Melly's Story

Hello my name is Melly, my boyfriend is leaving to the navy this summer. please don't judge me as i won't judge you. He is in PA currently and he is getting ready to leave. He asked me to wait for him, i don't know if i could.... it's a whole 9 months without him. All the feelings are there and he loves i know he does, But the thing is I don't know if i can wait.... I've waited before in the past and it  ended terribly, i'm afraid to make another mistake. I tried talking to him about it, he said that he is mine no matter what, i just can't seem to make this decision because i don't want to hurt him or hurt myself, mostly him. What if within those 9 moths i meet someone else? it's possible and i just don't know what to do. I love him and all but i couldn't wait that long. Does anyone have advice for me? i'd love to hear it.

melly2593 melly2593
2 Responses May 16, 2012

I know what you mean, I am worried about that also but I know I want to be with my soldier. If you know you want to be with him... you will know whats best and you will know you cant be without him. I also make sure I do not put my self in a position to jepordize our relationship, meaning going to parties, getting drunk, etc.. I dont want to cheat on him so I will avoid all situations. Being away from your significant other is really hard, I appreciate the advice you gave to me. I know you know what you want just think about it. 9 months is a very long time, but I tell myself everyday one more day down instead of thinking how many more to go. Its gone by sorta fast and if you communicate with him a lot it really helps soooo much. I hope I helped you out and if you need anything I am here :) take care!!

I tried long distance once before and it jsut didn't work. Now with my soldier everything is fine. Sure it's very difficult but we make it work. I feel that distance works when it's the right person. Think about what you want and what's best for you. Sometimes that's a difficult decision but it's always necessary