How To Be Strong And Supportive For Your Airman?

I want to be the rock he leans on for support, the shoulder he can cry on, etc. We haven't had any bad situations yet; we've been through BMT, tech school, and now a few weeks into his first station. He hasn't been deployed yet, and his job doesn't have a high deployment rate. But if/when he does deploy, he will most likely be in a "safe" area because of his job, or so he tells me. We were talking about this the other night on the phone, and he asked me what I would do if he didn't come back. What I would do if he died. The question shocked me and I started crying... to which, he said I needed to be stronger if he's going to be constantly coming and leaving. He also said that none of this is happening to me; I'm not putting my life in danger, I'm not at risk for losing limbs, etc., so I should stop crying. Of course, when he said that, it didn't help. I was able to stop crying after a while, but how do you NOT cry at the thought of your loved one dying and being in harms way?!?! How do I be the strong person I need to be?

How are you strong for your Airman?
Sabelle22 Sabelle22
18-21, F
1 Response Feb 4, 2013

Its hard, its not easy at all especially when you are married. My husband came home for lunch a few days ago and while cooking just blurted out "Im Being Deployed" I turned and looked at him and then I turned away and cried. I couldn't stand there in silence so I went and laid in my bed and cried the rest of the day. I didn't know what to do, I didn't know where he was going, I didn't know how long he would be gone. I was terrified that I was going to be alone and have to do everything alone. Being strong doesn't mean that you cant cry, being strong doesn't mean that you cant show emotion. Being strong is loving your man and standing beside him through everything and making sure that they know that we are right here waiting for them to come home. We are people too, we cry... even if we aren't the ones out there and they are... we love them and we are concerned for them and he should understand that.