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My boyfriend Will is also leaving Novemebr 3 rd for basic to San Antonio.  I'm already lost and he hasn't even left.  I don't know what i'm going to do!! plus they changed basic fomr 6 weeks to 8 for NO REASON!! i'm so upset, now he doesn't get to come home for chrsitams.  How am i supose to survuive?!

Mare5505 Mare5505 22-25, F 81 Responses Oct 13, 2008

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He promise to come back. Promises are meant to be broken but he gave me an assurance. We don't have any communication for so long. Should I wait? Eventhough I already have no idea if he's coming back? :(

I am a marines girlfriend. He's my bestfriend but he left me during those times that I needed him most. I'm still waiting. we don't have any communication ad I miss him so bad :'(

I'm from the San Antonio area and my boyfriend is in England and about to deploy : /.... As for you, He'll be alright and If you love him you'll find a way to survive it's best to find a good set of girl friends that will help keep your mind off his absence

My boyfriend left today.. I know the feeling. But my advice is to do alot with him the months before and make lots of positive memories. I threw mine a surprise going away party with all his Guy friends to say good bye last week and he loved it! We also went on a vacation for just the 2 of us for a few days make positive memories that's really helping me right now, that we left positive and happy. Well I'm definitely not happy about it but you understand. I'm just hoping time flies :)

Basically, you're going to find out that 8 weeks goes by super fast and that you were freaking out for hardly any trouble at all. It's a unique experience and basically, it's a good gauge of whether or not you can live the lifestyle at all. Try and calm down and stay positive-- if you can't handle basic for 8 weeks, deployment for 6 months to a year is going to be INSANE! If you CAN handle this 8 weeks, you get to know that your relationship(and sanity) were tough enough to survive this kind of thing. Which one will you be? I hope you see this as a challenge in a good light, rather than a bad one. Good luck!

-Angela

My boyfriend is going to San Antonio in August and then is going to be stuck there for 8 months after basic. I'm totally freaking out also!! I guess we just have to make the most of the time that we have right now. But I would love to talk with you about it!!

Our boyfriends are together :) lol

my boyfriend just left to san antonio this week :(

its the hardest thing ever! BUT us woman can survive. We just need to stick together and make friends

My boyfriend just left 2 days ago! I hate that he's not here with me anymore. We have been dating for 7 months and we lived together for about six. It's super hard to go to bed alone and know that he isnt coming home for awhile. It sucks cause I dont just love him, i need him. He's my best friend. I'm so glad all of you are on the same page or were. Its nice to know Im not alone on how i feel.

It will be fine. Time will pass quickly and you'll get to write him letters and reconnect in a whole different way. Get a new hobby to keep yourself entertained. I wish both of you good luck and don't lose hope. Remember you're not the only girlfriend that has gone through this, and trust me, better times will come.

Hey, I know how ya feel. my BF is going to be gone for BT and then six years after that! I'm going to miss him so much!. In fact, I thought your story was kinda cool because my BF's name is Will too! I don't even know when he leaves. They keep pushing the date back.

They extended my bf's to.... He hasnt went through basic yet he leaves in 7 days :'( but his tech school was only supposed to be 8 weeks not its 8 1/2 MO because of the job he got... We will be part for a year counting the time he is gone for bootcamp.

They extended my bf's to.... He hasnt went through basic yet he leaves in 7 days :'( but his tech school was only supposed to be 8 weeks not its 8 1/2 MO because of the job he got... We will be part for a year counting the time he is gone for bootcamp.

it does after you get the first phone call. i got mine on sunday. im jus afraid they wil station him far away. im trying to buy a car w my income tax and i jus wish my few friends understood what im going through and feeling but they honestly dont. my guy signed up for 6 yrs and wants to make it a career.

You have us here to talk to. I think that's the reason google sent me here. So I could find women just like me to talk to about this and release feelings about what is going on. We're all here for you sweetie. And I hope you're here for us as well :]

im going through the same thing. my bf left a week ago, as you said its zero week. i write him everyday and im jus lost at what to do. i try to keep busy but work is ok an im on a week long break before next term. i am different , i dont have anyone to always listen to me or even granted five minutes just to say how i feel. it sucks, the people i thought were my friends have busy lives where they cant even help me right now. im always there for them so im feeling hte abandonment. i do have one friend but i dunno if i can talk to her. so im new at the military relationship lifestyle.

Hey, it's been a while since anybody has really posted on this. I just kind of discovered it. I've been reading all these fantastic stories and everything. I can relate to people now. None of my friends realize how hard this is. My Airman left on January 4th, 2010. It's been only a month and this is definitely the hardest thing I've ever had to go through. I think he has a pretty nice TI. He's called every weekend after 0 week. So I've heard from him 3 times. The first he was crying, it tore me up so badly. But I kept trying to make him happy on the phone for the 5 minutes we got to talk. What really helps me, is since we received his address in the mail I've written to him everyday. I've sent pictures to remind him of the life we had previously. And pictures of the life I am currently living. These weeks have been so hard. But as he continues his journey to accomplishing his dreams and I continue waiting for him up here in Minnesota the days get better and they go by faster. But for me, I can't think of a day I haven't cried at least once. Hopefully he gets to send his letter some time this week. What really helps me through this is I have set goals for myself just trying to get through the weeks as fast as possible until I get to see Jacob again. Thanks to whoever started this website. It's a really great thing for all of us.

HEY MY HUSBAND OF EIGHT MONTHS LEFT FOR AF BMT ON NOV. 2 2010. HE IS AT LACKLAND. WE HAVE A 5 MONTH OLD SON AND I MISS HIM TERRIBLY. I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT U ARE GOING THROUGH. SO FAR, I HAVE RECEIVED A POST CARD FROM HIM WITH HIS ADDRESS ON IT AND I HAVE WROTE HIM A LETTER A DAY EVERY SINCE. I'VE ALSO RECEIVED A SHORT LETTER FROM HIM. IT WAS ONLY A PARAGRAPH LONG AND HE SAID HE WAS SNEAKING IN THE DARK TO WRITE IT TO ME. HE SAID THAT PEOPLE GET LETTERS EVERYDAY SO PLEASE WRITE YOUR BOYFRIEND WHEN U GET HIS ADDRESS. I FEEL SO BAD THOUGH. YESTERDAY HE CALLED ME TWICE BUT I MISSED HIS CALLS, I WAS AT WORK. MY PHONE WAS ON SILENT AND I DON'T KNOW HOW THAT HAPPEND. I USUALLY KEEP IT ON VIBRATE AT WORK SO I WOULD NOT MISS A CALL FROM HIM. I DON'T KNOW WHAT HAPPENED AND I CRIED AND CRIED OVER THAT. OH I FELT SO BAD. HE LEFT A VM THOUGH SO IT WAS NICE HEARING HIS VOICE. PLEASE HAVE YOUR CELL PHONE NEXT TO YOU AT ALL TIMES DURING THE WEEKENDS, BECAUSE THIS IS THE DAYS THEY ARE LIKELY TO CALL. TRUST ME, YOU DO NOT WANT TO HAVE THAT FEELING OF MISSING HIS PHONE CALLS. IT'S A TERRIBLE FEELING. MY EMAIL IS A_GREEN15@YAHOO.COM. PLEASE WRITE TO HIM BECAUSE THEY LOVE TO GET LETTERS. MY HUSBAND SD IN HIS LETTER THAT IT IS CRAZY AS HELL NOW THERE. I T'S TOUGH FOR THEM.

hey , my boyfriend left November 1 & the first few days was miserable ! but then yu start to realize the bright side of everything & start to feel better ! everything will be just fine & my bf won't be here for Thanksgiving or Christmas & that's gonna kill me ! but I'm willing to get thru it for him & I'm surely yur willing to do the same for yur bf !

My boyfriend is leaving tomorrow morning. I am at a hotel with him right now because we have to get up so early for his shuttle. I too will be spending Thanksgiving and Christmas alone. This is our fourth Christmas together, and I guess I took the other ones for granted. I am going to miss him so much! I am a sucker for the holidays. He is my best friend and I can only imagine how terrible these next two months are going to be. I'm not exactly sure how I am going to get through it. I guess i am just going to try to keep as busy as possible. The one good thing I think comes along with the him being gone for the holidays, is that the time should go by faster. At least family and friends will be around to keep my mind off of things.

My boyfriend leaves for afghanistan december 25th aka christmas ):

It sucks... but just keep thinking that this is only one christmas without him and you'll have the rest of forever to be with him through everything :)

hey

I'm sure someone else someone else has already commented on this but the change was for a purpose. The air force is now on par with the other branches for their training times and as the air force is phasing out maned aircraft airmen are being pulled more and more often by the other branches to fill in where needed, especially by the army. Those couple of extra weeks can be the difference in life of death of the airman or a comrade down the road. My boyfriend has not left yet either, he leaves in august. Hold strong and remember your support is what your airman needs most from you right now and reassurance that what he is doing of importance and value.

thats not the only place for training. my bofriend and our bestfriend both went into the airforce and my bf went to lackland and our bestfriend went to biloxi. but it does get easier my boyfriend is in tech right now and when he was in basic he got to call on sundays for thirty min. letters are great but you dont get many but for him they will mean everything. let him know you miss him but dont tell him how you always cry because it will hurt him. things will be great once you go to see him and you can actally live on base with him if yall get married. i cant wait til i gradute either :] good luck

thats not the only place for training. my bofriend and our bestfriend both went into the airforce and my bf went to lackland and our bestfriend went to biloxi. but it does get easier my boyfriend is in tech right now and when he was in basic he got to call on sundays for thirty min. letters are great but you dont get many but for him they will mean everything. let him know you miss him but dont tell him how you always cry because it will hurt him. things will be great once you go to see him and you can actally live on base with him if yall get married. i cant wait til i gradute either :] good luck

Trust me...the basic training for 8 weeks is nothing. In the past 10 months I have seen my boyfriend about 15 days. He was in San Antonio for basic for the 8 weeks and I thought that was hard. I saw him for his graduation for a few days, and he then moved to Sheppard AFB in Texas and has been for 4 months (about to be 5 months). This has been one of the hardest things I have ever done. It will be fine!

mine was supposed to leave nov 3rd i had to take him a 2 days early cuz we were in south carolina, ive never been so broken before, i am terrified, im scared, and i dont know what to do, im supposed to go live with him in a year, but hes in security forces(he got put down for it, wasnt explained to him and didnt know what it was ) what are the chances of him getting that job changed?

mine was supposed to leave nov 3rd i had to take him a 2 days early cuz we were in south carolina, ive never been so broken before, i am terrified, im scared, and i dont know what to do, im supposed to go live with him in a year, but hes in security forces(he got put down for it, wasnt explained to him and didnt know what it was ) what are the chances of him getting that job changed?

mine was supposed to leave nov 3rd i had to take him a 2 days early cuz we were in south carolina, ive never been so broken before, i am terrified, im scared, and i dont know what to do, im supposed to go live with him in a year, but hes in security forces(he got put down for it, wasnt explained to him and didnt know what it was ) what are the chances of him getting that job changed?

I know how you feel, i had to say good bye to my boyfriend wednesday the 21st, hes in texas as well. it was one of the hardest things i have had to do, but just remember how proud of him you are, and keep your head up, if you can get through this with him you can get through anything!!!!

My boyfriend recently got out of basic training there. Your boyfriend will love it (minus being away from you), he'll make A LOT of good and close friends in basic. The first week will be the hardest on the both of you. You'll get short (maybe 7 minutes) phone calls and get a letter or two every week (if their TI is nice). By the 4th week you and your trainee should be better about the distance. I know how hard it is, trust me, I went through it too. He's now in Mississippi and I'm in Tennessee, about 500 miles apart. Just don't let him worry and keep him confident that you're going to make it. Don't tell him anything he'll worry sick over. And when he graduates from basic, it'll be one of the best days of your lives. DON'T GO TO THE ALAMO if you go to his graduation... it sucks lol. :) good luck

8 weeks is a walk in the park my friend.



and it doesn't get easier after basic.



or maybe that's just air force?



it hasn't been for the Marines...