Hey there! I've been dating my boyfriend for 5 years now, we met in college where he did AFROTC and I was very involved at the detachment. He's in Pilot training now at Vance AFB and I'm in Texas. This is the first time we've ever been in a long distance relationship and even though he's been there for almost a year I'm having a really hard time with it. I understand that he's busy but even when he has nights off it seems like more attention is paid to hanging out with his friends then calling me. I know I'm being selfish but it's hard to go from getting 100% of his attention for so many years to practically none and I'm not sure how to distract myself. I don't want to make him feel guilty but I don't have many other people to talk to about this. Any advice on dealing with and surviving long distance? I'm afraid if I don't figure out a way to cope soon that I'll drive myself crazy.
katb456 katb456
26-30, F
1 Response Aug 15, 2014

My boyfriend has only been gone for 6 weeks so Im not too sure if you want my advice but I don't hear from him often and I also got used to getting 100% of his attention. That being said, I know its hard but be patient. I don't think his training is easy and he also needs a distraction like anyone else (like you). Get involved in a club or play a sport maybe volunteer somewhere. Think of things you enjoy doing or try something new. Best of luck!