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My boyfriend Will is also leaving Novemebr 3 rd for basic to San Antonio.  I'm already lost and he hasn't even left.  I don't know what i'm going to do!! plus they changed basic fomr 6 weeks to 8 for NO REASON!! i'm so upset, now he doesn't get to come home for chrsitams.  How am i supose to survuive?!

Mare5505 Mare5505 22-25, F 81 Responses Oct 13, 2008

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He promise to come back. Promises are meant to be broken but he gave me an assurance. We don't have any communication for so long. Should I wait? Eventhough I already have no idea if he's coming back? :(

I am a marines girlfriend. He's my bestfriend but he left me during those times that I needed him most. I'm still waiting. we don't have any communication ad I miss him so bad :'(

I'm from the San Antonio area and my boyfriend is in England and about to deploy : /.... As for you, He'll be alright and If you love him you'll find a way to survive it's best to find a good set of girl friends that will help keep your mind off his absence

My boyfriend left today.. I know the feeling. But my advice is to do alot with him the months before and make lots of positive memories. I threw mine a surprise going away party with all his Guy friends to say good bye last week and he loved it! We also went on a vacation for just the 2 of us for a few days make positive memories that's really helping me right now, that we left positive and happy. Well I'm definitely not happy about it but you understand. I'm just hoping time flies :)

Basically, you're going to find out that 8 weeks goes by super fast and that you were freaking out for hardly any trouble at all. It's a unique experience and basically, it's a good gauge of whether or not you can live the lifestyle at all. Try and calm down and stay positive-- if you can't handle basic for 8 weeks, deployment for 6 months to a year is going to be INSANE! If you CAN handle this 8 weeks, you get to know that your relationship(and sanity) were tough enough to survive this kind of thing. Which one will you be? I hope you see this as a challenge in a good light, rather than a bad one. Good luck!<br />
-Angela

My boyfriend is going to San Antonio in August and then is going to be stuck there for 8 months after basic. I'm totally freaking out also!! I guess we just have to make the most of the time that we have right now. But I would love to talk with you about it!!

Our boyfriends are together :) lol

my boyfriend just left to san antonio this week :(<br />
its the hardest thing ever! BUT us woman can survive. We just need to stick together and make friends

My boyfriend just left 2 days ago! I hate that he's not here with me anymore. We have been dating for 7 months and we lived together for about six. It's super hard to go to bed alone and know that he isnt coming home for awhile. It sucks cause I dont just love him, i need him. He's my best friend. I'm so glad all of you are on the same page or were. Its nice to know Im not alone on how i feel.

It will be fine. Time will pass quickly and you'll get to write him letters and reconnect in a whole different way. Get a new hobby to keep yourself entertained. I wish both of you good luck and don't lose hope. Remember you're not the only girlfriend that has gone through this, and trust me, better times will come.

Hey, I know how ya feel. my BF is going to be gone for BT and then six years after that! I'm going to miss him so much!. In fact, I thought your story was kinda cool because my BF's name is Will too! I don't even know when he leaves. They keep pushing the date back.

They extended my bf's to.... He hasnt went through basic yet he leaves in 7 days :'( but his tech school was only supposed to be 8 weeks not its 8 1/2 MO because of the job he got... We will be part for a year counting the time he is gone for bootcamp.

They extended my bf's to.... He hasnt went through basic yet he leaves in 7 days :'( but his tech school was only supposed to be 8 weeks not its 8 1/2 MO because of the job he got... We will be part for a year counting the time he is gone for bootcamp.

it does after you get the first phone call. i got mine on sunday. im jus afraid they wil station him far away. im trying to buy a car w my income tax and i jus wish my few friends understood what im going through and feeling but they honestly dont. my guy signed up for 6 yrs and wants to make it a career.

You have us here to talk to. I think that's the reason google sent me here. So I could find women just like me to talk to about this and release feelings about what is going on. We're all here for you sweetie. And I hope you're here for us as well :]

im going through the same thing. my bf left a week ago, as you said its zero week. i write him everyday and im jus lost at what to do. i try to keep busy but work is ok an im on a week long break before next term. i am different , i dont have anyone to always listen to me or even granted five minutes just to say how i feel. it sucks, the people i thought were my friends have busy lives where they cant even help me right now. im always there for them so im feeling hte abandonment. i do have one friend but i dunno if i can talk to her. so im new at the military relationship lifestyle.

Hey, it's been a while since anybody has really posted on this. I just kind of discovered it. I've been reading all these fantastic stories and everything. I can relate to people now. None of my friends realize how hard this is. My Airman left on January 4th, 2010. It's been only a month and this is definitely the hardest thing I've ever had to go through. I think he has a pretty nice TI. He's called every weekend after 0 week. So I've heard from him 3 times. The first he was crying, it tore me up so badly. But I kept trying to make him happy on the phone for the 5 minutes we got to talk. What really helps me, is since we received his address in the mail I've written to him everyday. I've sent pictures to remind him of the life we had previously. And pictures of the life I am currently living. These weeks have been so hard. But as he continues his journey to accomplishing his dreams and I continue waiting for him up here in Minnesota the days get better and they go by faster. But for me, I can't think of a day I haven't cried at least once. Hopefully he gets to send his letter some time this week. What really helps me through this is I have set goals for myself just trying to get through the weeks as fast as possible until I get to see Jacob again. Thanks to whoever started this website. It's a really great thing for all of us.

HEY MY HUSBAND OF EIGHT MONTHS LEFT FOR AF BMT ON NOV. 2 2010. HE IS AT LACKLAND. WE HAVE A 5 MONTH OLD SON AND I MISS HIM TERRIBLY. I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT U ARE GOING THROUGH. SO FAR, I HAVE RECEIVED A POST CARD FROM HIM WITH HIS ADDRESS ON IT AND I HAVE WROTE HIM A LETTER A DAY EVERY SINCE. I'VE ALSO RECEIVED A SHORT LETTER FROM HIM. IT WAS ONLY A PARAGRAPH LONG AND HE SAID HE WAS SNEAKING IN THE DARK TO WRITE IT TO ME. HE SAID THAT PEOPLE GET LETTERS EVERYDAY SO PLEASE WRITE YOUR BOYFRIEND WHEN U GET HIS ADDRESS. I FEEL SO BAD THOUGH. YESTERDAY HE CALLED ME TWICE BUT I MISSED HIS CALLS, I WAS AT WORK. MY PHONE WAS ON SILENT AND I DON'T KNOW HOW THAT HAPPEND. I USUALLY KEEP IT ON VIBRATE AT WORK SO I WOULD NOT MISS A CALL FROM HIM. I DON'T KNOW WHAT HAPPENED AND I CRIED AND CRIED OVER THAT. OH I FELT SO BAD. HE LEFT A VM THOUGH SO IT WAS NICE HEARING HIS VOICE. PLEASE HAVE YOUR CELL PHONE NEXT TO YOU AT ALL TIMES DURING THE WEEKENDS, BECAUSE THIS IS THE DAYS THEY ARE LIKELY TO CALL. TRUST ME, YOU DO NOT WANT TO HAVE THAT FEELING OF MISSING HIS PHONE CALLS. IT'S A TERRIBLE FEELING. MY EMAIL IS A_GREEN15@YAHOO.COM. PLEASE WRITE TO HIM BECAUSE THEY LOVE TO GET LETTERS. MY HUSBAND SD IN HIS LETTER THAT IT IS CRAZY AS HELL NOW THERE. I T'S TOUGH FOR THEM.

hey , my boyfriend left November 1 & the first few days was miserable ! but then yu start to realize the bright side of everything & start to feel better ! everything will be just fine & my bf won't be here for Thanksgiving or Christmas & that's gonna kill me ! but I'm willing to get thru it for him & I'm surely yur willing to do the same for yur bf !

My boyfriend is leaving tomorrow morning. I am at a hotel with him right now because we have to get up so early for his shuttle. I too will be spending Thanksgiving and Christmas alone. This is our fourth Christmas together, and I guess I took the other ones for granted. I am going to miss him so much! I am a sucker for the holidays. He is my best friend and I can only imagine how terrible these next two months are going to be. I'm not exactly sure how I am going to get through it. I guess i am just going to try to keep as busy as possible. The one good thing I think comes along with the him being gone for the holidays, is that the time should go by faster. At least family and friends will be around to keep my mind off of things.

My boyfriend leaves for afghanistan december 25th aka christmas ): <br />
It sucks... but just keep thinking that this is only one christmas without him and you'll have the rest of forever to be with him through everything :)

hey<br />
I'm sure someone else someone else has already commented on this but the change was for a purpose. The air force is now on par with the other branches for their training times and as the air force is phasing out maned aircraft airmen are being pulled more and more often by the other branches to fill in where needed, especially by the army. Those couple of extra weeks can be the difference in life of death of the airman or a comrade down the road. My boyfriend has not left yet either, he leaves in august. Hold strong and remember your support is what your airman needs most from you right now and reassurance that what he is doing of importance and value.

thats not the only place for training. my bofriend and our bestfriend both went into the airforce and my bf went to lackland and our bestfriend went to biloxi. but it does get easier my boyfriend is in tech right now and when he was in basic he got to call on sundays for thirty min. letters are great but you dont get many but for him they will mean everything. let him know you miss him but dont tell him how you always cry because it will hurt him. things will be great once you go to see him and you can actally live on base with him if yall get married. i cant wait til i gradute either :] good luck

thats not the only place for training. my bofriend and our bestfriend both went into the airforce and my bf went to lackland and our bestfriend went to biloxi. but it does get easier my boyfriend is in tech right now and when he was in basic he got to call on sundays for thirty min. letters are great but you dont get many but for him they will mean everything. let him know you miss him but dont tell him how you always cry because it will hurt him. things will be great once you go to see him and you can actally live on base with him if yall get married. i cant wait til i gradute either :] good luck

Trust me...the basic training for 8 weeks is nothing. In the past 10 months I have seen my boyfriend about 15 days. He was in San Antonio for basic for the 8 weeks and I thought that was hard. I saw him for his graduation for a few days, and he then moved to Sheppard AFB in Texas and has been for 4 months (about to be 5 months). This has been one of the hardest things I have ever done. It will be fine!

mine was supposed to leave nov 3rd i had to take him a 2 days early cuz we were in south carolina, ive never been so broken before, i am terrified, im scared, and i dont know what to do, im supposed to go live with him in a year, but hes in security forces(he got put down for it, wasnt explained to him and didnt know what it was ) what are the chances of him getting that job changed?

mine was supposed to leave nov 3rd i had to take him a 2 days early cuz we were in south carolina, ive never been so broken before, i am terrified, im scared, and i dont know what to do, im supposed to go live with him in a year, but hes in security forces(he got put down for it, wasnt explained to him and didnt know what it was ) what are the chances of him getting that job changed?

mine was supposed to leave nov 3rd i had to take him a 2 days early cuz we were in south carolina, ive never been so broken before, i am terrified, im scared, and i dont know what to do, im supposed to go live with him in a year, but hes in security forces(he got put down for it, wasnt explained to him and didnt know what it was ) what are the chances of him getting that job changed?

I know how you feel, i had to say good bye to my boyfriend wednesday the 21st, hes in texas as well. it was one of the hardest things i have had to do, but just remember how proud of him you are, and keep your head up, if you can get through this with him you can get through anything!!!!

My boyfriend recently got out of basic training there. Your boyfriend will love it (minus being away from you), he'll make A LOT of good and close friends in basic. The first week will be the hardest on the both of you. You'll get short (maybe 7 minutes) phone calls and get a letter or two every week (if their TI is nice). By the 4th week you and your trainee should be better about the distance. I know how hard it is, trust me, I went through it too. He's now in Mississippi and I'm in Tennessee, about 500 miles apart. Just don't let him worry and keep him confident that you're going to make it. Don't tell him anything he'll worry sick over. And when he graduates from basic, it'll be one of the best days of your lives. DON'T GO TO THE ALAMO if you go to his graduation... it sucks lol. :) good luck

8 weeks is a walk in the park my friend.<br />
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and it doesn't get easier after basic.<br />
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or maybe that's just air force? <br />
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it hasn't been for the Marines...

wow this is real?<br />
i am not an AF gf im a USMC gf but i was just looking and this caught my eye<br />
okay im sorry but its 8 weeks....heaven forbid u be away for that long. He can CALL you!! wtf r u complaining about??? really? really? think about it...<br />
and holidays ur gunna complain about holidays??? my bf was deployed last year and missed freaking halloween thanksgiving christmas newyears valentinesday AND my bday.....guess freaking what?? hes being deployed again and is going to miss halloween thanksgiving christmas newyears valentines day our one year aniversary and my bday his bday summer my brothers wedding, hes missing it all bc hes going to be gone for 13 MONTHS to afghan...i unerstand basic training or boot is the the first taste and can be hard but put your situation into perspective plz and think about what you are complaining about....put it into perspective...what happens when hes deployed are you just not going to be able to hack it??? military relationships are hard thats what makes them selfless relationships...you sacrifice to gain so much...so suck it up grab your ovaries be a woman and stay strong bc hun it doesnt get easier and you better be prepared or your not gunna last

hey guys i just joined this thing and i usually dont do this kind of thing.. my boyfriend actually just got done with basic in san antonio a few months ago. It was so hard but if u get the chance to go there and see them graduate deff do it because it was one of the most exciting things of my life its wonderful!.. its hard at first but it get better and as soon as you see him you will find it so much easier even if he leaves again ":] and i thought it did go by fast and write them a lot they love it. and i felt like i became so much closer to him by writing :]

yea im asking the same question you are. mine is leaving most likly in august. maybe september. its all so crazy and not being able to see or talk to them at all at first, im going nuts right now too. :(

yea im asking the same question you are. mine is leaving most likly in august. maybe september. its all so crazy and not being able to see or talk to them at all at first, im going nuts right now too. :(

im still in HS, so i had classes to pass the time by. plus im in activities inside and outside school. just keep busy, talk to ppl and keep a positive attitude. if you need anything, just message =]

its gets SOOOOOOOOOOOOO easy after basic. My fiance is at Sheppard AFB and we talk every day all day!

Hey girls, <br />
I'm new to this site, but my boyfriend of two years left for basic on december 2nd. He missed christmas and new years. When reading this i totally knew what you were going through. It's good to know that i'm not alone. I can relate to you because none of my friends have ever dealt with relationships that are long distance with little communication. Your tips were very helpful ! I hope your airmen are all doing great. <br />
P.s.- do any of you know if it gets easier after basic?? <br />
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asgf

hey thanks girl!!! yeah everyday gets a little easier. He actually got hurt and had to go to medical dorm for like 3 days so i was lucky to have gottento talk to him for like 30 min each night!!! His flight is grad. in the first time for th new 8 week program...it sucks but only 5 more weeks!!!! yay! thanks girl! where you from?

Hey.<br />
I just went to Lackland to see my boyfriend graduate from basic and it was incredible. I thought it was the end of the world when he left, but trust me you'll get through. You'll definately need your friends and lots of pictures. They dont have a lot of time to write letters so dont feel like he forgot you if you dont get that many. Its hard but look at all of these people who are going through the same thing or have already been through it. STAY STRONG.<br />
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Chelsea.

i hope so too! I'm sure he will. :)

i hope....i know he will on thanksgiving b/c he got that operation home cooking. where he leaves base and goes to a fmaily and they cook him a hot diner. and he gets to use the phone for as long as he wants!!!! i hope he does...im going crazy!!!!!!!

I'm sure your man will call you soon too!!!!!!!

haha...a girl T.I? hmm...i wonder! well thats great! glad he called you!

he called me last night at 8:40 and he has a girl T.I he is doing well and he has a good flight! he has recieved my letters and he told me to wrtie longer ones lol.

OMG!!! you suck! thats not fair!!!!!!!!! when??? ugh, he must have a decent T.I. not fair girl, not fair. I know only 2 more weeks for me too!!!

jordon called me!!!!!!!!

thanks girl...yeah i know! I mean i'm about to go crazy thinking about it...jsut a couple more weeks of school and i'm out for thanksgiving and then thats when it'll happen! This is getting a lil easier as the days go on but not much

mind is (910) 340 9002!!! Thanks for the #, and my name is Elayna Cannon. But everyone just calls me "Layne" like you know Lois Lane? lol I cant wait to here my baby's voice either. Its gonna be a splendid day!!

yes for sure!!!! heres mine...(423) 488-4502. YOu can call me any time you'd like too...my full name is MAry Beth Collins jsust so ya know. I can't wait to hear his voice!!! AHHH its going to be an amazing day!!!

You mean the adopt an airman thing? I heard families can take them in for thankgiving and they can have a good meal, but they can use their fone that day?!!? OMG!!!!! I DIDNT KNOW THAT!!! IM SO EXCITED NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THANKS!!!! oh yeah they would be proud! :) This is awesome, I'm so happy!!! I hope we can meet up would you like my phone number? I'll be willing to talk you know, if you have a rough time or something. :)

yeah it sucked didn't it....ugh! BUT that "operation homecooking" where if you have family in San anotonio you can go to their house for a holiday for the day and eat and use their phone for as long as you want! So i'm counting down the days now until i get to talk to him on Thanksgiving!!!! THANK GOD!!! hes FLT 079...but thats cool that they will grad together. We could still try and meet up and meet! Thatd be cool after talking like this and sahring stroies...our men would be impressed!

oh yeah theywill together. wait you dont know what training group he is in? sorry i think i put it wrong before, jorodon TRS is 323 and his flt is 087.<br />
yeahi didnt get to hear my baby's voice either,his mom just send it to me in an email

hey...yeah i finally got an adress...i was with his parents when he called and i never got to hear him...i wanted to SO badly! hes in FLT 079....not your guys but they will grad at the same time i think! they all do right?

yeah they cut the last part of Jordon's, I had to look it up. I guess you can waith for the post card or call in for his address. <br />
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To get your Airman's mailing address call (210) 671-3024.<br />
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Did you try calling his mom or something? Maybe she got his address and his call to you was just a call to say hey im ok.

UGH!!!! that makes me so mad! we got a call today later after i wrote you..but he didn't give an address or flight number! i was so pissed! its like they cut him off.

yep his is 323! I'm surprised you havnet gotten a call though...ive had jordons address since wednesday

dude hell yeah it would!!!! here in a couple of weeks we will have to exchange numbers and info about the boys and maybe we can....thats be so cool!!! doyou know his flight number yet>

YAY!! hey so you are going to graduation right? I hope I can make it out there, maybe we coudl run into each other. Wouldnt it be crazy if our boys were in the same flight? :P

YAY!! hey so you are going to graduation right? I hope I can make it out there, maybe we coudl run into each other. Wouldnt it be crazy if our boys were in the same flight? :P

Tomorrow (monday) will be a week since i've seen him..the day we dropped him off. We are wating for a phone call today (sunday) from him with his address then we can start sending messages. I know 59 more days to go!!! wHOO!! haha

seen him*** sorry haha

Wait...its been a week since you seen him? or sent him a letter? Sorry got confused....i know. Now i can really count down the real days

haha yeah i do too! Its already been a week since i've send him, that is so crazy to me! :P

I do too!! I'll just sit there and look at all my pics of him and I or jsut him. And the funnny thing is is that they have to be in bed by 9 which is 10 my time and for some reason i always look at the phone right at 10 without thinking about it...i guess thats my conscience telling me to say goodnight!

my baby called home like the second day he was there, I dont know if its a good sign and his T. I likes giving phone calls, or if its a bad one and his T. I is really mean and just went ahead and got it out of the way....I dunno..lol I keep checking my phone everynight to see if he is gonna call. :P

yea thats true. Yeah i totally hate the fact that they cahnged it 8 weeks!! but i gues it helps them out more by not making it SO intense that they have to cram things in. I know i am going to write him like everyday. he is suppose to call tomorrow (sat) to give us his address so AS SOON as i get that tomorrow i'm sending the first letter, whcih i have already written!! hahaha

The hard thing is though its not a month and a half anymore! Its two months!! :P but its not that big of a difference, it is a very short amount of time if you really think about it. I mean..thats me coming home only 4 times from college.

looking back on it the days honestly seemed to fly by pretty fast. i had some rough times but when it gets really bad think of all of your happy memories, write a letter and send it to him even though you probably wont get a reply it really helps to write out your feelings and it made me feel closer to him. just remember it will all be over with shortly and years from now looking back you will probably think a month and a half really wasnt that bad in the larger picture of things that went on in your life. it comes back to the old quote, even though you are one day further from the last day you saw him, you are one day closer to the next time you will. I'm here to talk if you need me, I understand.

yes, I am hoping and praying it flies by too...I miss him so much. I wrote him his first letter today!! (not sure if i said that already or not, if i did sorry but im really excited about it) :P Letters SOOOO help them out. I just got dont talking to a friend who got out about a month ago and he said the only thing that really helped get him through were the letters and the meals. So write to them when you can! :)))

true, very true. Thanks for reminding me about the holidays. They should make it go a lil faster, plus i'm spending themwith is fmaily which wil make me feel better. Yeah he doesn't actually start training until this saturday so hopefully this will fly by.

Well, I'm thinking that it will. I mean after then you will be used to them being gone and it will just fly. And remember there are big holidays coming up and stuff, and that will help make things go faster too, i would think. Like for me, I'm in college I have quite a bit to keep me busy. But i do cry everyday, and I get upset, but for me i've noticed i dont do it as much or as long each day. School is what is helping me get through days. I mean think about it, you've gone through almost a week already!!! :)

oh thats cool guys....i'm from Tennessee!! lol. Sorry didn't know thats the only place...good things i gues. Hey...deos it really go by fast after the first few weeks?

North Carolina, Lackland is the only base to train for the Air Force

Kansas. Lackland is the main military base that most people go to for BMT from all around the country.

Where are you from? funny they went to the same place.

Your welcome! Anytime!

Thanks guys..i was hoping that somebody would finally write me back and ya'll have just lifted me up. I know that t wil get better, and i have school and stuff to keep me busy. When i graduate and he gets stationed he is moving me down there and getting me an apt. So thats my goal and i'm working towards it. Yeah, well hopefully my b/f Will gets a descent TI...but i also told him that he does really well and doesn't really get in trouble and they see that he will get maybe a patio break or something. I hope!!! Thanks again, keep in touch, this is really helping me!

It does depend on the T.I what privileges he gets. My boyfriend just went through Basic in San Antonio a month ago and I he didn't get a chance to call until the last 2 weeks, and it was only 3 phone calls. I also only recieved 4 letters from him the whole time. He said his flight got the worst and toughest T.I. It was really hard during BMT, going from talking and seeing eachother all the time to nothing was a hard adjustment. I didn't have anyone to really talk to and I kept to myself and it was a bad month and 1/2 for me. Now he is in Tech School also in TX and once they get to Tech it gets a whole lot better and easier, trust me. But my bf just got placed on Swing shift a few days ago. (They go to class from 3 in the afternoon to 1 in the morning) So we went from being able to talk all of the time back to nothing. It will be like this till he graduates in January. This is a hard thing to do and get through, but I love him and am very proud of him. If anyone needs to talk or ask questions I'm here.

Yeah, he is there right now, he left the 3rd of this month. I am stressing too, I have felt that it gets a lil better each day. I cried horribly on the 3rd, the 4th i cried maybe 3 times...today i've cried once. I just try to keep busy and keep from being by myself. The writing thing really depends on the T.I from what i heard, he may not write you back, but know those letters you write will be a lifeline to him. If you think about it it will be his only connection to the outside world at the time. Just stay encouraged, and keep him encourage. I know its going to be hard not to hear from him back, and you are gonna wonder if he will call you or not but just be there and stay waiting. He will appreciate when he gets finished.

Hey girl! wow thanks for that. Is your guy at the same place? or did he already go through? I just feel so lost without him ya know? I cry everyday, all day. Does it really get btter? Some guy that was at his Sarg's office before we took him up was saying that they rarely if any have time to write you back. But if they are really good they may get a "patio break" where they can call. Ihope hes ok. thanks again

I'm in the same boat, like I said in another forum. It will be ok. At the end of his first week called "0" week he will be able to call someone and he gives his address. Once you get it you can write all the letters you want! And he might be able to have time to write back on weekends or if his T.I grants them time. If you do get a letter dont expect it to be long. But make sure you are encouraging to him! Don't talk about how you are really upset or anything. He is going through hell right now and you have to remember that. After he gets out of boot camp he WILL be able to call you. Heck, most of my other Air Force friends tell me that most will have plenty of time to talk for even and hour or two when they get done with their classes!! Have hope, and keep busy! I know its hard, its very hard for me right now too, I cry everyday, but just getting that out helps me alot! I hope this helps! If you need anything , message me! OH! and another thing, try to have someone you can always call to listen to you. For me it's my bf's mom, she helps me a ton and it makes me feel better when she takes time to let me rant.