We Shared 5 Short Months, And One Long Goodbye.

My best friend/boyfriend left for Basic Training in Lackland, Texas on October 30th. He will have been gone 5 weeks on Tuesday. It has been crazy and insane and so difficult. But it has made us so much closer.

We started dating on May 26th, 2012. Our relationship was a lot different before we even started dating. We talked constantly, were together everyday, and I met his whole family before we even started dating. Now, when I say whole family I mean aunts, uncles, cousins, the whole thing. We were at their farm for a few hours riding dirt bikes and four wheelers. And his whole family was there. I'm a pretty shy person, so I was pretty much terrified. But they were so accepting and friendly. The whole night I was being offered dinner, dessert, drinks; anything they could offer they were offering it. I felt like a part of his family before we were even dating.

Later that night he took me to Flat Rock. Flat Rock is this place on the river near us. It's this giant flat rock (this is where the name came from) and it creates a waterfall. Jake and I walked out to the dry part of the rock, in the middle, and we laid down and played the question game. We sat up and were about to leave and he stopped me. He said he wanted to ask me one last question. He asked me to be his girlfriend. I obviously said yes. And our relationship started growing instantly.

We spent every day together all summer. We celebrated both of our birthdays (which are exactly a week apart) in June. Two days before my birthday we were trying to decided where to go for dinner. I suggested Subway. He normally says no to Subway because he doesn't particularly like healthy food, but that night he said yes. That took me by surprise, but I didn't really think anything of it. We got our sandwiches and were sitting in his truck. As soon as I finished my food he told me he had to talk to me about something really important. I instantly started freaking out, because nothing good comes when someone says we need to talk. He said his recruiter had called him earlier in the day. I didn't think anything serious was coming. When we first started dating he told me that he probably wouldn't be leaving until sometime next year. Like March or so. But then he said the date. October 30th. Entirely too close for my liking. I almost spit my Coke all over his truck.

I only had 4 more months with him. And at the time, that seemed like a really long time. So, we continued to spend everyday together. We went to all of his family functions and I really started to become more comfortable around them. We went mudding with his uncle one night and Jake let me drive. We had so much fun. When we dropped his uncle off he looked at me and said to me, "You're an amazing girl sweetie. And I know I'm not the only one in this family that loves you. I don't know what's going to happen in your life, but even if something happens with you two, just always know you can call any of us whenever you need us. But I really do hope it works out between you two." So his uncle might have been a little intoxicated, but hey, it felt nice to know his family likes me.

A month or two later Jake's cousin had her son. And as soon as they came home from the hospital, we went over there to see them. We were sitting in the living room and his cousin walked in with the new baby. She handed him to Jake, but Jake (very obviously) didn't know what he was doing and they baby started crying. So he handed him off to me. The baby instantly stopped crying and Jake started playing with him as I held him. His uncle (the same one who gave me the speech) secretly took a picture of us. He sent it to Jake's mom who was sitting across the room from us. Jake's mom then proceeded to send it to Jake. He saw it while I was holding the baby, but didn't say anything until after we left. As we were in the car headed home he handed me the phone with the picture message. The caption under the picture was "You'll make a cute little family someday. BUT NOT ANYTIME SOON." I about dropped his phone.

As fall started to roll in, I started school again. Jake volunteered to drive me on my last first day of school. He seemed distant as we made the drive. I asked him what was wrong and he said he was scared to lose me to some guy at my school. I looked over at him and told him he was crazy, no one could ever compare to him or take me away. But just to be safe he wrote Jake's on both of my hands. It made me smile and less nervous for my senior year.

October 30th came too quick. Before I knew it he was leaving in two weeks. My days with him were getting numbered. It was coming too quickly and I didn't know how to handle it. His going away party was October 13th, and that was the first time I cried about him leaving. He was dropping me off, and it was incredibly late. He stopped me before I got out of the truck. He just sat there and hugged me and told me how much he's going to miss me. I felt the tears welling up in my eyes. It was really starting to hit me that I was about to say goodbye to my best friend for 5 to 6 months. The tears started falling as soon as I stepped out of the truck. And they didn't stop all night.

On the morning of October 30th, Jake's parents and sister picked me up. We decided we needed each other's support on the drive there and back. Sitting the the MEPS waiting room area was nerve wracking. But when Jake got to come sit with us, everything got a lot better. It felt like he wasn't leaving. Like everything was the same as it was two weeks ago. But I only have a matter of hours left with him. During his swearing in ceremony, tons of pictures were taken. And after the ceremony, we had lunch with Jake.

Then it came time to say goodbye. The part of the day I had been dreading since I found out about it. I had a whole big speech of things I wanted to say to him, but when it came time to say it, I couldn't get a word out. We took some pictures, and looking at them now, it looks like we're both about to cry. I can't speak for him, but I know I was fighting back the tears. I was the last one to say bye to him, and I just hugged him and buried my face in his shirt and cried. I just stood there and cried. All my makeup ran down my face, but I didn't care at all. I knew it was the last time I would be able to hug him for 8 and a half weeks. He told me he loved me over and over and it was so hard for me to choke out an I love you too. And then they called to group to leave. And just like that he was gone.
kyliemarie233 kyliemarie233
18-21, F
5 Responses Dec 1, 2012

My ex-boyfriend and I had a falling out because of the distance and the consistant pressure that the Air Force placed upon our relationship. It's very refreshing to see that this is working with you so far and I pray nothing but the best for your beautiful relationship. It is amazing that this lifestyle seems to work so effortlessly it seems. Waiting will build patience. You're going to become an amazingly durable person when you realize that your life with your boyfriend is meant to be.

Sounds like you guys had an amazing fairytale-like relationship so far(:
That has to be about the sweetest thing that I heard when you said his mom took a picture of you guys with the baby. It was so hard saying goodbye to my boyfriend too. I cried after his going away party too. I really hope it works out for you guys.

Yea it was really hard to grasp the fact that he was leaving those last two weeks. I really came to grips with it the Thursday night before he left Sunday, I woke up at 2 am and started bawling and couldn't sleep till I had to get up at 5. My boyfriend's been gone for 3 weeks today at BMT. Man the good bye was the worst part out of our almost 2 year relationship I've only seen him cry once and that night as we walked away I saw him wipe a few tears. I felt a little better after I walked out into the lobby and everyone else was bawling their eyes out lol. I can't wait to see him at his graduation though 5 and a half more weeks :)

shocked? truth is pInful though

sad story... he will quickly get it over and find another
u miss him but dont believe what he says... its critinal that u have someone beside u. all these long distance vows are untrustworthy. so find another u can release u drive