I Miss Him

My boyfriend proposed to me two hours before I said goodbye for his basic training in Fort Benning. It's now three days later. I am so lonely without him. Does anyone know how I can make time pass by faster. I just miss him so much. All I do is think of him. I stopped crying, everything is settling in and I feel a great responsibility to be strong for him. I know that my love for him is becoming greater with each second passing by. The people I talk to say they understand, but I don't think they do. Its gut wrenching. Oh, how I miss him, oh so much.
TucksGirl TucksGirl
22-25, F
6 Responses May 24, 2012

thank you so much. I know no one can even begin to prepare me for watching everything good in my life leave me behind. And tells me everyday if he could just take me with him and hide me under his cot at basic he would haha.......can you imagine. I just felt alone. But I know there are so many girls now that are going through the same thing. I hold him every minute I can. And he tells me I'm so strong for being there for him. And tells me to finish college, and take care of his dog, and love his family the way he would if he wasn't gone. I know I need to be strong. Hold it together. I believe in myself.

My fiance leaves for basic in 8 days.....I'm so scarred of missing him.

You will miss him, I can promise you that. If you truly love him... this is what it feels like for me, it feels like he ripped out my heart and took it with him when he walked away. Its the worst feeling ever, but nothing makes me happier than being with him. I feel so honored to be with a man like that. I am more proud of us as a couple than I have ever been before. The thing is. they will be busy at basic. They will have to do what they have to do. I promise you he will be thinking of you at night and in the morning, and that you will always be on his mine. This is what my army lover told me on his first phone call. He said baby, I know you worry and it hurts more than ever not to talk to you, but you being strong makes me strong. I know that us girls are not the soldiers here, but I feel like I'm becoming a soldier with each minute passing by. You've got to be strong. You can't afford any weakness. I tell myself that everyday. I have to, I'v got to have his back no matter what decisions he makes. He's the love of my life and I'll do whatever it takes to be with him, even if that means that I will cry myself to sleep every night missing him. Hearing his voice was so worth every tear. His voice is so heavenly to me. Don't be scared, and no matter how hard you prepare, when it comes it comes. There will be nothing you can do but face it and be strong or walk away. You are the backbone to this man. Remember that every time you get scared.

My boyfriend is just now nearing his last three weeks in basic. I've made the time pass faster by keeping busy doing things that occupy my mind. Before you know it that day will be here that he comes home again. And trust me, it gets easier to deal with as you get used to it being the way it is. If you need to talk to someone you can feel free to message me.

I honestly don't think that anything can make time pass faster, and I don't think that I'll ever stop crying for his return home to me. But I am doing it because that is my promise and my loyalty to my soldier.

I agree completely! It's like it doesn't really hit you until you ACTUALLY have to say goodbye! My boyfriend's been at basic for a while but it really doesn't get much easier. The only form of communication is mail unless they're issued a call but that's ridiculously RARE :/ My boyfriend left me a video recorded on my phone and I'm so thankful for it! If you think you listen to it often right now, wait to see in a couple of days! Lol I listen to it literally EVERY night <3 If you have an iPhone, or maybe any sort of smart phone, I recommend getting the countdown "Big Day Lite" It's simple to use and reliable! And if you ever need anyone to talk to you can send me a message (:

I thank you so much for your support. I just thought I would be ready, until he left. Then I became devastated. Was the happiest moment of my life when he proposed, and the worst moment of my life when he left two hours later. You sound like me, already started writing him letters - although I am still waiting for an address. He left me a video recorded message on my phone that I continuously play just to hear his voice...

I know how you feel. Are you near his family at all? Spending time with them will help. That's what I'm going to do. My boyfriend also just left for basic yesterday. Books will help. Watch his favorite movies or start looking into the Army find stuff out about it. It's gonna be tough being away from them. Write letters to him, I already have 10 written already but I can't send them until I get his address. That's what I do when I can't sleep. I found this site last night because I am missing him like crazy. I have already sunk to the level that I call his phone just hear his voice on his voice mail. I've already have a count down to when he supposedly will get back. 181 days, 20 hours and 15 minutes and some odd seconds. To be exactish. But if you need someone to talk to feel free to leave me a message. There are a bunch of us that are in the same situation. But There isnothing quite like a soldier's love. It's the best love there is.