I Am a United States Air Force Girlfriend

Confused

By: Cmr76

Written on February 2nd, 2013

Ok so last night I was video chatting with my deployed airman. He thought the connection was lost instead he accidentally paused the session and I overheard his conversation with his roommate. It was as if the person speaking was NOT my man. And he mentioned a girl...not by name just by "features". So I immediately called him back and confronted him he said I overheard a portion of the conversation and that they were refferring to a **** magazine his roommate had just gotten in the mail. (i did hear him ripping something open) We spoke for 2 hrs after that. I was fine afterward. Now I have doubts, was he lying? Would he? Am I being naive? I need help guys. What do I do?

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By: Cmr76

Age: 36-40 , Female

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Parvaneh610

I'm really sorry this is happening to you, I can't even imagine what you're feeling...but from what you said it is possible he is telling the truth. No one here will be able to tell you if he is cheating or not, that has to come from your judgement seeing that you know him and the rest of us really don't. I don't think it's a horrible idea to talk to him, there has to be open communication in a relationship, especially when it becomes long distance like this. You really have one of two options. One: you talk to him and ask him honestly if he can remain committed to you. So long as you are faithful to him he should be faithful to you. Or two: you use your best judgement. If you think he is cheating on you or not in this relationship 100% then your mind is already set, but if you feel in your heart that he was telling the truth you should give him the benefit of the doubt. It's incredibly difficult for him to be deployed, for the both of you, but he shouldn't have to flirt with everything that has boobs nor should you have to always revert to sexy Skyping to make him not want to cheat. I really hope this gets better and everything works out! Best of luck to you. :)

Feb 3
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BigMo1

I've been deployed. Boys will be boys. They are most likely looking at ****, talking about a hot celebrity, some hot chick on base, or a buddy's hot fling. Keep making things exciting and that will give him less incentive to cheat on you.

Feb 3
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- Cmr76
  He says that's all it was..Guy talk..i honestly don't care about him looking or watching any of that. And believe me he gets e ought "material" from me.
  
  Feb 3
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LORISHAY

Im going through this. my bf is deployed an just yesterday found out he was talking to another girl and flirting with many others. As upset as i was i didnt want to leave him because i miss him so much and we only have 2 months left. He said he needs outlets and that deployment is hard and i dont understand because im not away from family. I dont feel i know the whole truth but i chose not to think about it as hard as it is because i wouldnt even know how to start healing from it. being i have been waiting on his every message or phone call i couldnt believe it.

Feb 3
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- Cmr76
  See THAT'S what I'm worried about. I don't want to wait the duration of his deployment if he's not in this 100%. I send him packages almost every week..write him 2 to 3x a week. I have been faithful and you know that's not easy with them being away so long and their little mood swings. I get hit on every day, it would be so easy for me to just follow thru with any them but I don't. I l love him. I feel stupid for wanting to believe him or staying. :( I have no idea what I'm going to do.
  
  Feb 3
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- Cmr76
  Lets not forget the 4 in the morning phone calls :)
  
  Feb 3
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- LORISHAY
  Haha WOW! I thought nobody understood what i was going through! Girl, I understand. They forget that were in this deployment too. We have jobs too but yet it seems we suffer from no sleep just to talk to them on a stupid skype that keeps dropping calls and messing up sound ( ugh how annoying when u have so much to say) For me i get mad because i do question him but his response is that he has it so hard an doesnt need me to nag which i understand but do we set our feelings aside and women the heck up for our men just for these few months we have to endure and when they come home it will all be worth it... or do we nag and nag and nag until it breaks us apart and when they come home cant trust us to be a good support. and u know no matter what break up or not when they get back home all were gonna wanna do is see them because how much we been commited and missing them.... I dunno man, what u think?
  
  Feb 3
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- Cmr76
  Lol I just literally got off the phone with mine and the only reason he had to leave was because he had to go back to work. Yes I have to be in early tomorrow morning. But it's the price we pay...right?!?! He has so many women in his life that are super emotional and demanding (sister, mom, aunt) I try to be that "strong" person he can tell anything to. But let me tell YOU....I have to tune out especially when he goes into the dangers of his work...(he says I'm the only person in his life that actually knows what he does) he likes the freedom that talking to me brings. But it is NOT easy. I break down and get all emotional often. I usually take a video of myself telling him everything that's bothering me and how much I miss him and love him and how hard this is...wait then watch it then delete it. Sometimes it helps just getting it out. And I will definitely be expecting something huge and shiny and pretty when he gets back from this..for all my hard work of course. ;). This is what we signed up for...I feel like I enlisted sometimes lol
  
  Feb 4
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- Cmr76
  Ps...I sent him a playboy but posted my face on the cover as a joke to the conversation I overheard :D
  
  Feb 4
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- LORISHAY
  ya we are pretty much enlisted as well, no woman can hold down for their man like a military spouse! I Love the video idea sooo much imma try that im sure my bitchin gets old to but u dont realize while ur doin it. HAHA thats so cute about playboy pic! Where is ur man at? Mine is in krygystan. or how ever u spell that! mine left in october an should return late april
  
  Feb 5
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