I Am An Infantry GirlfriendAs you can see from my title, I am an infantry girlfriend. I have not been one for very long but it already appears to be incredibly challenging and at times I am not quite sure how to get through it. Not too long ago I met a totally amazing man, Jeff. The first time that I got to see him was the happiest day of my life. We met after he had already went through basic training and his AIT training. I did not have that period to get adjusted to the military life style.
Most people tend to think that I am crazy. You see, I am just 17 years old and Jeff is 19. I have heard the same things over and over again. Everyone saying that I am either too young to be waiting for a soldier to return home or that I am too young for something as serious as to what we could be getting ourselves into. But unless they have been there to step in my shoes I do not see how it is possible for them to judge.
It is incredibly hard to be away from him for so long at a time. He left Friday, November 5, 2010 for Fort Carson. It has not been long since I have seen him this time and he will return home to me for Christmas on a 6 day leave and I cant wait for it. Unless someone has been through this, it is impossible for them to understand the love you can feel for a soldier. As a high school student there is so much that I miss out on. I do not have him here to go to prom with me or to just attend nights out with our friends. I cant just call him when I have been having a bad day or rush over to his house to feel his arms around me. And he is deprived of these luxuries as well. There are so many things that "regular people" take for granted. If they had these things taken away from them for just even a week then it might be possible for them to understand why our soldiers mean so much to us.
Right now Jeff and I are dating and have agreed on not seeing anyone else. We have not yet had to deal with our first deployment. He will be leaving at some point next year which isnt too far away... I wish that he was never leaving. He wants to see how well I can handle his deployment and wants to make sure that I will be here waiting for him when he gets home. He has trust issues which I can understand. What he doesn't understand is that I am willing to wait. I know the sacrifices of loving someone who will be gone, and possibly not coming home again and that is the risk I am willing to take. When he comes home for a few days at a time and I feel his arms around me again it is the best feeling in the world. I am not sure how it is possible to be any happier.
I know my story has been a bit jumbled and maybe not the easiest to follow but I would love some advice from those of you who have been through this. How do I make our relationship work? How do I cope with the fact that he is in Infantry and could possibly not come home to me at the end of his 15 month deployment? How do I make him understand that no matter what happens, I will be here waiting when he gets home because I AM AN INFANTRY GIRLFRIEND.