A Few Questions From A Newbie

I feel like I have so many questions to ask all of you. I know so many of you have been through exactly what I'm going through and I can't wait to learn and be inspired by all of you and your stories. :)

So, I promised I'd write my boyfriend every day....the question is, what do I write about?! I mean, I know some of the basics- don't write about how miserable you are without them, etc. Anyway, I'm afraid my letters are just going to be boring! I don't do a lot of crazy entertaining things every single day, but I really want to send him a letter each day. I just don't know what to put in my letters. Talk about my day? The news? See, he always used to go to this gamer/geek news site and loved it....he'd even read articles he thought I'd like to me while I would be working on homework. I figure I'll keep him up to date with all of that, and he loves webcomics, so maybe print those out too? I'm also an artist (attending Savannah College of Art and Design, majoring in animation) so I thought it might be fun to draw him things (like doodles on the edges of the page or something. As long as I don't decorate the outside, he wouldn't get made fun of or anything, right?

I have another round of questions concerning BMT Graduation. I plan on going and meeting up with his parents and they've insisted on paying for everything (they know I'm your typical poor college student, even though I tried offering at least splitting the cost with them). They say they know how important it is to Chad (my soon-to-be airman!) for me to be there. D'Awww..

So basically.....what are the "rules" on PDA? Can we hold hands, etc? Can they go stay in hotels? Actually, it might be best if some of you would just describe your experiences, haha. :)

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11 Responses Mar 1, 2010

Yeah. Thankfully I'm going home for spring break soon and I'll be around my family and my crazy *** pets, so I won't feel so down and lonely. <br />
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Unfortunately (or fortunately, I'm not sure)....my boyfriend just called me and told me he called his mother and told her that he wanted to make the call to me because "I'm going to marry this girl some day" (AWWW!) and apologized. He said she understood....I really hope she does. She likes me, so maybe it's not so bad..but hmmmmmm I just don't know! I feel bad for being happy he did it, lol. Gahhh...<br />
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Just gotta make it through the first few weeks! Finals are coming up soon too so I'm sure they'll be a lovely black hole for my time, haha. Thanks for the encouraging words. :)

Lol Im glad I could help!<br />
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The break downs are inevitable, unfortunately. But as the weeks go by, they happen less and less. Especially after you get your first letter, which should be around week 3 :) Or your first phone call. I got my first phone call before I got my first letter. But thats because it happened to be Thanksgiving. Lol. But SUPER sweet of you to make sure his mom gets the call, especially after seeing how excited she is for it. Believe me, happy boyfriend parents make a happy girlfriend lol And remember, YOU'RE the one he's constantly thinking about and missing. Not his mom :) Lol Just keep your head up girl! The first two weeks are the absolute hardest. But once you survive those, you become a lot stronger and it gets a whole lot easier to deal with :)

Aha! Yooooou! I definitely went and looked up your story and it made me QUITE happy! holding hands is awesome, but at least we can lock arms. Whoooooop! And of course, all that other good stuff...off base and the hotel.....mhm! ;)<br />
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I definitely will be having a rough time adjusting so I'm soo so SOOO glad I found this place. I'll need all the support I can get. Right now my boy just called me from the hotel he's at (shipping out tomorrow) and told me he's not going to be able to call me to give me the address for the letters. :( He'd told me a while ago that he was picking me over everyone else and I felt so special, lol. When his parents were seeing him off at the recruiter's station today the recruiter mentioned the first phonecall home and of course his mother was apparently REALLY excited about it (he was just not going to tell her about the call because he didn't want to deal with this kinda situation). I guess I'm turning into an crazy emotional freakazoid cause I cried on the phone when he told me and he felt so bad! I didn't mean to cry, gahdammit! <br />
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He said he was going to call his mother and tell her he was going to call me instead, but of course I told him no. if he did that...the woman would hate me forever, lol. and I don't want that...especially because his parents offered to pay for my plane tickets for going to Graduation. Wahh. :( The littlest things can make or break a day I guess. This is probably just the beginning of random little breakdowns I'll be having over the next several weeks. joy oh joy.

Aha! Yooooou! I definitely went and looked up your story and it made me QUITE happy! holding hands is awesome, but at least we can lock arms. Whoooooop! And of course, all that other good stuff...off base and the hotel.....mhm! ;)<br />
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I definitely will be having a rough time adjusting so I'm soo so SOOO glad I found this place. I'll need all the support I can get. Right now my boy just called me from the hotel he's at (shipping out tomorrow) and told me he's not going to be able to call me to give me the address for the letters. :( He'd told me a while ago that he was picking me over everyone else and I felt so special, lol. When his parents were seeing him off at the recruiter's station today the recruiter mentioned the first phonecall home and of course his mother was apparently REALLY excited about it (he was just not going to tell her about the call because he didn't want to deal with this kinda situation). I guess I'm turning into an crazy emotional freakazoid cause I cried on the phone when he told me and he felt so bad! I didn't mean to cry, gahdammit! <br />
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He said he was going to call his mother and tell her he was going to call me instead, but of course I told him no. if he did that...the woman would hate me forever, lol. and I don't want that...especially because his parents offered to pay for my plane tickets for going to Graduation. Wahh. :( The littlest things can make or break a day I guess. This is probably just the beginning of random little breakdowns I'll be having over the next several weeks. joy oh joy.

Hey girl :) Everyoneeee answered all of your questions already (arent they all just AMAZING!) But I thought I'd just introduce myself :)<br />
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Myyyyy name is Devon :) My Airman and I have been together for exactly a year today :)) He graduated from bmt in early January and has been at tech school at Sheppard AFB in Texas for just about two months now training to be an F-16 crew chief. He'll be home in early June. Yay! Bmt is hard, but you sound like you have just about everything down! And this website is an amazing support group with a lot of really awesome girls :) You're in the right place! As for pda, like Allie said, I posted a story called, "Psh. PDA" when I got back from MY boyfriend's graduation explaining all about the pda rules. I bet you'll find it helpful! Welcome to the group!

Stephopotamus- I'll definitely keep the length of that kind of stuff in mind. Maybe spread the articles out over several letters instead of trying to cram them all in and only chose the ones I think he'll really be interested in. Also....particularly glad to hear that no one ever gets caught with that sort of thing. ;)<br />
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emily- hahahaha, thanks so much! I feel a lot better about writing my letters now, hehe. :) and I'll definitely look that up, thankya, thankya, thankyaa!

Nettsgirl- Oh, I guess you did answer some of those questions didn't you? gah! I'm so scatterbrained right now, haha. Thanks for the info though!! <br />
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becsig- That's so exciting, I'm really happy for you!! I also wish we could somehow switch spots though, haha...I reeeallly am not looking forward to the next 9 weeks, but seeing all you others make it through reminds me that we can do it too. As far as family giving us alone time, they're pretty considerate about that kind of stuff- they let me hog his time, though I know I won't/shouldn't try and keep him to myself the whole time. I'm hoping for a 50/50 ratio of family time and alone time but that might be a little *too* hopeful..but who knows. ;) Anyway I hope you have an awesome time at graduation!! Tell us all about it when you get back! And thanks for the information, too!

Doodles! Yes! I'm like, semi-decent at drawing and I doodled and he LOVED it. Webcomics, YES. I think you're gona be good at this. :)<br />
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Also as for PDA, look for a story by deevon112 called Psh. Pda. and it'll help you completely!

I bet he would love the comics and articles from that website. I did the same thing. I sent him articles from like our local paper and then stories I got of the news online about things I thought he would like to hear about. I didn't do this alot just because they don't have that much time to read them, less than 20 mins. Try writting stories about good times you too had. I wrote a couple letters about how I felt when we first met and our first couple of dates, ect. <br />
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As far as PDA at grad, you can't really hold hand or anything but its ot that bad. After ceremonies you can hug and kiss breifly. Airmen aren't supposed to be in your hotel room alone but no one ever gets caught. Just be smart about things. If you can go to sporting event at night! We did and my guy got to stay out till 11!! it was great. We just sat and talked. Suprisingly my guys parents were really relaxed with everything, they gave us time to be alone and stuff. funny story, the minute we were alone I just started balling again. it was awful but amazing because he was there to comfort me!!!

Hey! My boyfriend isn't quite out of basic (he graduates in a few days, finally!) but hopefully I can help you out with some of these questions :)<br />
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I know it seems like you won't have anything to write about, but trust me, once you start writing and get a few sentences in, you'll find stuff to say. I wrote about funny things that happened to me that day, sports news, stuff going on in my family, any random things that reminded me of him that day. I think printing him stuff from the website he likes would be great! One time I printed 5 little picture things from someecards.com (there are some really funny ones on there) and sent those with a letter. And I'm sure he'd loooove it if you drew him stuff. I wish I could draw! I joke in my letters about how I can't even draw smiley faces well, haha. Even after 2 months, they still suck. Oh well :P<br />
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That's awesome that his family is so supportive of you going to graduation! I'm going this week - leaving in 2 days! - and I am soooo excited. From what I've heard about PDA, you can't hold hands, but I think you can link arms. Of course, you can hug/kiss (nothing too crazy) when you first see him, but other than that, no kissing or anything in public. But I'm sure there are ways of getting around it and sneaking in a little love here and there! Your guy won't be able to stay overnight at the hotel with you. He'll have a curfew every day. But on the days that he has a town pass and can leave the base (I think that's Friday, Saturday, and in some cases Sunday, but not usually), he can come to your hotel and hang out there. Who knows, maybe his family will give you a little time alone! Haha, I'm not getting my hopes up, but it would DEFINITELY be nice hahaha :)<br />
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Anyways, I hope that was helpful! If you ever wanna talk feel free to add me on Facebook, my name is Becca Sigalas :)

Oh! I answered some of these questions in my comment on your other story :) lol. Just write about anything, your day, those comics you were talking about, and just keep him updated on things he liked. I think the doodles would be cute too. As long as you keep them on the inside, he won't get in trouble for that. Trust me, I thought my letters were boring too, but he will still love reading them, no matter how lame you think they are. Just remember to always keep them encouraging, it'll help him through BMT more than you know. And they cannot stay overnight in the hotels if that's what you meant. They have to go back to their dorms every night. They usually have to be back around 7 or 8, I think.. My poor memory.. and I was there only a month ago. lol But they can go to their families hotel and spend some time there. They're also only allowed to be in a certain area of san antonio, like they can't go past the 410 loop. It'll make more sense when you're there. Most people go to the alamo, maybe sea world, if it's open when you're down there, or malls. Hope this helped!