19 Days..

My boyfriend leaves for basic training in 19 days. I don't think it has really hit me yet.He and I have been together for 2 1/2 years,and have lived together for about a year. So this will be a big change and I'm not sure I'm ready for it. Although I am very proud of him,and I know it will be good for him. The part that sucks though is that we have been together for a pretty long time and we love each other, but I'm sure as you all know I can't come with him unless we get married, and we've both decided we're to young and not ready for that decision. I feel like we'll be okay. But I can't wait 6 years for him, and I know that I wanna be with him, I just don't know how to take it all in.
bculli17 bculli17
18-21, F
4 Responses Jul 3, 2012

The only thing that confuses me here is that you said you lived together for a year... Marriage is too much but living together isn't?? It's pretty much the same thing lol the only difference is whether or not one of you has a fear of commitment regarding marriage. I can definitely say that I agree with you on being young, I wouldn't have gotten married at 18 (me and my Airman are supposed to be right before my 21st birthday). But if you can make it through the long distance you'll know you can make it in a marriage. We will have been long distance for a year when we get married and yep its very hard at times and you have to learn to control yourself or it will be hard to get along, but its worth it in the end!

I feel the same way. I love him and want to grow old with him but i hate this unbearable pain. I want to live my life too and have my own life and just knowing in the future i won't be able to see him for a long time hurts. I just want to be happy again and its just so frustrating. All of this is so overwhelming.

I'm basically in the same boat. I wanna wait for him and as far as basic and tech school goes, I will. But he is in for 6 years and I don't want anyone else ever. But we're only 18, to be actually "with" him means marriage and we both know we're not ready or old enough. So we just have to see how we feel after he finishes tech school I guess. The thing is I need to take care of myself too. I'm going to start college in the spring and start working towards my future but I want him to be in it.everyone keeps telling me that when he's away at basis he'll realize what I mean to him and know if he wants to work on it or not. So that's what I'm waiting on now. :)

well you definitely should focus on college and when he finishes tech school make sure to talk about your future together in greater detail. It isn't easy being so young and in a committed relationship. You should be proud though:)

Hey I know what you mean...waiting is the hardest part. I love my bf so much. We've been together for a year and a half. He just left last week and we spoke about how we'd be apart for a while and whether I would wait for him. I don't see myself with anyone else, but the thought of waiting scares me since i'm still young, but i don't want to be alone. He also told me he has aspirations to become a pilot (which took me by surprise). That would mean the road ahead would be a long and difficult one for us:( I want to support him but i'm also worried about my life. For now, all I can tell you is to take things one step at a time. I'm going to wait for my man to get back from Tech School (December) and then when he returns home we will have to talk more about his future plans with the air force. Don't stress about the wait right now...if you love him you'll be okay. Remember, what's meant to be will always find its way!