The Pains That Come With Being a Twin.


Many of us who have brothers or sisters will know just how frustrating it can be to get along at times.    Well just imagine how much worse it would be to try and get along with a fraternal twin, and trust me I know, I’m talking from my own experience of being a twin. 


I have countless people come up to me with a dreamy look in their eyes saying “I wish I was a twin – I would love to have someone my own age to play with.”  


I have no doubt you’re imagining those famous movie twins from ‘The Parent Trap’, or ‘Finding Mary Kate and Ashley’  Their dazzling identical smiles and exotic twin powers are enough to charm the pants off anyone!


When I say ‘twins’ you probably think of identical twins with matching clothes.       

You know, the type who finish off each others sentences and know exactly what the other is thinking. Yes, there are some twins who really do act like that - I’m not denying it; I’ve met twins like that myself and have found them dizzying to look at let alone talk to.


However it is a common prejudice that people think all twins will be identical, cute, and mirror personalities of each other.  In most cases this image is very wrong!


I for one do not have this mirror image kind of relationship with my sister and at the worst of times it can be a much, much uglier picture.


Have you ever really stopped to think of what it is like to be a twin?


    Imagine You and your ‘twin’ are screaming loud enough to raise the entire neighbourhood at five in the morning because you can’t decide who is to wear the rainbow undies.   

   Imagine having your hair yanked out because you were naughty and used her favourite red marker.

   Imagine being made to take the blame for something you didn’t do just because your twin sister lied and said you did it. It will always be her word against yours.

   Imagine how your friends will forever be comparing you to your sister.       

   Imagine always being defined as “The Twins”

    Imagine always having to compete against your ‘other’.   Having a twin is like having a shadow that will never leave you alone,


 That is what having a twin is like for me.  My sister and I are two incredibly different individuals.  We look completely different, we talk differently, we act differently and have separate beliefs and values.  We have different interests - most of them at extreme opposite ends of the scale. I was always more of an intellectual who excelled academically whereas my sister enjoys physical activity.     No matter how different we were, we still had to share our room, our toys, our clothes, our school, our class, our friends, and its no wonder that we spelled double trouble!  If we had just been two classmates we wouldn’t have thought twice about befriending each other we’re just too different.


Unlike classmates though, we don’t have the choice of ‘not’ knowing each other.  We are forced to endure each others company everyday.  


We drive each other around the twist and what usually starts off as a little tiff can turn into a violent fight.


Relief, relief by high school we were to much for our parents and were split into different schools.     I revel in those hours when I can pretend I don’t have a twin.  But at the end of the day she is always there barging through my bedroom door and accusing me of ‘stealing’ something that belonged to her when actually it was given to both of us.  


We spent our entire childhood sharing things and there were times when we wanted to have our own things that we could rightfully say was 'mine' instead of 'ours'.  Somehow it never quite worked out that way.


To this very day my sister always seems to think she has a right to help herself to my underwear whenever she can’t find her own.  She always thinks she can just nip into my room and take my headphones. Its very irritating to find my sister has taken something just when I want it most!   I guess  we have grown so used to having to share things she doesn't quite know where to draw the line   I tell her once in a nice tone not to do it. I try to be nice and understanding when really all I want to do is rip her head off.  I tell her twice in a stern tone, I try to be angry and threatening, I tell her a million times “Don’t take my things, they are not yours”  yet she still doesn’t get the message!


 Its drives both of us insane when we unknowingly cross each other’s line.   It has driven me to put a lock on my bedroom door.  (she has taken to climbing through my window now)


  Who said twins had to like each other?  How on earth did people come up with the idea that twins would be the best of friends and live happily ever after?  


With your friends you can atleast send them home when you get tired of them.  I can’t just ‘send’ my sister away when I get tired of her. I have to live with it. We will always be tied together by our birthdays and genes.


 Please, tell me you don’t want a twin after all I’ve said?   If you do, you are probably a deluded nutcase!

Having a twin can drive you insane to the point where your bed time reading becomes the home security catalogues!


deleted deleted 26-30 165 Responses Oct 2, 2008

Your Response


Add a response...

I have a fraternal twin sister. I'm older by two minutes. We are really close sisters, even though we fight A LOT!!! We shared a bed and room for nine years. We still have many sleepovers. We have all of the same friends. That can be annoying. When we moved in 4th grade, in the beginning of the year a girl from my sister's class invited her to her birthday party. I was not invited. That isn't fair. We recently got our own rooms, but she still hangs out in MY room. Her room is about 1/4 bigger than mine. She is the smart one, tall one, reader, gymnast, writer, poet, athletic, friendly one, and actor. I'm only the sociable one, talkative one, dancer, and shy one. Everyone likes her better. People ask us who is older, and guess my sister just because she is taller. My cousins who I have known for about a decade think my sister is older. My friends don't know that I'm older. Some of my family don't know either. They think she is mature. I think she is a little serious at times. We had lockers next to each other because they assign lockers alphabetically. I decorated five of my friends lockers. My sister decorated three lockers. My friends like her better. In a class, we were asked to pick some friends to be in our group. Then we had to star a favorite person. All my friends picked my sister. I did, too. She picked me, too. :) I call, text, email, and video chat/FaceTime/Skype my friends. My sister will stay inside and won't play outside with me. Once in while she will say yes. We take many selfies. She breaks my stuff, I break my stuff, too. She broke my camera. I broke my iPod. Her stuff is safe for now. We wanted the same school backpack this year until we new that both of us wanted it. We don't want to be twinning. I got it after a lot of you should have it, no you should have it. We compete with each other. It is friendly competition. When we are going to college I am going to be so sad to be going to a different college than her (maybe, maybe not). I love her soooo much!!! We are definently Best Friends Forever!!!👭

Well if you would like to bond with fun challenges and compete for a large cash prize with your twin, I'm casting a new show centered on identical twins. It's going to be a good time!

I have a identical twin ever since we were little we looked alike but as years go by she looks more mature and I still have my baby face as other people say. And I have the exact problem just like you! We fight alot but most of the times it's because she thinks I stole something from her when I never did. (She just normally loses something in her room) We go to the same school and even the same classes! Everywhere I turn I see her somewhere close by... it's really annoying because if I go somewhere she justs has to know where I am! Sure I am a bit smarter than her but then people begin to compare and contrast us like nothing! She has a better body, she speaks deeper, and etc... My mom always says we are suppose to be really nice to each other like if we were in some fairy tale but we're NOT! And yes I do have other friends who are twins and yeah some are like BFF's but we aren't. I wanted to wear the same clothing like when we were little but now she doesn't even want to wear the same clothes as me! :( Being a twin sure does have it's ups and downs...

Would you be on a competition tv show with your twin to compete against other twins for a large cash prize?

No because I don't like showing on tv lol

Bonding Experience! We wont air your dirty laundry.

<p>Add a response...</p>there are m any different reasons that can effect how fraternal or identical twins behave towards each other. in my case, our mother had died giving birth to us. my father got married when we were ten months old. she wanted him but not us. he worked long hours away from home and she was our caregiver. I don't have a memory of anything before I was four or five and when I do its memories of abuse by the stepmother. she took my sister under her wing to groom her the way she wanted and I was the one that got the beatings when her day didn't go well or my father got mad at her for various reasons.<br />
<br />
by the time we entered high school, my sister was also beating on me. we moved to another city and I finally got a break having my own bedroom. my sister and I had different friends in school; me with people I had something in common with, her with the "in" crowd. she always needed to be with people that had money and got a lot of attention. yes she has always been a shallow person.<br />
<br />
when she married and I was her bridesmaid (only because she had to have me) I caught the bouquet. she yanked it back out of my hands in front of my co-workers who came to the wedding from an hour away. the whole next week they talked about what a b.... my sister was.<br />
<br />
she has made trouble and lied through marriage and raising children to the point I had to break it off with her when my children were very young. she was jealous of my daughter and son whom I had before she had a girl. she flatly told me at her wedding (I was still single) that she was going to have the first grandchild. due to medical reasons, I had my two before she had her daughter. I hardly think that is something to get wild about but she did. she made life unbearable for me. she is also to blame for advising me to have an abortion when my husband died and I was only a few months pregnant.<br />
<br />
I could write a book about this woman but who needs to read such horrible stories.<br />
<br />
when my father died in January 2000 she called me and told me not to come to his city that he wasn't going to have a funeral that he was going to be cremated. well I found out five years later that the day she called was the day of his funeral. all my relatives think badly of me not going to his funeral. I can't try to tell everyone about what she did. I feel it would make things look worse so I stay to myself, visit no one and don't have a relationship with any family but my children.<br />
<br />
last july after my sister retired from 40 years of teaching at a catholic school she went to my daughters work site which is four hours from her home and starting making trouble again. why would she visit my daughter who she hadn't seen in 35 years? now my relationship with my daughter is shaky and my daughter is now friends with her on facebook. this is killing me as my daughter has blocked me from facebook.<br />
<br />
I believe if you are honest you still can't win. this past two years has caused me a lot of mental anguish and physical problems. I going to be 65 and pray to God every day to help me get through these hard times.<br />
<br />
I have learned that a liar does influence people but I don't know what kind of people. my sister could sell you a boat even if you lived in the desert.

Know the feeling. I love my sister and all but I really can't stand being twins. Not only am I a twin but I'm also a glass child. My sister is disabled. I swear if I had a dollar for every time someone was shocked we were twins I could go to collage, buy a mansion, a yot, and still have a ton left over. I really feel for ya.

I am a female with a fraternal twin sister. We are polar opposites as far as personalities, temperments, interests and hobbies. Ever since we were toddlers she has been the bossy one and I was always shy and more laid back. I hate it when people say, "There's always one twin who is the strong one and one who is the weaker one." Being the "weaker" one, I really resent that insensitive language. By the way, we will be 60 on our next birthday (in January) and still have people ask, "Ooh, what's it like to be a twin?" They just assume that you and your twin are TOTAL soulmates and that your twin would give her left arm for you! My twin has always resented me ~ she was the brainy one but I was the sweet one who got along with our parents better and I think that bothered her. Ok, go ahead and say it ~ I have issues. Yes, I'll admit that I do.

Sorry to hear all the negative stories about Twins. I wouldn't trade the relationship with my twin brother for anything. Been my constant companion for 26 years and I don't see that changing in the next 26 years.

Would you and your brother be interested in competing against other twins for a large cash prize on a major cable network? It's like big brother but more fun.

As a mother of just two year old twin boys, I was wondering your age when you wrote this? I'm sorry to read that you feel so negatively about being a twin. My boys are so close and sweet to each other and I hope, idealistic as it is they are forever friends. I lost my brothers to a nasty family secret I would not keep, and theres a hole there. Even though, yeah they are kinda a holes. Time changes everything, thats what I want to say to you. You can't know it until you see it yourself. I hope you find some positives in there. I know I would not want my twins any other way. Good luck.

I am a twin as well. We are extreme opposites in that i socialize very much and he is always at home with my parents.So naturally my parents like him more.Fortunately i have always been more successful with grades.The whole twins should be best friends is quite a burden.Society expects a cute bff relationship from complete opposites.Text anyone and the first response is "how is your brother?" We are now in our early 20's and still family cannot allow me to do anything without checking if my brother is doing it too.I see a job i like,make sure your brother has applied as well,i want to go see a movie,make sure you go with your brother.I want to go eat something,make sure you get some for your brother.Dont even get me started on how sharing a room has given me no privacy.Even my wallet can be searched at any time and parents think you're twins whats wrong with that?? Now i chose to do economics and guess what we both had to apply and are in the same class.Now it gets worse in that i am forced to do everything that he is planning to do.He wants to do a course in law,i have to do it too.He wants to travel,i have to go too. Sometimes it feels like being a twin is like taking any random stranger and making him look like you and then having to share everything...i mean everything... forever.If i ask my dad to get me anything?? say a shirt or shoes or even a laptop..he will get two.Suddenly you dont know who owns what and arguments fill the day.I can never enjoy being an individual..I am a twin. Now my dad has bought a house for us to live in after our degrees are done.lo and behold,its in both our names.

And by the way,dad just opened up a bank account so he can send us money to share.. we have one atm card and every expense must be discussed,imagine? an outgoing person sharing an account with a home staying person and having to justify needing to pull out money for a beer.

Why not do tv together to? I'm casting a new competition show that's about twins competing against other twins for a large cash prize. It would be a great bonding experience, and if you win you could buy your own house.

I understand what you're going through with my identical twin. I am always considered "the clone" because I was born second. People forget my name and call me by his name instead. He's smarter than I am, so I am considered the dumb one.

I know exactly how you feel. I'm an identical twin and we always get lumped. He however is considered the "better twin". He gets better grades, is liked by our friends better, and I'm even kind of sure that my prom date wants to go with him ( even though he has a date already). I just can't wait for the day when we can be thought of as individuals and not the same person.

I would love an identical twin, due to the pain of no one understanding me. No matter how annoying they would be, at least they could understand. Also, the fact that you share everything and she steals from you is ridiculous, your parents think you're those fairytale twins, when you need to tell them you're far from that image. Siblings in general are tough to deal with, but a twin you have to share your possessions with? God, help us. At least my twin friends have their own separate possessions and when one picks up another's item, they just talk it out and get over it. I find that identical twins find it easier to tolerate and live and befriend each other, while fraternal twins have more sibling problems. Also, if your "friends" are comparing you constantly to you FRATERNAL twin, they are either retarded, blind, or not your true friends. Hope things get better for you.

I know right! I have a twin and she drives me bonkers! I'm sturdier built, as I help my dad fix fencecs, carry heavy poles, an work on the barn. I'm short, but I'm broad shouldered. My twin is tall and skinny,as she doesn't do anything but sit on the computer. Everyone likes her more than me just because I beat them at arm wrestling, don't wear make up, nd aren't as skinny as my twin. Even my bestfriends now likes her over me. (We aren't best freinds anymore)

I'm an identical twin who's trying to establish my identity as ME, and this really describes everything I feel and what I'm living. My twin and I have gone to the same school with the same friends and teachers for 10 straight years, and so everyone knows us as just "the twins," when we're really so different, but not even my best friends see it! It's good to know that I'm not the only one who finally agrees with me!

Hello my name is Inaja and I am doing a paper on twins and I wanted to know can I ask you three questions on being a twin?

It's fine with me. What do you want to know?

I have a twin sister and we usually get along well but sometimes we have big arguments over stupid things. We're very different from each over, she's loud, I'm quiet.
We share a room and have the same friends so we are around each over nearly all the time.
The worst thing is when she always wants to invite our friends to our house but I can't be bothered :(
We are also constantly referred to as 'the twins' which annoys me.
I can't wait to go to university so I can make my own friends. I know it's selfish but I hope she won't make friends with the people I meet at uni. I want more individuality!

Same here! I totally get it!

i know how you feel i have a twin sister too and every one knows me as one of the 'twins' my name is hania and her name is zinia people dont give a **** , to them my name is 'Hania ,Zinia' and so is hers . they dont think its really necessary to take the time and notice how different we are to me in pictures we look extremely different to them its like i took a picture with a mirror !

I know how you feel me and my brother are twins sadly much like you and your sister. We look nothing alike, we have nothing in common. I am 23 and I still have to share a room with him. He takes my things, eats my food, and he has taken my money on a few occaisions because he said it wasn't fair that I had money and he didn't even though I worked for it. My some of my recent friends when they hear I'm a twin go on about how lucky I am to have a twin and how they wish they had one. If only they knew that meant not having your own birthday, or high school graduation, or even something a simple as a room to call your own. I am a twin and I hate it and I hate him.

i know right? i mean a birthday is supposed to be My day not Our day ! other siblings can say "be nice to me its my birthday today" but i cant even say anything about well..anything

Was writing something on twins when I bumped into this. Didn't know it's that bad. I'm guilty of treating twins as unit, now I'll have to change.

I'm not even a twin and I NEVER treated twins as a unit! I don't understand why people do that?!

I absolutely 110% agree.

 I have a fraternal twin sister, and I don't like it. I hate being called as "the twins" or "the sisters". I also hate when ppl are talking to me and using plural. i want to be seen as an individual :(. since childhood we are inseparable but not with our choice, same highschool, now same university, what can we do, we have the same interests :/... reason i ended up on this site is because lately i have been depressed since it turned out the guy I like for three years already, likes my sister! sad part is that even though we are fraternal twins, we are very simillar and to ppl is hard to believe that we are not identical... so why the hell did he choose my sister instead?! He is always saying to my sister that she is "the cheerful one" which is entirely not true, he got that impression just because I like him, and we all behave a bit different in front of those we like. she doesn't like him, which is a plus but doesn't mean anything as it appears I already lost the battle. I don't know what to do anymore! Continue liking him or just admit my defeat and move on. My sister is trying to help me by getting him hang out with us more, but at the same time it means he gets to spend more time with her and getting to know her, I'm just waiting for the day when he'll think of me only as an unwanted extra in the way >.<"

My twin ruined a year of my life : I'm 17 and I have an identical twin brother (well, the doctors never could tell. but we look very similar) I think being a twin is great! There are alot of advantages if you get along. It means that ive always had a best freind since I was born and we laugh and joke alot. I have complete faith in him and alot of people fdont have that in someone. We are extremly close twins perhaps because our dad died when we were 9 which meant our family was really close.

Generally speaking, I am probably more academic than him and more sporty but I am much lees motivated and work less but often i achieve better results. In my exam year at school I suffered alot because of him. He stressed the entire family out whilst studying and he turned his study time into a fulls scale lifestyle choice. He would isolate himself socially and worked every minute evry hour- he eventually failed because he was suffering from axiety and insomnia because of his stress. I did better than him in the results but they werent outstanding. It was because he made me study like he did nd he made me isolate myself, he bullied me into starting new courses, weeks before the exams! just so that i would achieve more highly. It was ludicrous but i can never say no to him. So really he messed my exam year up and it pissed me off. but he failed badly ad had problems so i never got on at him about it.

I got my first girlfreind(she was a bomb shell) after my exams and I spent most of the summer with her- he tagged along sometimes and it really pissed me off, he was pretty jelous as well. He didnt approve of her however, he made me think all the bad things about her were true. We broke up because I started to believe that she was a bad person and he tried to break us up the whole time- I loved her and it has been a hard few months after the break up. He always lectures me about morality as well and wants me to be like him. This year has shown me that we need to grow apart and I need to be able to make my own decisions.

However, now that we have started a new school year. We have started fighting really badly. Soemtimes we live in other famly members hoouses to get a break.

but now He has backed the **** off. He wants to be different people just as much as I do which is quite relievin g and now we are separating. He is going to study law and i'm going to study politics with law. We both have very similar interests in that respect. But we will be going to different universities now which means for the first time I can make friends without being a twin!

I also dont have loads of freinds at the moment, in the early school years he began to fall out with a lot of people and I had to defend him. I wasnt going to be freinds with people who were mean to him! So his enemies bcame my enemies and eventually I found it hard to make feinds. Of course ive had plenty of frends in the past. But I dont have many friends right now because I was forced into isolation and im just raisng my social status aagain. but he still manages to fall out with people and it makes it hard. Im not a loner or anything. plenty people like me and i chat to alot of people but its hard when hees a recluse and he comes up to me chatting. I feel bad for him thoough. he seems happy on his own though and he is feircly confident in certain situatons, when managing a team and giving public speeches. he is a great leader, a great military leader infact. He is a very competant and driven person.

I think that if you are a twin you tend not to make as many ffreinds, esepcially if you have some difficulty. You can just have your twin as your freind its easier just to rely on them rather than forge freindships. It is only now when we have sepertaed that I have started to feel lonely and it has forced me to go out and make new friends. Which is what I have done. Im much more outgoing and social now and i have more social oppertunities.

My advice to any other twins? Make a genuine effort to become an individual and try to dissasociate yourself while you still can. Do it nnow, go for it. It will make it easier to make big decisions because I am used to consulting my twin to see what he thinks. Its debilitating really. So I will seperate and forge a better life for myslef and I will not be brought down by him. And he wont be brught down by me. We need to learn to let each other fail and succeed at our own peril. but support each other when we need to.

You know another thing that annoys me. He thinks he ahs rights to girls and there attention if they like me! he has a sense of entighltment! it reaally anoys me.

Anyway, thanks for reading guys!

I feel exactly the same way. When I first got my first boyfriend, I found out she (my twin) had started talking to him behind my back. We broke up, nd now everyone has her in center of attention. I always feel left out, which is why I now have a fear of talking to people, people looking at me, or even when my bestfriend talks to me. Having a twin has ruined my WHOLE life. It really ****** me off.

being a twin can be weird but blaming your twin ( and I am a twin) because some random guy stopped liking you is kinda ridiculous my twin sister makes me crazy and 'm pretty sure i make her crazy too but she's ruining your life girl? think you need a deep breath or counseling

Just remember, instead of being their enemy, they might just need a friend. They probably feel the exact same way. I have befriended my fair share of pairs and it usually turns out that they feel the same way on both sides of the equation.

I have a twin sister and sometimes we fight (which is normal) and other times we get along really well, we share our opinions about our classmates. The thing that we both hate the most is being called "The Twins", as you said! This is so annoying and saddening... I hate being called "Hey, Twin! Come here!" or "Twins, did you do this..." They think we are one person, hello, we are TWO DIFFERENT individuals! They put us under a common denominator! We dont look alike, we have different personalities and attitude, its so unfair... They should treat us as two different classmates, but i guess its just impossible, since we're always together and inseperable. >:'(

It's good that you have started to type out these feelings to let them out, but now it's time to get them into the air around us. Instead of bottling up your anger, you need to take a deep breath and have a serious discussion with your twin about what annoys you and what doesn't. Then, whether you're standing alone or with your twin, tell your classmates gently that you dislike being called this or when they do this, etc. If they still do not stop, then tell a teacher, your parents, or just tell them more seriously. The first step to being an individual is standing up for your opinions.

Oh my gosh YES!!! And when I try to tell them to stop, they just get pissed off and ask me why I'm such a jerk. I am so glad SOMEONE finally, AUTHENTICALLY understands instead of the old, 'yeah I get it.' when they really don't care.

I'm a girl with a twin brother. As a child it was always look after your brother ur 9 minutes older so ur more mature... (seriously) I also go to feel my brothers pain which is bloody great being in agony cause my assshole brother got in a fight. Also I'm a girl so I should clean up after him I should also be a girl wear girly things and play girly games. I was a better boy than my brother was! Then we grow up. I'm taking care of my mom and despite having barely enough to feed myself I was paaying for food for my mom cause while I was off studying by brother was bludging and leaving my mom broke and with no food despite the fact he had a full time job paying out a grand or more a week... but he needed his drugs and alcohol and mom was too scared to kick him out. Enventualy he leaves to join a gang and instead gets his *** thrown in prision. So being the nice person I am I give him some money for barthroom crap and magazines until I find outhe spent it on drugs. When he gets out I buy him a phonecharger write his cv get him some pants for work but get told I'm disrepecting him cause he can't handle a little dumb blonde joke (he isn't even blonde) and so I tell him to find someone else to use and abuse (I had previously had a protection order on him as he used to beat me black and blue and never apologized once) and now I again get to feel like I've been punch in the eye because he got into a fight even though I have cut him out completely. All the whyle getting told 'you have a twin! That's soo cool'

im a twin in 7th grade and I want to do something different than her but my parents wont let me

It depends, I think your problem is your twin is a prat, pardon my french. She sounds like any other sibling. I don't have a twin but I have a baby sister born the day after me (twelve years apart), I don't care that our birthdays sometimes get lumped together or if she borrows my stuff. From the sound of it both you and your sister need to grow up a little and learn to settle your difference as family and not blame it on you being 'twins'.

I think that it depends on the family experience to determine how being a twin would feel. I am a twin, and we look SUPER alike... To other people that is... We both say we look SO different! Anywho, I love being a twin. Yes, I have ranted off to my mom and sister multiple times about how we are individuals, and not just "The Girls" Or "The Twins", but it is not extremely bad, and sometimes I like it. For instance, one of my role models calls us the twinners, and so does our dad, but they can tell us apart too!

Personally, I think the hardest thing about being a twin, is when people like your twin more than than you. It used to really hurt my feelings, but now, I have matured a little bit... (I am a teenager) And it does not bother me as much. But really, it can hurt. We both are really good friends with a boy, and he really likes us... and whenever he chat's with my sister, he says she is beautiful, and says: Love you at then end, but still... That does not matter. You don't need to be involved in relationships in high school. worry about that stuff later, and you can just have fun!

Also, my sister is DEFINITElY the good one at school... We are Home schooled/charter schooled, and at the charter school, she gets 90-100% on tests... And I usually get around... 66-80%... even though I work just as hard as her. And she is really good at writing poems, but I am better than her at running, and doing hair. She is also the quieter one... Seriously. I just got worse this month. She used to be as outgoing as me, but now she is so quiet that in some classes, she almost cries when the teacher calls on her to talk in front of the class. (This has nothing to do with the fact that we are homeschooled) And I am the outgoing one.... I pretty much make all of our friends... But we share friends, and none of our really good friends like either more.

Another fun thing about being a twin is some of the questions... While sometimes it's really embarrassing when people make it a huge deal that we are twins, sometimes when people ask us questions, it's really hard not to laugh! One boy asked us if "If I punch you? Will she feel it??" And we were just like: I dunno, why don't you try? Uh. NO! And some people ask if we have telepathy and stuff. Although we DO finish each others sentences occasionally, it is super rare, and we say things at the same time a lot, and whenever we do, people exchange weird glances... it's kind of annoying, while at the same time, funny!

I am sooo lucky to be a twin! I know a lot of people hate being twins, and that's okay. I used to be going down that road. With twins, you are not just automaticly friends, you have to become friends! It's fine to tell people they are lucky to be twins! Because they are! Just look at life optimistically! Although, in some cases, I completely understand how you would not like your twin. I think the only thing that really buggs me about my twin is her obvious inability to keep secrets. I tell her EVERYTHING, some things a little more embarrassing than others... And she blurts them out at the dinner table!!! And we always have a crush on the same person... (At least the majority of the time) And she is the only person who I can go crazy with completely. I LOVE HER!...Just sayin..... So yeah. Being a twin is AWESOME!

I think like you too. I have a non-ıdentical twin and ı love her. I feel really comfortable around her and tell everything No matter how emberassing it is and she keeps them. From our childhood we shared everything and my best memories are with her. We understand each other the best.
We don't look similar and we have different interests like she is more academic and ı like arts more. I hate people comparing us like she is clever you are not but it is not her fault. Also sometimes we fight and our fights are really ABD like she broke my tailbone:( ı really love her and ı am very happy to have a twin

Being a twin is lucky if you can treat eachother civilly, not as one unit, try not to compete with eachother, and be best of friends....try to enjoy this companionship and revel in your differences...not what makes you identical! Have friends and family call you by your respective names, not use "the twins" and try to have sepaerate classes and hobbies unique to yourselves!

Amen! I'm an identical twin and I hate it. Me and my twin sister were, supposedly, born from the same zygote. So everything about us, genetically, is exactly the same. Our body types are exactly the same and our mentalities our exactly the same. But! We are two completely different people as individuals. Seriously, we are NOTHING alike. I'm more rough around the edges, a tomboy who's into punk anything and everything. I'm mellow in a loner type of way and I don't have many friends. My sister is more of a girly-girl and is more talkative and popular. She likes hip hop and R&B and hates the genres I listen to. She has more friends and is more social. She's more colorful and upbeat. I'm more kept to myself, and I'm comfortable that way. I'm satisfied. She steady calls me weird. She thinks I'm a hippie because I'm so mellow and stay true to my own beliefs. I spread peace and don't let anyone tell me who to be. I really don't care how I look. Appearance isn't important to me and I know I'm not even attractive. So why try? My sister does care about appearance and, in my opinion, tries too hard to look good. She does manage to look much better than me even though we look just alike. She dresses up when we go to the grocery store and I always make fun of her. I literally get ready for school in five minutes. If even that long. I throw my hair in a bun and where a t-shirt, jeans, and converse. She has a more diverse sense of style. But I'm more laid back. But still, though we're greatly different, we're always being compared and it sucks! It eats me alive! It gnaws at my bones! I can never be defined as an individual. I'm always called twin, or my twin's name, or both of our names. I'm never called just by my name. NEVER!!!! I hate being a twin so much. My whole life I've had to share everything! I never look forward to my birthday because I have to share it. The only thing I don't share is the things I buy. And I can't be unique because my twin is obsessed with my creativeness and every time I come up with a cool idea for a project or just anything, she always ALWAYS steals it and people just happen to notice it and appreciate it more when she does it, but not me. I will admit that people like her better because she's nicer. But she's a pushover and doesn't know how to say no. And she smiles more. I'm not so friendly but I'm not mean. People always call me the mean twin. But I'm not mean, I'm a realist. Gosh! I hate it so much. It's like a plague that'll never leave my blood, no matter how far away from her I am, I'm still a twin. I always be a twin and it sucks so much. I swear after high school, I know for a fact we're not going to the same college. I want to hopefully go to a college where I don't know anyone so I can make new friends who don't know I have a twin. And I won't tell them I'm a twin because I don't have to. When you're a twin, you're treated as a twin. When you're treated as a twin, you're not treated as an individual.

I have a twin and i hate it, always have, being called Twin instead of my name was the bane of my school life. i purposely attended a different college to my sister so i could not be a 'twin'. Totally agree with everything you say

I have an identical twin brother, it's even worse because we look the same- WHATEVER he does is reflected on me. Aside from the fact I'm a guy yeah, this article is completely correct. Having a twin is hell. Literally Hell.

I'm an identical twin and I totally see where you're coming from! I always think of it like my sister is my best friend and WORST enemy. She so obviously hates being similar to me that it really hurts sometimes. I hate being so similar, but at the same time will never have someone else who understands how I think so well.

My twin sister was dux of our school, and is now studying medicine. Nothing I do will ever measure up to that kind of dedication, apparently. It's really hard being seen as the "dumb one", when ACTUALLY we have identical DNA and are equally intelligent (or have equal potential). I just make different choices.

It's nice to know other people are as frustrated as I am, but I want to remind people that although it is easy to hate your twin, it's not their fault for being your twin, and they probably feel the same way as you. Remember all the good times you've had together when no one was around to judge you as "the twins". Just give each other the space to be individuals.