Looking For Advice/support

So I know I just posted my writing which I consider "Our Story" at least summed up the best way I can, but now I guess I'm just ranting for emotional support/advice. My boyfriend is a Flight Engineer stationed about an hour from me. I know that's ridiculous close for some of you going through a deployment and my thoughts and prayers go out to you. I get to see him almost every weekend and I am so lucky and thankful for that everyday. BUT sometimes it is still incredibly hard when he gets put on weekend alert and I can't see him and then one week in between visits turns into two. Or a whole weekend together turns into just three hours together. I try to do the best I can to stay positive for him and make the time between visits go faster. I was wondering if any of you are going through the same thing? Or have been through the same thing or worse, and had advice on how to make the long distance thing a bit easier?

I hate the idea of ranting about this to him because I know it's just as hard for him. If anything I want to make it as easy for him as possible. I want to be strong for him, but somedays that's easier said than done.
bortonal bortonal
18-21, F
5 Responses May 18, 2012

Thanks Guys!! It's great to get support from others going through the same situation. And I know I am blessed beyond measure in so many areas of my life. Somedays I just need to remember that instead of the frustrating/negative stuff.

I'm sure you already do this but never forget to always count your blessings :)<br />
I can imagine how frustrating it can be when your boyfriend gets weekend alert and have to wait for the following weekend just to see him, but he that's something most of us don't even get. I agree with the girls here, keep yourself busy and focus your time on activities, school, hobbies anything! lol <br />
Not only will you stay occupied but you will feel better and the time will go by sooo fast! believe me haha I've been waiting for my boyfriend whos been stationed in Greenland for the past 6 months and I have been 100% busy lol my calender is booked with things to do lol <br />
stay strong hun!

You really are lucky! Just appreciate what you have. My boyfriend has been 12 hours away for six months and will now be in Alaska for the next three years... I live in Alabama lol. Hopefully I'll be moving up there in a year but it's definitely hard going those two or three months and not seeing him.

Wow Germany to North Dakota that is quite the distance!! It's great to hear you guys are making it work =] And I also have a horse and yes he keeps me sane, I don't know what I'd do without him. <br />
Thanks!

Hey!<br />
You are lucky lol But I know its still hard. I live in Germany and my man lives in North Dakota.<br />
We have done the long distance since we started dating even though at the beginning it was even longer dinstance.<br />
We hit some really rough patches every now and then but I get disappointed when he has to work without days off or works hours so we cant skype or talk much.<br />
We still enjoy sending letters to each other even though we talk every day. We send care packages to each other, I like doing some small presents or just send chocolate.<br />
Most important is being honest to each other and communicate about everything.<br />
and to have your own life besides him. I go horseriding, i go to the gym, i do thinks with friends, i go to college. he has his work so you have to have your own life too. and i understand that you never thought about dating a military man. i didnt either.<br />
feel free to message me if you have any questions.