Advice Would Be Nice

Hey girls. 
So I'm sure we all know how it feels when we are without our significant other. My boyfriend, Levi, just left for AIT this past Wednesday. He is a rare case, but when he went to basic, he broke his ankle and had to wait for his individual training. He was home for a year, only leaving me alone one weekend per month. I got all too used to having him around. He is going to be gone for four short months, but then he is coming home. He is scheduled to be deployed in December or January. Although I know this may change, I am still very scared. I'm jumping the gun thinking this far ahead, but I'm also very scared.

We have been best friends for 6 years now. We have dated on and off for about 3. He's always been here. I just recently graduated high school and he had to miss my graduation because he had drill. He was at my party, which thrilled me. However, my parents are worried that I am getting into something that could just lead to heartbreak. Seeing as I am heading off to college in the fall, they are worried that I will miss out on meeting new people and having all sorts of fun. I am in love with Levi. I never want to leave him.

However, we have had a lot of problems in the past. We fight a lot, but it always seems to work out. We have gone 4 months without fighting and we've grown especially close in the past couple months before he had to leave. I rode up with his grandmother and aunt to drop him off and see him one last time before he had to leave. I know he loves me, but I'm wondering if it is enough to sustain for a lifetime. I know none of you know my situation and it is hard to give advice from a bystander's viewpoint. However, I am looking for support.

He's my best friend and when he's gone, I have no one to talk to that really understands me completely like he does. So I'm asking for advice. I don't want to leave him. I love his family. I love him. I'm just a bit insecure about him being gone so much. He wants kids. I don't. If he gets me pregnant and then leaves? What then? I'm stuck with his baby that I felt guilty bringing into the world today anyway. I'm just scared is all.

Any advice or stories from people like me? I may be getting engaged soon, so I need all the advice I can get.
ArmyGirl32 ArmyGirl32
18-21, F
2 Responses Jun 19, 2010

It definitely did. =) Thank you so much! I'm glad I found a group of girls that really know what I'm going through.

First off, if you love him and your family doesnt see that, dont listen to them. Stay with him if he makes you happy. If you guys have been together for three years, then i really dont think he'd leave you if he got you pregnant. I used to worry the same thing that if i got pregnant he'd leave me. But im 18 and pregnant with his son and he is about to be deployed next month and i have faith that he wouldnt leave us. As for not having anyone to talk to that understands, im right there with you. None of my friends can even imagine having their love being gone for so long. He is my best friend as well and i feel lost when hes even at drill. If you guys are still together after fighting as much as you say you did, then he's not going anywhere and im sure your love is enough to last a lifetime. Hope that helped :)