If Only Everyone Understood..

My boyfriend and I weren't together very long before he left for basic, it was a week shy of three months, and he left. So many people tell me that not only am I too young to know I love him, even though I'll be 18 very soon, but that three months is not long enoough to love someone. Him and I met on facebook through a coworker of mine, and a friend of his, we talked for almost a month before we even met in person. Once we did though, we both knew it. Once he graduated highschool, and my school year ended we spent every possible day together, until he left. Now that he's gone, I feel like no one understands how I feel, my parents support me, and his family is staying in touch and everything. Yet, even my best friend since i was 10 told me I'm stupid for my choice to stay with him, and most people agree with her. I guess today's just one of those days where I wish he was here, and I wish more people would come and tell me they support me, and not fight against me. This is hard enough without fighting with everyone about it. I'm not sure where I was headed with all of this, I guess I just needed to say it all. Dating someone in the military is hard work, I don't see why anyone would put us down..
KarKargoesVROOM KarKargoesVROOM
18-21, F
6 Responses Aug 12, 2010

KarKargoesVROOM I completely understand what you're going through with the exception that i'm 22 and I ment my boyfriend through his brother. No one ever seems to want to support my decision or the relationship of my dreams. It's the hardest getting through on your own while he's away when you don't have anyone to talk to or anyone's shoulder to cry on. it makes you just miss him more. Keep in mind though, those soldiers know that when they're away they have our love to come home to. They know we'll be here because they chose us because we're stronger than most. So keep your head up and keep writing, you encourage me as well. prayers for your man! <3

Don't let anyone ever get you down. We have one of the hardest jobs out there. Yeah, people will look down on you, but then again they don't understand, it doesn't matter your age it matters how you feel. And let me tell you the distance will make you stronger than ever. Make sure to write letters too, you wont believe how much of a difference they will make in your day and in his.

Don't let anyone ever get you down. We have one of the hardest jobs out there. Yeah, people will look down on you, but then again they don't understand, it doesn't matter your age it matters how you feel. And let me tell you the distance will make you stronger than ever. Make sure to write letters too, you wont believe how much of a difference they will make in your day and in his.

I completely support you. My boyfriend and I were only together a matter oftwo ad a half weeks before he deployed to Afganistan and he was actually stationed in Germany so I haven't even seen him since we've been an official couple. I can also relate to being young. I as well will only be 18 soon. That's great that your family supports you though! My Mom who I am extremely close with doesn't support me and tells me that I shouldn't be doing this and it's really tough. Stay strong though girl! It'll all be worth it in the end. Message me if you ever need to talk (:

I support you. I may not entirely agree with everything you have said - but I support you honey. I don't think, for a second, that you shouldn't be together simply because he went to bootcamp. I'm not sure I agree that you can know you love him only after three months - but hey, stranger things have happened!<br />
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And weather you love him is really irrelevant in my opinion. The fact that you are dating - exclusively - and that you LIKE each other is what is important - because you have to like someone before you love them and this experience will scream volumes if/when you get through it...<br />
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...and you will get through it - it will make you stronger as an individual AND as a couple (if the basic fundamentals of a realtionship stay in tact...you know, things like - DON'T CHEAT, etc.). <br />
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I'm a former military girl - and my boyfriend is still a military man. We have to spend time apart quite a bit - he's leaving in October for Afghanistan (been to Iraq 4 times, already - I've been once). He is my best friend and I will miss him - he will miss me. But we are just OK with it because we believe in, trust, respect - and LOVE each other. <br />
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Good luck sweety - I know this hard for you.

Thank you :) I've found a couple girls around here with military boyfriends, but none of them go to my school. but thank you, it's good to know that this is possible to get througgh