I Am a United States Air Force Girlfriend
I am a Canadian and my boyfriend is currently at tech school at Keesler AFB in Mississippi. We met in October and were able to make the long distance work with lots of emails, texts and Skype chats. He left for BMT on Dec. 4th, 2012 and graduated on Jan. 31st. I was able to fly down to San Antonio for his graduation even though I am currently in my 3rd year of biomechanical engineering and I work part time.
Things between us before he left for training were perfect. I thought I had found my man. I was able to meet his family over American Thanksgiving too. However, after working so hard and giving up so much to go see him in Texas, he was less than grateful. It was so frustrating because he wouldn't walk next to me, he didn't seem very interested in me sexually and the one day where we had together without his parents or grandparents, he was more interested in watching TV. I was really hurt but I didn't say anything because I didn't want to ruin his graduation experience.
I thought it was just an isolated incident but it has gotten even worse since he's been at tech school. He has access to his cell phone now and he barely talks to me. He will send me the occasional text but it will be something about tech school that annoys him. He doesn't seem to be interested at all in my life. On top of all of that, he refuses to be Facebook friends with me. It didn't bother me before he left for training but now it is. I feel like he doesn't acknowledge our relationship. I seem to be the one putting in all of the work and spending all of the money. I'm not a type of person to expect lavish gifts but I gave him and his 3 year old daughter Christmas presents before he left and I got nothing. He hasn't even tried to send me anything since being at tech school.
It is extremely difficult since when he finishes tech school at the end of April, he will be going back to the Syracuse, NY base. I will still be in Canada for school and work. I have at least 2-3 years left of my degree since I switched programs after a year and a half and very few of my credits transferred. I looked at transferring to Syracuse University because they have a very similar program there however the tuition is three times what I am paying here in Canada. I don't think I could afford that. I spoke to him about it but he was very clear that he would NOT want us living together so I figure there is no point in spending all of this extra money to go to school if I will just be seeing him on weekends, which is the same plan if I were to continue going to school in Canada.
Since Valentine's Day was only two days ago, it made this long distance relationship hurt even more. I was so upset with him and wanted to let him know how I was feeling. He tried to explain but it came down to, when he gets focused on something, that's all he thinks about which is tech school at the moment. He keeps telling me how little time he has and to understand that he can't message me everyday. I would believe him except for the fact that if he has time to update his status on Facebook, I think he has time to send me one text saying "I love you". He doesn't realize that I can see his uploaded pictures and status updates on Facebook. All of my friends say that he is hiding something from me but I just don't know.
To make things even more complicated, my one really good girl friend took me out for ice cream on Valentine's to cheer me up. A bunch of her friends were there too. We went out to a club after. One of her friends and I got along so well. He and I just seemed to click. He is in biotechnology at the college close by. Nothing happened between us but I can't seem to stop thinking about this new guy. It's such a hard decision because my life with my Airman would be an uphill battle until I am done school and there is no guarantee that I could find a job in Syracuse. But on the other hand, there is this really sweet guy who is Canadian and doesn't have a child and has a much more flexible future.
It is really difficult since in Canada, our military is very different. None of my family or friends have ever experienced this so I have no one to give me any advice who have gone through deployments or training. Any advice would be much appreciated.
Things between us before he left for training were perfect. I thought I had found my man. I was able to meet his family over American Thanksgiving too. However, after working so hard and giving up so much to go see him in Texas, he was less than grateful. It was so frustrating because he wouldn't walk next to me, he didn't seem very interested in me sexually and the one day where we had together without his parents or grandparents, he was more interested in watching TV. I was really hurt but I didn't say anything because I didn't want to ruin his graduation experience.
I thought it was just an isolated incident but it has gotten even worse since he's been at tech school. He has access to his cell phone now and he barely talks to me. He will send me the occasional text but it will be something about tech school that annoys him. He doesn't seem to be interested at all in my life. On top of all of that, he refuses to be Facebook friends with me. It didn't bother me before he left for training but now it is. I feel like he doesn't acknowledge our relationship. I seem to be the one putting in all of the work and spending all of the money. I'm not a type of person to expect lavish gifts but I gave him and his 3 year old daughter Christmas presents before he left and I got nothing. He hasn't even tried to send me anything since being at tech school.
It is extremely difficult since when he finishes tech school at the end of April, he will be going back to the Syracuse, NY ba
Since Valentine's Day was only two days ago, it made this long distance relationship hurt even more. I was so upset with him and wanted to let him know how I was feeling. He tried to explain but it came down to, when he gets focused on something, that's all he thinks about which is tech school at the moment. He keeps telling me how little time he has and to understand that he can't message me everyday. I would believe him except for the fact that if he has time to update his status on Facebook, I think he has time to send me one text saying "I love you". He doesn't realize that I can see his uploaded pictures and status updates on Facebook. All of my friends say that he is hiding something from me but I just don't know.
To make things even more complicated, my one really good girl friend took me out for ice cream on Valentine's to cheer me up. A bunch of her friends were there too. We went out to a club after. One of her friends and I got along so well. He and I just seemed to click. He is in biotechnology at the college close by. Nothing happened between us but I can't seem to stop thinking about this new guy. It's such a hard decision because my life with my Airman would be an uphill battle until I am done school and there is no guarantee that I could find a job in Syracuse. But on the other hand, there is this really sweet guy who is Canadian and doesn't have a child and has a much more flexible future.
It is really difficult since in Canada, our military is very different. None of my family or friends have ever experienced this so I have no one to give me any advice who have gone through deployments or training. Any advice would be much appreciated.
By:
ToffeeandZeus
Age:
22-25
