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I Am a United States Army Girlfriend

How Do You Cope With Your Soldier Being Away ?

By: Leeyah59
Written on April 16th, 2012
By: Leeyah59
Age: 18-21 , Female
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  • shlebyjo

    My boyfriend and I have been best friends since we were 13. When I was 15 I moved from MI to KY but we always stayed in touch I'm 20 now and we've been dating for about 6 months. He left for basic yesterday, and after 6 months of long distance and as many breaks as my college schedule would allow, this transition has been so hard. It hurts me to not know what he's dealing with and whether or not he's okay. He is such a strong and stable person, but this first day not talking to him for the first time in over a year has been so hard. I appreciate just knowing that there are so many people out there who know what this is like. If anyone else has any advice to offer, that would be so great. Thank you.

    Jan 23
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  • RQQR

    Hey just read your story and just like you I me and my boyfriend started dating about 3 months ago and we have fallen head over heals for each other. Sometimes I feel like Im about to lose my mind with so many thoughts of how to cope with this distance. We do however communicate with each other everyday through skype and phone calls. And yes I agree with friends not understanding how hard it is because their not in our shoes.

    Sep 25, 2012
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  • missinDMB2013

    I read your story and your righ. Nobody understands but us. Especially when friends ask me how i do this. I cant explain it. Its so sweet that he wrote u all through out basic. But the feeling is worse when hes not safe here at home. This is just the begining...things will get harder but its true wht they say...distance makes u closer.

    May 7, 2012
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    • Leeyah59

      I agree, Distance does make you closer but it could also bring people apart. Being with a military man has just made me stronger as a person and I'm glad for that

      May 7, 2012
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    • missinDMB2013

      Your right , some people just cant handle it, but if you truly care about somebody, even more love them,.. then distance is just an obstacle to overcome. not an end to it.

      May 7, 2012
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  • Staying2009strong

    Yay! I'd love to stay in touch!! :)

    Apr 17, 2012
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  • joshsgirl08

    I keep in touch with my boyfriends sister, that helps alot!! I also started a count down till i see home next, talk as often as possible, i wear his hoodie to bed everynight too!! I started a journal that i write in when im having a hard day, i also talk to alot of ladies on here too!! I tell myself that my soldier needs me to be army strong too!!! Please feel free to pm me if you need to talk to someone or anything!

    Apr 16, 2012
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    • Leeyah59

      Yea, I see that being close to your soldiers family makes you cope really well. Im going to try that journal thing sounds pretty cool. Thanks :)

      Apr 16, 2012
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  • Staying2009strong

    I have to agree with everything ladyfloyd5 says!! I feel like I can connect with you so well! I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years, and I am 18. He is gone and its so hard. It helps (if you are close with his family) to hangout with them, call his mom up. I wouldn't have been able to get thru all I have so far without her. Also, I find myself saying Stay Strong, Stay Occupied." almost everyday along with "One day closer" Those are alot of help. Spraying his cologne on my pillows, blankets, wearing his favorite sweater, just makes me feel closer to him, silly I know. The hardest part I think is not having people who know we feel. None of my close friends will ever understand how it is, and how you are just excited to get a letter, or a 3 min phone call. It is really nice having this to talk to people, who get it and understand it and are just as crazy as you are for loving an army man :) if you ever need to talk, vent, anything! Don't hesitate to talk to me as well!

    Apr 16, 2012
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    • Leeyah59

      I feel like I connect with alot of women who go thru the same thing we are going thru, and Im glad I have other people who understands. I just added you. So I will be keeping in touch :) !!

      Apr 16, 2012
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