Will Our Relationship Get Stronger?

So my boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months, he left 6 days ago for basic training, I didn't know it was going to hurt this bad until it actually hit me. I'm so happy when I'm with him, I tell him I love him about every 10 seconds when we are together and I mean if every time. I have a crazy phobia, that when something scares me or worries me I don't stop thinking about it and negative thoughts won't leave my mind. I haven't got to talk to him in a few days, and where we can't see each other or talk to each other I'm really scared that it's just going to make us drift away from each other, I love him I really do. More than anything. But I feel that not being able to talk to him, and I'm so used to talking to him everyday and seeing him everyday, that it'll just make us feel distant and I'm scared it won't be the same as it was before he left. I have two friends that have a boyfriend in the army and they both said they felt the same way but it got better and it made them stronger. Is this true? How can I stop worrying about this?
Thecaptainn Thecaptainn
3 Responses May 20, 2012

I know exactly how you feel. Me and my boyfriend have been kinda rocky within the last month and I feel like he's changed so much since he's left. However, I do love him very much and I've never been so in love with someone in my life. I'm just waiting until he returns home so we can talk over it in person and lay things on the table. What I'm trying to say, is if this happens to you in the time that he's away, don't stress about it like I have been and think about positive things. Just wait until he gets home to talk it over. But, you are older than I am so things may be different with your relationship, which i'm sure it will be. :) Keep your head up and hang out with your girlfriends to pass the time.. Also remember that absence makes the heart grow fonder ;) Good luck!

Me and my soldiers relationship was very rocky when he went in.. But we ended up much stronger than we ever were before....it will try you & youll miss him but it will strengthen ur relationship in a powerful way. write him every chance you get and savor every moment you have with him, and when he graduates basic and u see him for that first time.. Its undescribable! Goodluck... welcome to the family of Army Girls :)

Hey there! First off, I know what you're going through. My bf and I had only been dating for 3 months when he left for basic. And I was just about as worried as you were that we would fall apart, or grow distant, and everything like that. In my experience though, it DID make our relationship stronger. I wrote to him everyday, and he wrote me as much as he could. It's hard, really hard for sure. But it's definitely an experience I wouldn't change for the world. I would just try to think positive, and write as much as you can. The first few weeks are the hardest for sure. But soon time will be flying by, and you'll get to see him again! I would definitely try to go to his graduation from basic though, it means a lot and I'm sure he'd love to see you as well. I hope that helps, and if you ever want someone to talk to send me a message or something :)