How Do You Cope With Your Soldier Being Away ?

Hello Ladies :)

I'm new to this whole blogging thing, so here's a little background on me and my soldier. My boyfriend is in the Army (duh!) and he's in AIT at Fort Gordon, GA. We only been dating for three months (Four, on the 25th). But I've known him since I was 14 (I'm 19 now). Everything in our relationship happened pretty quick. Two weeks after he became my boyfriend he left for basic training :(. So we spent every moment with each other to none at all. He went to basic in Fort Benning,GA. While he was away I wrote him everyday and he did the same. As for phone calls out of all the 10 weeks of him being away I only got four calls. (except for when he was in reception, I got a call everyday) I wasn't too upset with that because his letters and his cards kept me sane. But when I did get a call it was the best 10mins of my life. I sent him pics and cards also, he said it made him keep focus ! There were many nights were I would just stay up and watch the "Homecoming" video (STAY AWAY FROM THEM LOL) I would just cry, and cry, and cry. Some days I would be in the best mood and others weren't so good, but reading his letters made the situation a little better. As for being a Army Girlfriend I wouldn't change it for the world. It has it Ups and Downs but I wouldn't exchange it for any other. Him being away made me realize how strong of a woman I really am, it also made our Love grow so much stronger. That man indeed is the LOVE OF MY LIFE, and no matter how far he is I will forever be by his side supporting every decision.
I was reading a couple stories recently and its crazy how all of us women who have a man in the military feel the EXACT same way. We all go thru at least the same thing, the lonely nights, the sleepless nights etc. I wanted to know what you guys do to keep yourself from going insane while your solider is away ?? If your married what do you do to keep your relationship so strong ? How do you cope in general ? I love giving and receiving advice and just being a listening ear to others. It gets really hard when you dont have anyone to talk to and your friends who dont have a loved one in the military just dont seem to get the full concept. So WE gotta stick together !!

"Missing someone gets easier everyday because even though you are on day further from the last time you saw them, you are one day closer to the next time you will."
Leeyah59 Leeyah59
18-21, F
13 Responses Apr 16, 2012

Today my boyfriend left for basic training it was one of the hardest things I've had to do. We've been together for a year and have a daughter together. She's my motivation to stay strong, I know there's a long road ahead of me and there will be many ups and downs but I am ready. Not being able to have communication with him daily is going to be really tough just him not being here is going to be hard but I know everything will be okay. I'm just gonna trust in God and stay positive. This blog has helped me tonight to stay strong and it's good to know that other people understand what you're going through.

Hey my boyfriend just left for basic yesterday I travelled down to the barricks with said our good byes wev been together for 2 years it's so hard thinking I'm going to here without him he always there when I needed him wed spend half the week together text call everyday my wee hearts breaking how do u on on like this

I am going throughout the exact same situation. I met my bf 2 weeks before he left for basic training and I don't get to talk to him till July and I'm trying to keep sane because he is the love of my life and I don't want anybody else.

Its comforting to know that other girls are going through the same thing as where I live - Bournemouth in the south of England its not an army area so I know only 1 girl whos been through the same. But my fiance is in the infantry so not only is he away for a few months but the infantry can be dangerous. We got a small matching tattoo before he left n we message on fb but I feel so down n lonely without him. Its hard going from txting all the time to one or 2 messages every 24hours. It helps hearing all these girls comments, thank you. But it shows we are strong women n appreciate things more than other couples out of the army do x

Me an My fiancé have been together for 7 years an it never gets any easier every time he goes away he takes my heart with him , he is out for good next year an I can't wait to just be a normal family instead of being a broken one xxx

I'm 18 and me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and he just resently desided he wanted to go to the army he hasn't even left and I am already missing him we haven't been a part seance the day we met 2 years ago how do I mentally get ready to watch him leave??? I don't know how y'all stay so strong but I need to learn quickly!!

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 8 months. He left for basic two days ago, and they've been the most lonely two days of my life. We spent every day together and now I keep checking my phone waiting for a message. When they don't come, it reminds me he's gone. He doesn't get to send letters until 3 weeks in, he is in Oklahoma right now as I'm in Idaho. It's weird, and stressful. But absence makes the heart grow fonder, right?

My boyfriend and I have been best friends since we were 13. When I was 15 I moved from MI to KY but we always stayed in touch I'm 20 now and we've been dating for about 6 months. He left for basic yesterday, and after 6 months of long distance and as many breaks as my college schedule would allow, this transition has been so hard. It hurts me to not know what he's dealing with and whether or not he's okay. He is such a strong and stable person, but this first day not talking to him for the first time in over a year has been so hard. I appreciate just knowing that there are so many people out there who know what this is like. If anyone else has any advice to offer, that would be so great. Thank you.

Hey just read your story and just like you I me and my boyfriend started dating about 3 months ago and we have fallen head over heals for each other. Sometimes I feel like Im about to lose my mind with so many thoughts of how to cope with this distance. We do however communicate with each other everyday through skype and phone calls. And yes I agree with friends not understanding how hard it is because their not in our shoes.

I read your story and your righ. Nobody understands but us. Especially when friends ask me how i do this. I cant explain it. Its so sweet that he wrote u all through out basic. But the feeling is worse when hes not safe here at home. This is just the begining...things will get harder but its true wht they say...distance makes u closer.

I agree, Distance does make you closer but it could also bring people apart. Being with a military man has just made me stronger as a person and I'm glad for that

Your right , some people just cant handle it, but if you truly care about somebody, even more love them,.. then distance is just an obstacle to overcome. not an end to it.

Yay! I'd love to stay in touch!! :)

I keep in touch with my boyfriends sister, that helps alot!! I also started a count down till i see home next, talk as often as possible, i wear his hoodie to bed everynight too!! I started a journal that i write in when im having a hard day, i also talk to alot of ladies on here too!! I tell myself that my soldier needs me to be army strong too!!! Please feel free to pm me if you need to talk to someone or anything!

Yea, I see that being close to your soldiers family makes you cope really well. Im going to try that journal thing sounds pretty cool. Thanks :)

My boyfriend of 7 yrs starts basic training tomorrow he will b gone for seven weeks he will come bk for two days then b gone for seven weeks again. I don't no how the hell I'm going to cope with him gone, we live together so going from seeing him every day to not seeing him is going to b so hard. I just want to cry.

Hi, My boyfriend and I dated for two months niw and he just deployed a few weeks ago from Fort Hood. It's been really difficult to cope with. If you don't mind, please write to me and share any advice.

I have to agree with everything ladyfloyd5 says!! I feel like I can connect with you so well! I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years, and I am 18. He is gone and its so hard. It helps (if you are close with his family) to hangout with them, call his mom up. I wouldn't have been able to get thru all I have so far without her. Also, I find myself saying Stay Strong, Stay Occupied." almost everyday along with "One day closer" Those are alot of help. Spraying his cologne on my pillows, blankets, wearing his favorite sweater, just makes me feel closer to him, silly I know. The hardest part I think is not having people who know we feel. None of my close friends will ever understand how it is, and how you are just excited to get a letter, or a 3 min phone call. It is really nice having this to talk to people, who get it and understand it and are just as crazy as you are for loving an army man :) if you ever need to talk, vent, anything! Don't hesitate to talk to me as well!

I feel like I connect with alot of women who go thru the same thing we are going thru, and Im glad I have other people who understands. I just added you. So I will be keeping in touch :) !!