Freaking Out

So I've been with my boyfriend for a year now and while that does not sound like whole lot of time it's the most serious and real relationship I've ever been in (even though I have been in longer). We both have big plans for our future and plan to be together forever. He leaves for basic in 3 months. Then after that he goes to tech school for 2 years. I don't even know when the next time I will see him again will be. We have plans for me to come to him when he is in tech school and get my own apartment this way I can like be there with him even though we don't know how often he will have free time. His job will most likely require him to go overseas but he wants to get married before that, like right after he is done with school. I'm just so nervous and scared because he hasn't even left yet and I'm freaking out. For over a year we have been together every single day. Now by the time april rolls around we'll be lucky if we see each other every couple of months I guess. I'm freaking out and I think I'm ruining our last moments together right now. I just can't help but cry all the time and always bring it up in conversation. I'm so scared we won't make it through all of us. We have to. He's my everything and was there for me in ways I can't even describe when Hurricane Sandy ruined my house. I'm scared he'll forget about me or something. I know it's crazy but I've never experienced something like this in my whole life. I just hope I don't have some kind of breakdown when he actually does leave.
ritzallover ritzallover
22-25, F
2 Responses Jan 18, 2013

My boyfriend is also currently in basic, he left the 3rd and I haven't heard from him either. All I can say is, appreciate the time that you still have. Even though its upsetting to think about him leaving, make the best of every single day. And it's not a bad thing to talk about it together, just make sure it's in a positive way. Try to understand what he's doing, get more comfortable with the situation.. Then when the time comes it won't be such a shock. Don't think he'll ever forget about you if you two are that serious, he will be missing you just as much, if not more than you miss him. It's tough on both ends all around, just have to make the best of the situation and really work at it together. Try to stay positive :)

My boyfriend is currently in basic and he is supposed to be in tech school for two to two and a half years. We were only together for three months before he left, but we knew it was something really special, and decided we would stay together. He left on January 2nd and I still haven't heard from him. My advice for you is to try and make really good memories and take a lot of pictures before he leaves. You will be much happier and in a more secure place the better these last months are. They're going to fly by, but you can't dwell on him leaving. You will make this little bit of time together miserable. Take in every single moment, even if you're just sitting at home watching TV. Just be happy that you get this time with him because if you get in the habit of being miserable about him leaving, that will carry into your visits, which will be very short. You have him right now, don't waste that time being sad. You'll have plenty of time to yourself later on. Don't forget, no matter how tough he is, he's freaking out too. If you plan on standing by his side, you have to be strong, not just for yourself, but for him. He needs to see you as the one who always makes him feel better, where he can relax, and where he can be happy. Cheer up, this is your time to make happy long lasting memories, do something fun.