Dreading the Next 4 Years.

My boyfriend of 3 years just left for USAF basic training yesterday and I am already having a hard time. He hasn't even arrived in Texas yet, so he still has his phone and i can still talk to him, but when I can't talk to him anymore it's going to drive me insane. I have seen him everyday for the passed 3 years. He's my best friend, the one I tell everything to, and now he's gone. I have no idea how I'm going to handle this. He's the love of my life. I can't stand being away from him for more than a day..let alone months at a time. I'm besides myself and I have no idea what to do.

danababyyy danababyyy
35 Responses Nov 4, 2008

thanks! it helped a lot. i actually send him a text with a summary of my day every night before i go to bed. i know he won't get it until he gets out..but it's just something i thought would be good. i haven't started writing him letters yet because i have no idea where to send them to ha. but as soon as i do i'm going to write him everyday. it is so hard for me to not talk to him. i can't even stomach any food because i'm hurting so much. i'm just hoping these 2 months fly by because i don't think i can do this for that much longer. and then the 6 months after basic for tech school...i don't know how i'm going to handle that. i know i'm only 19 and he's 18..but i want to get married soon so i can be with him on base because i hate being away from him..but i don't know if he wants to do that..and i don't want to mention to him how much i want to marry him because i don't want to think i'm rushing him into it. i want him to do it on his own. but anyway..thanks for all your help. it means so much. i don't have anyone to talk to about this. i have one friend who's in a long distance relationship with her boyfriend and she goes sometimes 4 months at a time without seeing him. but they can still call each other and talk everyday. but she's away at school so it's not as easy to talk to her. but you've been a great help. how are you and your boyfriend doing now?

Um he called me once about half way through, and then his T.I. wouldn't grant them phone calls again until about the week and 1/2 before graduation. By that point I was already in San Antonio on vacation waiting to go to his graduation and we talked like maybe 5 times in a couple of days. I only got back 4 letters from him. Again his T.I. kept saying that he'd let them send out letters but they didnt get to until about 1/2 way through and I got 3 at once and the next week one more. They literally do not have any time to write back. He said he felt so bad that he couldn't write me back but I sent him a million letters and he said that he had more letters than anyone and that made him feel really really good and really helped him through. For me sitting down and writing letters made me feel a lot better and closer to him even if he wasn't able to respond. And if you dont get a response back really fast dont assume it is his fault. It was so hard but I just wrote down everything that happened in every day while he was gone just like he would know if he was still here. Hope this helped, ask as many questions as you need

thanks to both of you. but kkazoo..how many times did your boyfriend get to call home? and how many letters did you recieve? it's so hard not to hear his voice everyday..and not talk to him. i'm having such a hard time. :(

My boyfriend of 3 years left for Basic in August, now he is in Tech School in TX, I live in KS. I'll get to see him for Christmas, and I went to his BMT Graduation. It is hard, but we love eachother and plan to get married in the future. I know I'm young and people think I'm crazy but I don't care. If you want to talk about it I'm here, and just went through what you're about to experience.

I'm going through the same thing. It's very hard, mine of 2 years left on the 3rd of this month. I cry a lil everyday but it helps! It starts to get a lil bit easier..I just want time to fly by..