I Hate When People Say 'i Know How You Feel"...and They Really Dont!

My fiance and I have been together for 2 1/2 years and he is getting ready to deploy soon, with the days quickly passing by and my time with him running out its getting a bit harder each day. It is even harder when we dont live in the same state, we met while I was in college and even though we are used to summers and holiday breaks apart this time is a bit different because I have graduated and now I am home for good, well atleast until he returns. My friends on the other hand who are great and are always there to support me, I am having a bit of hard time with, none of them have ever dated anyone outside of our state let alone someone who is in the military who will soon be leaving. However, what I am trying to get at is even though my friends are always there for me they just dont get it. I have one specific friend who is always like "oh I know what you are going through" and I all I can think to myself is what do you mean? Her boyfriend lives in our town and they see each other every day. I just dont know how I am going to deal with friends like here saying that they know how I feel, because as far as I am concerned she doesnt know how I feel in the least bit. 

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with feelings and friends like this?   
MannsGirl121 MannsGirl121
22-25, F
1 Response Jul 9, 2010

My best friend did the same thing to me before my soldier deployed. she would always say " I know how you feel when my husband has to work out of town for the weekend I feel like I'm going to go crazy!" I just wanted to slap her! How could she even relate her experience and her husbands comfy little job to that of mine and my soldiers?! It would make my blood boil every single time. Then I had to realize she doesn't have any idea what it is like nor do most of my friends, and that short weekend away from their boyfriends is all that they have to relate to what you are going through. I honestly think that it is their way of trying to be there for you and trying to sympathize with what you are going through. So as hard as it is for youto listen to them say that it's even harder for them to imagine what you are going through. Keep your head up and know that on here you really do have friends who know what you are going through!