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Dear Civilian Girl...

Dear civilian girl,

You complain that your boyfriend has worked late all week and have barely seen him.
-I look forward to the two weeks a year we spend together.

You complain because he doesn't call you enough.
-My heart is thankful for the 15 second phone call I got last Tuesday in the middle of the night!

You whine to your friends about how much you miss him already because he is on a two day trip with his parents.
-I won't see him for another 10 months!

You don't feel like making love tonight because you are too tired.
-We will stay up all night because we don't know when it will be the last time.

Your boyfriend belongs to you.
-Mine belongs to the government.

Your boyfriend is training for his game next weekend.
-My boyfriend is trained to kill.

It's just not practical for you to drive an hour to see him every weekend during school.
-He spends $700 dollars on a plane ticket just to see me 2 days!

You hate hanging up the phone when talking to him.
-My heart breaks because I won't talk to him for another 10 days.

You complain that he doesn't take enough time out of his life for you.
-My man has to get up in the middle of the night to talk with me because of the time difference. He doesn't complain.

Your man is in a bad mood from not sleeping much this week.
-My man ran 10 miles this morning at 4 in the morning and has a full day of
work ahead of him. He's lucky if he gets a few hours of sleep!

Your boyfriend can call in sick when he is tired or not feeling well.
-My man works no matter what!

You don't trust him so you follow him places to see if he is telling the truth.
-I have no choice but to trust him and even then I trust him with my life.

You don't like him talking so sexually with his friends.
-My boyfriend has to chant it in drills.

You check your phone, see you missed a call from him, and decide to call him back when you aren't so busy.
-I see a missed a call and cry, because I don't know when he can call again.

You might save a cute voice message from him.
-I save them all b/c it helps me to remember what his voice sounds like.

Being apart for a month to you seems daunting.
-A month apart for me is a wish that can't come true.

You wouldn't change schools to be close to him.
-I have to move to another country to be with him.

You have every part of him memorized.
-I study pictures so I don't forget what he looks like.

You take your time together for granted.
-We don't!

Your cell phone bill was high this month from talking too much.
-He pays 20 cents a minute to call me… when he CAN call.

You love that fancy necklace he bought you
-I refuse to take his dog tags off, and not a day goes by that I don't have them on...

You say you miss him.
-Times that by 100.
miisskrisssy miisskrisssy 18-21, F 35 Responses Dec 13, 2010

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God bless you both. I gave the USAF 20 years and know what you're going through. You know it's tough, you just have to be tougher. It isn't easy on wives or girlfriends.

We are a long time military cpl. Scott is a Marine Corps Viet Nam vet, 13 years Army National Guard and spent 2 years as a private contractor embedded with the Army MPs outside the wire in Iraq. Irene is an Air Force brat, born on Ladd AFB (if anyone remembers it). So we have a special place in our hearts for the military and the families who have to fight their fight alone and in the shadows. God bless all of you. SEMPER FI!!!!!

very touching!

I agree. Civilian couples tend to take things for granted. My best friend complains when her bf has to go away for a weekend, and as much as I can understand that must suck, it makes me sick. I still have a month till I get to find out if my bf gets leave, and there are so many days where I don't hear from him at all. Only the strongest women can date a military man.

wow! that truly made me tear. thank you for posting that. you were right word for word. not many woman get what we go through. and they do take what they have for granted. while we on the other cherish even the smallest things with our military men. like hearing them snore next to us.. (:

You are awesome! You get it...that it's not about what he can buy for you or take you out to fancy diners...it's those few seconds you hear his voice and he says "I'm okay...and I love you." You get that you are his top priority but you respect his duty to his mission first. You are a rare girl, and he is a lucky fella! Rooting for the two of you!

AMEN TO THAT! story of my life with my one roomate right now. I am bout to sit her down and tell her what's up

thank you so much for sharing this! my boyfriends leaves for basic in 2 days. we haven't talked much at all about it bc we don't wanna think about the day he leaves.. I've gone to his appointments with his recruiter though and I've asked question so I have an idea what it's going to be like, but this explained a lot. it was very touching & heart breaking at the same time. I dint realise how much I'm going to miss him til I read this. so now I know what to expect and to really spend the next 2 days with him as much as I can. so thank you so much!

This has so much truth to it. Thank you for sharing it.

This is so true sometimes I wish my civilian friends understood but in all reality they never will. I missed my airmans call on christmas yeah i broke down crying

Yeah..It's hard to date a military guy...you can't be his priority...

I absolutely love this!

I love this.
I dropped everything I was doing &cried the moment I read this.
I never actually heard someone that knew what it was truly like to go through this.
Thank you for posting this; I don't feel so alone anymore

This is so true. I hate it when people complain about this stuff. Im like. Really? You have no idea.

I'm a marine's girl, not air force, but this so true for everyone! Good job! :)

Good job on this

Good luck

and may the time fly fast

Hugs

Sparky

Only military girlfriends would understand! This is so true. Love love love!!! :)))

It's very true indeed!

I love this story and how we all can relate to it! I feel like no one I know really understands.

i read this and started balling my eyes out. my boyfriend hasn't left for basic yet but i can only imagine what i'm up for. we were in the middle of skyping and i couldn't stop crying and still writing this i can't. ever since i started with this website i don't take for granted talking to him or seeing him. for all those girls who are going through this right now i give you so much credit because i dont know how i am going to handle it.

I know exactly how you feel. My boyfriend hasn't left and wont be leaving for awhile. And knowing he is going into the Air force makes me cherish every second I get with him. We're a semi-long distance relationship (2hr away) to begin with but I want to cry every time I leave his house after staying with him and his family for a week. I don't know how I'll handle it either.

you tell them!! We are an elite class of relationships.

When you see him at graduation, have him record something on your phone. That way you can wake up to his voice in the morning! :)

is that normal to have a fuzzy memory of what his voice sounds like? cause its starting, and i really don't like this.

i love this, story of our lives

i knowww :)) onlyy 29 more days i can't wait!!!!

Agreed!! Now I get really annoyed when my friends argue about really dumb stuff and I tell then it could be waaaaay worse.

AMEN!!! only a month to go girl :)

i love this!! civillian girls need to read it

i liked this too very nice =]!

This is sooo true, I love it! Thanks for sharing it