Not Feeling Acceptance From His Family...

My boyfriend and I have been together for about a seven months, we have known one another for about 6 years and unfortunately before he went into the military I never got a chance to be around his family.
He is a crossed the country while his family and I live in the same town. They are extremely nice, loving people but I get discouraged when I want to reach out to them to have any sort of relationship because they "don't understand" why he and I are together...why he's not with this girl, or this one, or one where he's stationed. Normally I have no problem getting along with family or bonding with them.
They tell me I'm welcome over any time but knowing how they feel I'm absolutely terrified to walk into there home with out him.
I'm not really sure how I'm supposed to reach out to them, help them to accept me and our relationship?

Second, I just got home from visiting him for the first time and coming home I don't feel like I belong here. I tell him I dot care where he is in this world, his arms are my home. Naturally we started talking about me moving to live with him. I have three years left of this long distance and I don't know if I can handle seeing him for a week or two twice a year, never really knowing if things will work out between us until he is done serving. He's freaked out by the whole situation and just seems to get overwhelmed when we talk about it. His family is all really close and I know it hurts him that they don't give him positive feedback.
They have concerns that I'm going to hold him down, take his money, or force him into marriage. Which all are things I wouldn't do. I'm proud of him for all his accomplishments and things he really enjoys doing outside of the military. I believe shared bank accounts are for those who are married, and marriage isn't what I'm looking for right now. He knows me, he knows I'm not after him for these things and I just want to be with him, I even offered to move up there with a friend and we could get our own apartment so noone had a reason to think I was using him or hurt him in saying I was.

Overall I really would love to hear about anyone over coming these issues, maybe some advice on how to get his family to warm up to me and realize I'm not trying to suck the life out of there son.

Thanks guys :)

Aijde Aijde
18-21, F
1 Response Jan 8, 2013

I understand the whole family not quite understanding why the relationship even exists. I've been with my fiance for about 6 years now and both sides (mine and his) don't fully accept our relationship. He and I have just gotten to the point where we create our own decisions to make OUR lives happy. Family is just going to have to deal with it because we love each other so much. Every situation is different, but do what will make the two of you happiest. :]