy, is the surgery reversible?" The doctor said no. So she told them to leave me alone until I was sure what gender I was.

So my birth certificate said "Gender Unknown", I was given a unisex name and for the first two years of my life I was raised more or less without gender at all. I had numerous tests, most of which were still inconclusive. I had one internal testicle and one ovary, I had hypospadias, which means that my penis was very small and the urethra was at the base rather than the tip. My scrotum, which had nothing inside it, was divided and rather than being behind my penis, was further forward, half on each side. Other than the ovary I had no other internal female organs.

By the time I was old enough to run about and play, it was fairly apparent that I was a typical boy, so at the age of about 4 I had surgery on my genitals to make it look more like a boy's, to re-position my scrotum and extend the urethra to the correct position. The rogue ovary was removed.

Puberty was an anxious time because there was no guarantee that my single testicle would produce enough testosterone. I was a late developer but my voice did start to drop at roundabout the age of 16. However there wasn't enough testosterone so I had to take tablets for that. (many years later it was discovered that oral testosterone is dangerous as it can damage the liver - fortunately I escaped that particular problem).

When I finished puberty at about 21 I had further genital surgery, because everything had grown, and I had my first set of testicular implants - over the years those have been replaced a few times as better and safer materials have been found. I still need extra testosterone, which I now have as an injection four times a year.

Throughout my adult life I have been fighting a legal and bureaucratic battle to get the gender on my birth certificate changed to male. This was finally made possible by a change in the law in 2005, and it was corrected that same year, just before by 40th birthday.

Sometimes I wonder what might have happened if I had been raised as a girl, as the doctor at my birth had suggested. Would I have been happy? Or would I have realised that I was a boy inside, and wanted to change back? I am incredibly lucky that my mum was as strong-willed as she is; it's entirely because of her determination and her refusal to back down, that I am the man I am today.

Thanks, mum.
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I'm a bisexual and my male partner is intersexed but his vagina is literally inside his anus it has cycles as well just like a regular girl does now my question is does anyone on here have this or have you heard of it because I'm trying to get him compfortable with his/her body I was looking for people like him/her he coulf talk to so he doesn't feel so different because to me its cool and to him he feels shy about his vagina is there a group or website online h

Is there any support groups out there?

I don't think a prostate is above the bladder. so if anybody to help me i have mood swings. and everybody thinks I'm crazy. but they can explain to me why I'm bleeding. damn them doctors. email me if you know something or someone can help me.at witchplayer69@gmail.com

If anybody out there that knows where I can get help it email me please. the doctor gave me a prostate exam last week. he had to show his fingers all the way up inside of me to find a lump. and he can feel your touch with his two fingers. and that's not what prostate is.

I guess they can't believe a male can bleed. what makes you cry if I have a uterus which I know have a cervix. I want to have a baby. Idaho's doc to suck

I need to help from you guys I have very high hips. I started bleeding a week early. I have hands like a female long index finger short ring finger. doctors will not help me I cry almost every day now my email is witchplayer69@gmail.com

I am a true hermaphrodite. I have very high hopes for mail

Do you have a Vaginal Canal inside? Ya could have the best of both worlds, if yer girl straps one on....just a thought

I am a lesbian woman. Very high sex drive. I love the feeling of a penis inside @ the same time didn't like men giving it to me. So, I met a women who could I mean **** me so good. I never saw her put a ***** on or bring one out. Which she I had already been told that she had a penis by someone else that knew I knew her. Butt **** honestly i wish I could find her or another woman like her because I wanna and need to get ****** by a woman like that again! S O O N.

I can possibly help with that.

I know hermaphrodites r real i had sex with one who can get herself pregnant

That is a LIE and you know it. If true that person would be the Most Famous of all. could ya ask "IT" to do just that, [get itself pregnant] to show the world it is possible to have a working penis (and testes) as well as a working Uterus (and Vagina).
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There will be a DNA test of this "child" done on the Maury Povich Show....Just a Thought

We're going to doctor oz then i have nothin to hide

It's not a lie. I had enough of both genders to get myself pregnant. The babies wouldn't live because of developmental problems but pregnancy can happen. I am a woman now, though.

you are a great example to other's and mother to

That was an amazing story,thank you for sharing it x

You had a very wise mother. I don't understand why it is so important to make this decision at birth. If it does not impact the health of the child, why not wait and see what the child wants, even if it takes into adulthood. I can understand the problems a child may have at school. However, I wonder if the classmates were told the truth about the situation and that you were blessed with the opportunity to choose to be a man or a woman and you are trying both ways just to see which is best for you. Certainly a child might be a curiosity but, I think if the classmates were given the information the proper way they might be very supportive. I don't know anything about this. I don't have children and never liked being a child, but I would think that for anyone intersexed it would be shameful for a parent or a doctor to make the decision for the child before the child has time time and the information to at least take a part in the decision. Again, if the health of the child is not in danger, why rush this process?

I guess if you have the attributes of both male and female then that makes you a hermaphrodite.when i went thru puberty my breasts got sore and began to swell and even seeped a milky fluid. It was like my body wasn't sure which way to go.until i was 30 i lived my life as a male.then my body began to change on its own. my breasts began to grow and my hips and butt became more rounded even my facial ex<x>pression changed and became more feminine looking.(I have the pictures) to prove it. On the out side i look totally female but i also have the male plumbing i was born with i have a beautiful pair of 46-DD breasts too.not implants. they are all natural all real all me.

it apparently does work out sometimes, i am heppy it worked out for you, but it seems they do what they hope is best. i am not sure i qualify as a hermaphrodite, but a doctor, advised my mom, when i was born, that they i had a tiny penis, it was attached tothe top of what was to be scrotal area. it was severed,. i had 6 operations on my genital area for the next 10 years, i was given shots each week for most of the years. about puberty, i was put on teatoserone pills, and have taken them most of my life. Sad part for me is i hate being male, everything about it, i hate the way it makes me feel when i take the testoserone. i quit taking testosterone a lot, , but usually take them. i quess i am writing this to tell you , that you are lucky, your mom saved you from a lifetime of misery.your mom was a strong woman, back then the normal thing to do was what they did to me, they picked for you. I have to find peace just living my life as a woman, wondering why me?

I'm sorry it didn't work out so well for you.

I can't imagine not being able to have the choice such as you did. I wonder how often parents decide at birth? Of course, if you didn't identify with your sex appropriately, and the roles that go along with sexual identity, you would most likely not have been happy. congrats on having a good mother and being able to live your life as you are.

Thanks. I was very unusual and very lucky, nearly _everyone_ at that time with my condition was raised as a girl. I'm pretty sure that if I had bee, I would have wanted a sex-change later in life.