Sad, Scared, Confused, Frustrated...all Of The Above :(

I am so emotionally distressed right now!! I'm new to this whole Air Force girlfriend thing, and it is extremely hard...And the scary part is, my boyfriend is still in the states. He has already been deployed several times before we began dating and I know he's scheduled to leave again in a couple of months. Its hard enough to be with him now because he is busy all the time so I can imagine how hard it will be when he is gone for months at a time. I'm struggling to make this work and praying each day for God to give me the strength to be strong and support him in all his endeavors. I am used to dating someone that I see regularly and due to us living in different cities, we only see each other on the weekends. Luckily, we are moving in together in 2 weeks so that will be awesome!! When we move in together though, I will be counting down the days until he leaves. I don't think he realizes how hard this is on me. I talk to him about it and he just tells me to enjoy the days we have together, and I do, but in my mind I can't shake how hard it will be when he leaves. I have never had to do this and I have no idea how to cope with the feelings I have. I am so in love with him and I will NOT give up, no matter what. I just wish that things were easier for me to deal with. Maybe when we move in together, my strength will grow and things will be better for me...I sure hope so :(
lovemyflyboy lovemyflyboy
31-35, F
3 Responses Dec 10, 2012

I'm so glad I'm not alone. At least you have sometime to spend with him. I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 months and he received quick order to leave next week. We've been talking about marriage recently and starting a family and now he leaves in a week for 1 year!!!! WTH.
Has anyone else gone through a year deployement? I want to know if it's possible for them to come back early?? I'm so depressed.. He sent me a text telling me to "dump him." I just can't do it because I love him. What should I do?

I can't relate to going through a deployment at all, but I couldn't imagine my bf leaving me for a year...luckily when he depolys he will only be gone a maximum of 6 months, but that's still a long time. If you love him, wait for him. I know it sounds hard and almost impossible but if y'all can make it through this, it will all pay off in the long run. If y'all are serious about getting married, just make sure you can handle it before you make any sudden decisions. I plan to marry my boyfriend after only a few months of dating but there's no doubt in my mind it's the right thing to do. I hope it all works out for you and that y'all make the right choice!! Keep us updated!!

i thought the longest was 6 months

but yes, I'll keep you posted. I have less than a week and I've been so stressed!

I sure will!!

Your comment made me feel so much better...it's great to know that I am not the only one who has been through this before. I plan on trying to talk with him tonight and get everything out on the table and let him know just how scared and worried I am. I hope that I can become stronger when we move in together and build some coping skills before he does leave. Thanks for the comment btw!!