Friends Who Are Not Supportive

My friends don't think I should marry my boyfriend of seven years before I finish my bachelor's degree. We want to live together so we can be together. I would finish my degree online. I recently moved to an area where I know no one so its been lonely especially with my bf away at BMT. My friends think this is the time for me to be my own person and go out. I'm not the type of person who parties. I just want my friends and family to be supportive and I don't know what to do. Advice please!
lindy311 lindy311
1 Response Jan 17, 2013

Omg you sound like me! I married this past summer and moved out here with him and just transferred schools (I'm a junior) and everything has worked out GREAT! It was the BEST decision of my life... my friends also told me that I shouldn't get married before I get my degree and I'll be missing out on the "college" life and blah. But I too am not into the whole party scene... yeah I'll go out and stuff but I'm just not into the drinking and stuff ha. There comes a time where you have to make your own decisions... yeah they can say what they want but when it comes down to it... YOU know what's best for YOU! My friends and family eventually realized that this was right for me and they were very supportive and everything has worked out great. So basically I'm saying don't make your decision based on them... if they are your real friends and really care about you, they will come around and support you!

You literally just described just my life lol I as well am a junior and my friends told me that I should "enjoy the freedom of college life". They think I'm stopping my life for him and that's not true at all. In fact we'd be starting a new life together. Thank you for the advice! You're right when it comes down to it I have to do what I think is right for me.

Exactly! You're not stopping your life for him, just starting a new one! So nice to find someone who understands! Lol College is more flexible than the military. It's easier to transfer colleges than transfer bases... so you gotta do what you gotta do!

Yes! Thank you in helping me realize that I'm not making a mistake. I'm sick of my friends thinking that, when they know nothing of military life. One of my friends told me its just like having your bf in college and that its not a big deal to be away for two years. People don't get that it's not an easy situation.

Ha! That is so dumb I can't even respond to that statement lol. It I NOTHING like that. Last time I checked... nobody went to class for 8-12 hr shifts and had to ask he college permission to leave the state and go on leave or randomly get called into class in the middle of the day or night on weekends or whenever for that matter.... I could go on and on lol yea it's frusturating when peopl say that stuff b/c they just have no idea and aren't in the situation.

Sorry that was terribly written lol I hope you can piece that together...I'm witting this on my phone ha

Lol yes I understood! And for sure it is nothing like college. I'm sure my boyfriend would take that as an insult to know people are comparing his training and job to college.

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