My boyfriend Will is also leaving Novemebr 3 rd for basic to San Antonio.  I'm already lost and he hasn't even left.  I don't know what i'm going to do!! plus they changed basic fomr 6 weeks to 8 for NO REASON!! i'm so upset, now he doesn't get to come home for chrsitams.  How am i supose to survuive?!

Mare5505 Mare5505
22-25, F
81 Responses Oct 13, 2008

wow this is real?<br />
i am not an AF gf im a USMC gf but i was just looking and this caught my eye<br />
okay im sorry but its 8 weeks....heaven forbid u be away for that long. He can CALL you!! wtf r u complaining about??? really? really? think about it...<br />
and holidays ur gunna complain about holidays??? my bf was deployed last year and missed freaking halloween thanksgiving christmas newyears valentinesday AND my bday.....guess freaking what?? hes being deployed again and is going to miss halloween thanksgiving christmas newyears valentines day our one year aniversary and my bday his bday summer my brothers wedding, hes missing it all bc hes going to be gone for 13 MONTHS to afghan...i unerstand basic training or boot is the the first taste and can be hard but put your situation into perspective plz and think about what you are complaining about....put it into perspective...what happens when hes deployed are you just not going to be able to hack it??? military relationships are hard thats what makes them selfless relationships...you sacrifice to gain so much...so suck it up grab your ovaries be a woman and stay strong bc hun it doesnt get easier and you better be prepared or your not gunna last

hey guys i just joined this thing and i usually dont do this kind of thing.. my boyfriend actually just got done with basic in san antonio a few months ago. It was so hard but if u get the chance to go there and see them graduate deff do it because it was one of the most exciting things of my life its wonderful!.. its hard at first but it get better and as soon as you see him you will find it so much easier even if he leaves again ":] and i thought it did go by fast and write them a lot they love it. and i felt like i became so much closer to him by writing :]

yea im asking the same question you are. mine is leaving most likly in august. maybe september. its all so crazy and not being able to see or talk to them at all at first, im going nuts right now too. :(

yea im asking the same question you are. mine is leaving most likly in august. maybe september. its all so crazy and not being able to see or talk to them at all at first, im going nuts right now too. :(

im still in HS, so i had classes to pass the time by. plus im in activities inside and outside school. just keep busy, talk to ppl and keep a positive attitude. if you need anything, just message =]

its gets SOOOOOOOOOOOOO easy after basic. My fiance is at Sheppard AFB and we talk every day all day!

Hey girls, <br />
I'm new to this site, but my boyfriend of two years left for basic on december 2nd. He missed christmas and new years. When reading this i totally knew what you were going through. It's good to know that i'm not alone. I can relate to you because none of my friends have ever dealt with relationships that are long distance with little communication. Your tips were very helpful ! I hope your airmen are all doing great. <br />
P.s.- do any of you know if it gets easier after basic?? <br />
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hey thanks girl!!! yeah everyday gets a little easier. He actually got hurt and had to go to medical dorm for like 3 days so i was lucky to have gottento talk to him for like 30 min each night!!! His flight is grad. in the first time for th new 8 week program...it sucks but only 5 more weeks!!!! yay! thanks girl! where you from?

Hey.<br />
I just went to Lackland to see my boyfriend graduate from basic and it was incredible. I thought it was the end of the world when he left, but trust me you'll get through. You'll definately need your friends and lots of pictures. They dont have a lot of time to write letters so dont feel like he forgot you if you dont get that many. Its hard but look at all of these people who are going through the same thing or have already been through it. STAY STRONG.<br />
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i hope so too! I'm sure he will. :)

i hope....i know he will on thanksgiving b/c he got that operation home cooking. where he leaves base and goes to a fmaily and they cook him a hot diner. and he gets to use the phone for as long as he wants!!!! i hope he does...im going crazy!!!!!!!

I'm sure your man will call you soon too!!!!!!!

haha...a girl T.I? hmm...i wonder! well thats great! glad he called you!

he called me last night at 8:40 and he has a girl T.I he is doing well and he has a good flight! he has recieved my letters and he told me to wrtie longer ones lol.

OMG!!! you suck! thats not fair!!!!!!!!! when??? ugh, he must have a decent T.I. not fair girl, not fair. I know only 2 more weeks for me too!!!

jordon called me!!!!!!!!

thanks girl...yeah i know! I mean i'm about to go crazy thinking about it...jsut a couple more weeks of school and i'm out for thanksgiving and then thats when it'll happen! This is getting a lil easier as the days go on but not much

mind is (910) 340 9002!!! Thanks for the #, and my name is Elayna Cannon. But everyone just calls me "Layne" like you know Lois Lane? lol I cant wait to here my baby's voice either. Its gonna be a splendid day!!

yes for sure!!!! heres mine...(423) 488-4502. YOu can call me any time you'd like too...my full name is MAry Beth Collins jsust so ya know. I can't wait to hear his voice!!! AHHH its going to be an amazing day!!!

You mean the adopt an airman thing? I heard families can take them in for thankgiving and they can have a good meal, but they can use their fone that day?!!? OMG!!!!! I DIDNT KNOW THAT!!! IM SO EXCITED NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THANKS!!!! oh yeah they would be proud! :) This is awesome, I'm so happy!!! I hope we can meet up would you like my phone number? I'll be willing to talk you know, if you have a rough time or something. :)

yeah it sucked didn't it....ugh! BUT that "operation homecooking" where if you have family in San anotonio you can go to their house for a holiday for the day and eat and use their phone for as long as you want! So i'm counting down the days now until i get to talk to him on Thanksgiving!!!! THANK GOD!!! hes FLT 079...but thats cool that they will grad together. We could still try and meet up and meet! Thatd be cool after talking like this and sahring stroies...our men would be impressed!

oh yeah theywill together. wait you dont know what training group he is in? sorry i think i put it wrong before, jorodon TRS is 323 and his flt is 087.<br />
yeahi didnt get to hear my baby's voice either,his mom just send it to me in an email

hey...yeah i finally got an adress...i was with his parents when he called and i never got to hear him...i wanted to SO badly! hes in FLT 079....not your guys but they will grad at the same time i think! they all do right?

yeah they cut the last part of Jordon's, I had to look it up. I guess you can waith for the post card or call in for his address. <br />
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To get your Airman's mailing address call (210) 671-3024.<br />
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Did you try calling his mom or something? Maybe she got his address and his call to you was just a call to say hey im ok.

UGH!!!! that makes me so mad! we got a call today later after i wrote you..but he didn't give an address or flight number! i was so pissed! its like they cut him off.

yep his is 323! I'm surprised you havnet gotten a call though...ive had jordons address since wednesday

dude hell yeah it would!!!! here in a couple of weeks we will have to exchange numbers and info about the boys and maybe we can....thats be so cool!!! doyou know his flight number yet>

YAY!! hey so you are going to graduation right? I hope I can make it out there, maybe we coudl run into each other. Wouldnt it be crazy if our boys were in the same flight? :P

YAY!! hey so you are going to graduation right? I hope I can make it out there, maybe we coudl run into each other. Wouldnt it be crazy if our boys were in the same flight? :P

Tomorrow (monday) will be a week since i've seen him..the day we dropped him off. We are wating for a phone call today (sunday) from him with his address then we can start sending messages. I know 59 more days to go!!! wHOO!! haha

seen him*** sorry haha

Wait...its been a week since you seen him? or sent him a letter? Sorry got confused....i know. Now i can really count down the real days

haha yeah i do too! Its already been a week since i've send him, that is so crazy to me! :P

I do too!! I'll just sit there and look at all my pics of him and I or jsut him. And the funnny thing is is that they have to be in bed by 9 which is 10 my time and for some reason i always look at the phone right at 10 without thinking about it...i guess thats my conscience telling me to say goodnight!

my baby called home like the second day he was there, I dont know if its a good sign and his T. I likes giving phone calls, or if its a bad one and his T. I is really mean and just went ahead and got it out of the way....I dunno..lol I keep checking my phone everynight to see if he is gonna call. :P

yea thats true. Yeah i totally hate the fact that they cahnged it 8 weeks!! but i gues it helps them out more by not making it SO intense that they have to cram things in. I know i am going to write him like everyday. he is suppose to call tomorrow (sat) to give us his address so AS SOON as i get that tomorrow i'm sending the first letter, whcih i have already written!! hahaha

The hard thing is though its not a month and a half anymore! Its two months!! :P but its not that big of a difference, it is a very short amount of time if you really think about it. I mean..thats me coming home only 4 times from college.

looking back on it the days honestly seemed to fly by pretty fast. i had some rough times but when it gets really bad think of all of your happy memories, write a letter and send it to him even though you probably wont get a reply it really helps to write out your feelings and it made me feel closer to him. just remember it will all be over with shortly and years from now looking back you will probably think a month and a half really wasnt that bad in the larger picture of things that went on in your life. it comes back to the old quote, even though you are one day further from the last day you saw him, you are one day closer to the next time you will. I'm here to talk if you need me, I understand.

yes, I am hoping and praying it flies by too...I miss him so much. I wrote him his first letter today!! (not sure if i said that already or not, if i did sorry but im really excited about it) :P Letters SOOOO help them out. I just got dont talking to a friend who got out about a month ago and he said the only thing that really helped get him through were the letters and the meals. So write to them when you can! :)))

true, very true. Thanks for reminding me about the holidays. They should make it go a lil faster, plus i'm spending themwith is fmaily which wil make me feel better. Yeah he doesn't actually start training until this saturday so hopefully this will fly by.

Well, I'm thinking that it will. I mean after then you will be used to them being gone and it will just fly. And remember there are big holidays coming up and stuff, and that will help make things go faster too, i would think. Like for me, I'm in college I have quite a bit to keep me busy. But i do cry everyday, and I get upset, but for me i've noticed i dont do it as much or as long each day. School is what is helping me get through days. I mean think about it, you've gone through almost a week already!!! :)

oh thats cool guys....i'm from Tennessee!! lol. Sorry didn't know thats the only place...good things i gues. Hey...deos it really go by fast after the first few weeks?

North Carolina, Lackland is the only base to train for the Air Force

Kansas. Lackland is the main military base that most people go to for BMT from all around the country.

Where are you from? funny they went to the same place.

Your welcome! Anytime!

Thanks guys..i was hoping that somebody would finally write me back and ya'll have just lifted me up. I know that t wil get better, and i have school and stuff to keep me busy. When i graduate and he gets stationed he is moving me down there and getting me an apt. So thats my goal and i'm working towards it. Yeah, well hopefully my b/f Will gets a descent TI...but i also told him that he does really well and doesn't really get in trouble and they see that he will get maybe a patio break or something. I hope!!! Thanks again, keep in touch, this is really helping me!

It does depend on the T.I what privileges he gets. My boyfriend just went through Basic in San Antonio a month ago and I he didn't get a chance to call until the last 2 weeks, and it was only 3 phone calls. I also only recieved 4 letters from him the whole time. He said his flight got the worst and toughest T.I. It was really hard during BMT, going from talking and seeing eachother all the time to nothing was a hard adjustment. I didn't have anyone to really talk to and I kept to myself and it was a bad month and 1/2 for me. Now he is in Tech School also in TX and once they get to Tech it gets a whole lot better and easier, trust me. But my bf just got placed on Swing shift a few days ago. (They go to class from 3 in the afternoon to 1 in the morning) So we went from being able to talk all of the time back to nothing. It will be like this till he graduates in January. This is a hard thing to do and get through, but I love him and am very proud of him. If anyone needs to talk or ask questions I'm here.

Yeah, he is there right now, he left the 3rd of this month. I am stressing too, I have felt that it gets a lil better each day. I cried horribly on the 3rd, the 4th i cried maybe 3 times...today i've cried once. I just try to keep busy and keep from being by myself. The writing thing really depends on the T.I from what i heard, he may not write you back, but know those letters you write will be a lifeline to him. If you think about it it will be his only connection to the outside world at the time. Just stay encouraged, and keep him encourage. I know its going to be hard not to hear from him back, and you are gonna wonder if he will call you or not but just be there and stay waiting. He will appreciate when he gets finished.

Hey girl! wow thanks for that. Is your guy at the same place? or did he already go through? I just feel so lost without him ya know? I cry everyday, all day. Does it really get btter? Some guy that was at his Sarg's office before we took him up was saying that they rarely if any have time to write you back. But if they are really good they may get a "patio break" where they can call. Ihope hes ok. thanks again

I'm in the same boat, like I said in another forum. It will be ok. At the end of his first week called "0" week he will be able to call someone and he gives his address. Once you get it you can write all the letters you want! And he might be able to have time to write back on weekends or if his T.I grants them time. If you do get a letter dont expect it to be long. But make sure you are encouraging to him! Don't talk about how you are really upset or anything. He is going through hell right now and you have to remember that. After he gets out of boot camp he WILL be able to call you. Heck, most of my other Air Force friends tell me that most will have plenty of time to talk for even and hour or two when they get done with their classes!! Have hope, and keep busy! I know its hard, its very hard for me right now too, I cry everyday, but just getting that out helps me alot! I hope this helps! If you need anything , message me! OH! and another thing, try to have someone you can always call to listen to you. For me it's my bf's mom, she helps me a ton and it makes me feel better when she takes time to let me rant.