What Should I Expect? Ha Im New That This.

a month from now my boyfriend leaves for basic training. i have no clue how many times i will be able to talk to him or if he will have to time to write me back or aaahhh im gonna go crazy. help?
18-21, F
9 Responses Jul 29, 2010

Heyy girl, my boyfriend leaves in a month too! And I was reading the comments on your story and saw that were about the same age ! So I figured id comment cause we'll be going through all the hard stuff at the sme time (:

mine got 5 calls for like 5 to ten minutes

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Hang in there! its going to be tough! But use this site as a crutch! And really don't expect to much and remember to write everyday! It helps our airman make it through their day!

Hey, you've come to the right place. The best advice I can give is to not expect anything. I only got 5 letters the entire time BJ was at BMT. And I missed the first 2 calls, I got to talk to him for about 4 minutes during week 7 and then he called me from a payphone while he had base liberty on tuesday before graduation. Everything is up to the TI. BJ couldn't write any letters after lights out because the dorm chief was pissed that he didn't get any mail, so he could only write in the 5 mins the TI would give him. Some people get a lot of letters, others hardly get any.<br />
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Its important to write to him EVERYDAY. I would write to BJ before I went to sleep to replace the time we would have talked on the phone. Your letters are what will get him through this. <br />
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Yes it will be hard. Yes somedays will be terrible. Yes you will cry, and that's okay. Keep yourself busy and time will fly by.

Like AFgirlfriend513 is telling you is the honest truth. My airman left on July 20th and for the first week I was an absolute mess. I have not been able to really relax and breath until I was able to get his address. What happened with me was he missed his flight to basic training and arrived at Lackland at 1am! We think he was made to call his parents for punishment for missing their flight. I am not sure what his TI is like, since I have not gotten a phone call or anything, his parents only have received a postcard with his address. All I can honestly say is that it is hard but once you get past the first week, time really does start to fly. Friend us on this site and chat with us, I have been doing that and it has really helped being able to relate to different people! Best of luck and we are here for you whenever you need to talk :-)

Hello, my boyfriend left June 22nd and he graduates on August 20th. So I have less than a month left. First thing, is try and see him as much as you can before he leaves. Im not gonna lie to ya, it's really hard at first. The first couple weeks are the worst. Because you probably won't hear from him for like a week and a 1/2-2 weeks. My boyfriend got there on June 22nd, which was a tuesday night and he got to make a scripted address phone call on that Friday i think it was. It was like a 5 minutes phone call. They call and say hurry up and get a piece of paper and pen and they tell you the address of where to send him letters to. Then they have like a 1 minute scripted thing they have to say like "dont send food" and stuff like that. Then they have to get off the phone. They only get 1 phone call to someone to tell their address too and my boyfriend called me. Dont be offended if you dont get the call. Most guys call their parents. I got my First letter then on July 1st. But word of advice, do not expect anything. When they can call and when they can write is up to their TI's (training instructors). Some girls have only gotten 4 or 5 letters throughout the whole boot camp process, and some have gotten alot more than that. Me, on the other hand, I've gotten about 13 so far and I'm, just over half way done. All of them are anywhere from 3 to 7 pages long. As far as phone calls, I've gotten 3 so far. 4 including the address phone call. The first phone call he got was 15 minutes. He talked to his parents for like 2 minutes just so say hi and that he was doing ok then called me for the rest of the time. The second phone all, he was suppose to have 20 minutes. So he called his brother first for 10 min then when he called me to talk for the other 10 minutes, after about 3 minutes, they made him get off the phone. and the third phone call was only 5 minutes. He called and said I only have 5 minutes, my flight screwed it up for us in the last 2 hours. So just don't expect anything. All my phone calls were on the weekend but other girls on here have gotten them during the week. Just never expect anything. And remember that if one person in his flight (group) screws up and gets phone time taken away, the whole flight gets phone time taken away. If you expect stuff, you will just get disappointed if you dont get anything. But with the writing, some guys write at night after lights are out and when they arent really suppose to be writing, which is what I think my boyfriend does. He writes the time on every letter he writes and most of them are in the evening about 6 oclock and at night after 930 when lights are off. Just be patient and remember its not forever. Its only 8 1/2 weeks. After the first month, time will start to move a little faster. Sorry this is so lonng, I'm just tryin to let you know what it's like and how thing work a little bit. If you have any questions at all, just ask. :) Things will be alright. Oh and 1 more piece of advice, write to him AS MUCH AS YOU CAN. My boyfriend tells me all the time my letters are what help him through each day and they help get him away from the place for a while. I write almost every day. So just make sure you write all the time. Its something for him to look forward to. The letters take a little longer for them to get it because the TI's withhold on if they screw up and might not give them the letters right away. But he will get them and it will help him ALOT.

thats not cheesy at all lol my man and i live together so when he left I didnt want him to leave either because I was left alone in our house with no one to tlak to but our dogs, my family was not supportive of the whole military thing and its been a hard pill to swallow for them but ian is reserves but planning on going active duty as early as possible. I never realized how safe I felt at night with him laying next to me until he wasnt there and I didnt sleep for 3 days until my body was just so exhausted it passed out. I would recommend doing a day trip or a short trip to somewhere fun before you go, Ian and i went to Old Forge in the Adirondacks, its like a 4 hour drive from here and just walked around and shopped and had lunch, an all around amazing day and those memories kept me company while he wasn't there. there is a group on facebook too, EP USAF Girlfriends most of us are on there as well.

his name is jon i met him through 2 of my friends. hah my friends were over and as i was saying goodbye, he came up behind me and hugged me. this is going to sound so cheeeeezzzyyy but i honestly didnt want to leave his arms because i felt safe(somthing that i never really felt). We dated for about 2 months before we made it official. im16, young. he will be 18 in a few days. 6 months on his bday.

just breathe! you're about to go through what will be one of if not the hardest things you will ever go through but so rewarding at the same time. When my ian left it felt like the world was over and the 8 1/2 weeks would never end but it did, faster than i ever could have imagined. You're so lucky to have found this site before he left, i didn't until he was gone for about a month, I'm so happy to have found these girls because theyre going to be exactly what you need when youre having a bad day or a good day, when he calls or when he doesn't we're here. Whats your story with your man? howd you meet and things like that?