What To Expect?

My boyfriend left for basic in Lackland on January 29th, so less than a week ago. I miss him so much already. I need him here to help me through everything going on. How do I cope with his absence?
How do they earn privileges? Is it based on their little group thingies? (sorry for my lack of proper names haha)
When should I expect his letters? Like how long will it take for mine to get to him and his to me? (I'm in Idaho)
Will he ever get to call me?
When do they get their personal items back, like his phone?
Is there ANY possibility he will get to come home between basic and his tech school in California? I just need a little bit of hope.
I'm sorry for all my questions, I've been trying to educate myself the best I can on all of this, but I don't know who to ask. Answers to everything would be appreciated :)
Daisydukes13 Daisydukes13 16-17 4 Responses Feb 3, 2013

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He called me! 8 days in :) he said he'll send his letter tonight or tomorrow and he can call every Wednesday :) I'm so happy I'm shaking. I almost dropped the phone trying to answer it :)

My boyfriend has already been through basic and tech school, so maybe I can help. The length of his letters will depend on how much time he gets to write. During the beginning, its harder to write because there is so much training. As for when he gets his phone back, it all depends on how strict his training instructor is. Mine got his back after a week and was able to call every saturday for about 15 minutes. They don't get to come home after basic, but they do get to come home after tech school for 2 weeks if they do a program called RAP, he can also take leave days if he wishes to stay home longer. I know it sucks right now, but trust me it gets easier. Let me know if you have any other questions. I'm here to help!

Do you mind me asking what career he went into?

He's Security Forces

So my boyfriend is in week four just about of basic and I have literally researched every single thing about the Air Force lol it REALLY does get easier after the first two weeks. His parents should have gotten a call with the address already and if they were unable to write it down, they will get a post card soon. Keeping busy is literally the best thing to do.. school, work, gym..whatever keeps you busy. I got my first call 12 days after he left and my first letter the day after that. I am now getting two letters a week! And I phone call every week for 15 minutes. They are all required to get a 15 minute phone call every week! It could come any time of the day, any day of the week. BUT most of them are on weekends! I am 13 hours from texas and my letters take about 3 days to get to him. When the letters start flowing, it will def get easier. They don't have much time to write but you should write everyday! My bf told me that mail time is every night and its one thing everybody wants is mail! I write everyday and he loves that he gets letters everyday. It gives them something to look forward to! They will keep his phone locked up until the one day that he will get it. He cannot text, he can only call.. whoever he wants to for those 15 minutes. None of them get to come home after basic. exactly 8 weeks from the first Friday he was there is when he will graduate. If you go to his graduation, you will be able to spend time with him Thur-Sun. Then the following Monday, he will go to his tech school. After tech school, he will get to come home for almost two weeks! But tech school will be MUCH better than basic because they will be able to have their phones and computers which means Skype, etc. It is a long journey but it does get easier!

He won't be done with tech school until the beginning of July. I get nauseous thinking about how long he'll be gone. My parents aren't going to get me go to his graduation, or visit him at his tech school (which is in California) so really all I can do for 5 months is call, write, and skype him.

All that Is a while from now! Plus, if they change your mind, he will able to afford to fly you out to see him :) Just have faith and remember your love for him!

I think they're thinking about letting me go see him. At least for his graduation if he has no one else coming, and depending on how they think I'm doing without him I think they'll let me go to California with special conditions and everything. He just called me and I got a second wind motivation :) i know I'll be okay now :)

Every phone call will give you feeling :) and when the letters start flowing, checking the mailbox and finding that letter will make you dance in the road! lol im now getting two a week so far! I love it!

I haven't stopped smiling since he called me. It was just what I needed too, I was getting depressed again. He said he's going to try and get his letters all written tonight, and he said my letters took about 5 days to get to him, so im hoping to get one next week :) I'm so very excited :)

That is when I got excited too! After that first phone call! All I needed to hear was that he is ok! I would write him everyday if I was you! It really helps them and everyone there wants mail coming in at mail time!

I've been writing two page letters almost every day. I've only missed two days of writing letters, because of the stomach flu. He said he got the most letters in his flight, I think all of them were from me... haha :) I'm so glad to hear his voice, and that he loves me.. that's all I needed to keep me going :)

That's right girl! You can also send pictures! He'll get to missing the simple things.. I send my guy pics of simple things like the dogs or the snow or anything like that to keep them sane!

I'm going to send him picturs of a few of the inside jokes we have. PiƱa colado sobes are one of the many, and I'm also gathering pictures of this newborn son (not mine) who was due on valentines day but was born in December. I'm gonna send them so they get there on valentines day. I think he'll really like it. Also my friend got a picture of me sleeping in his t shirt holding onto the teddy bear he gave me for Christmas, and I'm thinking about sending that one too

aww thatll be good! Even if your feeling down, itll help you to know youre helping him! good luck! Its a long journey

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My boyfriend left two weeks ago, it's hard but stay strong. It took me about a week and a half to get my first letter. I got my first phone call yesterday for 15 minutes. They're having a hard time just like you, so try to stay strong and write him everyday!