Confused On Marriage And The Military....So, my boyfriend and I have been togther for nearly two years. He gets me better than anyone I've ever met, we even have the same hang-ups about getting married. This is where it gets sticky. He has joined the Army and heads off to basic in less than a month and yes I'm scared sh**less with all the wars and crap over seas, but I digress. I want to move to be with him, I am a college graduate but completely and utterly broke working three partime jobs to barely make ends meet. I don't really have the money to randomly pack up and move everytime he's stationed someplace new.
Here in MT work is hard to find and his lack of employment and desire to make a difference are what finally made him sign up. Is a military life what I want? No, but here's the kicker, it feels right. Everything about making our relationship work and be together just feels right in my gut. We both feel that way. The only way it seems actually make this work and easier is if we get married. However it freaks both of us out but I'm more okay with it than he is, probly because I'm older and I understand that sometimes doing something that scares you usually works out better than you had planned on. Anyway, I've read that the only way that the military really works with couples and living together is if they are married. Legally married, since common law marriages are only recognized in a few states.
He's my best friend and my family so rearranging my life to help him live his now that I have graduated from college just feels right. Especially since he has decided to serve his country.
We planned to spend our lives together unmarried so why does adding that piece of paper make it so scary? Also, is there ANYONE who has been able to make it work without being married or is marriage the only way for the military to recognize your relationship as a permenent one?